To be furious about inevitable menopause

"affecting" is the key word. The 10% will be those who are symptomatic.

Are you mixing up prolapse with vaginal atrophy / dryness? Because they very much not the same thing.

As someone who has negative and severe symptoms I think you are being very over-dramatic here!!

Many women do find that menopause doesn't cause them any issues at all. Their periods stop and that's it. Lucky them. It's not a foregone conclusion and the fact that you are aware of what could happen means that you are likely to recognise the cause of your symptoms and treat accordingly. Part of the reason I was so bad was because I didn't recognise what was causing my symptoms even though i'd had a hysterectomy, and neither did multiple GPs. Now I'm medicated, I'm fine.

I went on HRT at the first minor sign. I’m mid 50s and feel great. I met a 90 year old the other day who’s been on HRT since she was 50 and she is living her best life! Definitely don’t lose sleep over worrying about it before it happens!

That’s not what the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists says:

• Pelvic organ prolapse is common, affecting 1 in 10 women over the age of 50 years. Mild prolapse often causes no symptoms and treatment is not always necessary.

Respect!

I'm 47, I've had on/off insomnia for probably a decade, and I had awful periods for 2 years before having the mirena coil. Had that 2 years ago and barely have periods at all now. So far nothing else too terrible.....it might start to be horrendous tomorrow, but so far, life is ok...

I only had hot flushes

Because decreased estrogen levels can cause a weakened pelvic floor. 50% of women aged 50-75 will have a prolapse.

Why would you have a prolapse with the menopause??? 🤷‍♀️ Just ask for HRT.
Hrt was a miracle for me. Gave me high libido.
Energy. Lovely skin / nails/ hair.
Wish l could have stayed on it forever.

I’m 46 and I don’t give it a second thought. Every other bugger does though, it’s all you ever hear about.

When I was 40/41, loads of people tried to convince me that I was having perimenopause symptoms. I get like shit, brain fog all the time, tired, horrendous anxiety, periods were haywire. What was actually happening was that I was 15 stone overweight (yes, 15), ate junk food all day long and drank too much. I knew that’s why I felt awful and my hormones were all over the place. But the gaslighting was insane. My dr even said I should start to consider HRT (no, I was just fat and unhealthy).

I lost all the weight, cleaned up my act, stopped drinking and magically, I felt wonderful and my periods have been back to clockwork ever since.

They're not wrong. About 50% of women will experience a prolapse in their lifetime.

I think these articles etc are a lot to blame. I’m late 30s and my social media is full of crap about Peri menopause. I said it to my mother and she was like “what’s peri menopause. Back in my day it was just menopause and that was it”
it’s everywhere now and part of it is trying to flog products at women I think.

I'm 57 and I've been through it, but had no symptoms really. I think being on the mirena coil for ten years helped. I just carried on having no periods, no hot flushes etc. It's not necessarily terrible for everyone.

You might have a point. I went on the 3 yr implant implant, I am now through menopause, I have pains, I never had hot sweats, I never had any of the symptoms you describe - i might not have anyway, but when I went to my gynae appointment for HRT she only gave me estrogen as the progesterone was covered by the implant.

I have had no brain fog or prolapse - insomnia though

I haven't seen a GP for about 20 years. It's not compulsory to see a doctor about menopause. Just stop catastrophising, and live your life.

Mind you - if you are actually furious - perhaps that’s your first symptom ?

Firstly you don’t know if you will have any symptoms at all - many dont

second you can increase the changes that you don’t have symptoms by making sure you eat well, area healthy weight and exercise

if you do have symptoms ( or if it starts before you ard 50) , try HRT

if all that fails then you can come and moan

Not all women get menopause symptoms.

Why on earth are you furious, OP?
Not everyone has the symptoms you list, so that's your first mistake.
Plus, menopause means freedom - no more periods! Just makes life so much simpler. Honestly, it us just such a blessing.

I sadly had to wait until I was 56, but I was so happy and relieved when I realised that the time had finally come.
You can choose how you approach this - if you maintain a positive attitude, you will have a much better experience.
And don't believe all the relentless negativity online!

Surely prolapse is much more likely to be women who have birthed children? If you’re worried about it then download the Squeezy app and start doing pelvic floor exercises. Probably a good thing to start doing around this age anyway.

But the night is still young!