To be furious about inevitable menopause

This is hopeful but I also sense that hormones are at the root of a lot of misery in this world. I still remember finding that usborne body book as a child and being aghast and no adult being particularly sympathetic but I say it now over 30 years later what the fuck we are supposed to just accept this shit?????

Yeah, damn those pesky hormones for regulating all our important bodily functions so that we actually work as an organism

If you think hormones are unfair, just wait till you learn about mortality.

Agree I feel in the prime of my life!

No periods, anaemia, flooding and exhaustion, pregnancy risk
No giving a shit what men think of me
Whooooooop!!

The mechanically recovered meat industry must have thought all their Christmasses had come at once when some marketing genius came up with the idea for collagen supplements - there's gold in them there eyelids and arseholes!

Same. I'm definitely taken more seriously at work now than I was when I was younger. I'm respected, my opinion is valued and I have much more confidence than I did in my 30s.

I have found the opposite. I am taken way more seriously now than I was as a younger woman and I’ve had a senior role since my 30s.

Trust me, they do. I was taken very seriously so were my contemporaries, to the point where I heard one of them described as scary. There are a lot of take no shit women in my former industry.

MN is truly batshit these days. I remember this thread from last time.

The most powerful women in every industry other than (perhaps) entertainment are post menopausal.

I didn't read it like that. She was offered a shag (from fleabag). She didn't want a shag. She sometimes missed being flirted with so much. The upside of that is that people take you seriously (especially at work). I didn't read it as dismissive at all.

I am the other side of it. Never got brain fog, no prolapses, no violent rages or depression, just lots of hot flushes. People need to stop treating the menopause as a terrible, disabling condition that every woman will suffer.

Direct your anger at the menopause industry where it belongs, op. If the meno ghouls didn't put the fear of god up you, how would they ever get you to buy all their menobrand supplements and associated shit? I wish Davina McCall and her ilk would piss off.

@Thaawtsom honestly I'm wondering if there's anything positive left that we are allowed to say.

I moved a couple of years ago. So that's involved meeting a lot of new people who don't know about my poor health history. I'm almost starting to wonder if I should share it because I think people are irritated when they meet someone who they perceive to have zero health problems.

Younger folk aren't too bad - which may be a factor in the age of my last boyfriend LOL -but if younger women are just storing up rage in advance of menopause, then there's no hope.

Or maybe I've just fallen for one person who fancies making trouble today.

I'm going somewhere sane now. MN is batshit today.

My menopause started at 23 then was full-on at age 27 due to hysterectomy and oopherectomy for endometriosis and adenomyosis.
I've not given birth. It was tough in my 20s and 30s but easier in my 40s. Maybe I'm just used to living with it, I don't know, it's been so long now it's part of my life.

I take Livial as a form of HRT and more recently vaginal oestrogen which has been a real transformation for me with alleviating vag and bladder symptoms. Has reduced my UTIs.

Doing ok career-wise.
Would definitely recommend the vaginal oestrogen.

I hear you OP. 💐

Also loved that scene in Fleabag because it was the first time I'd heard anyone celebrating menopause, which has been my experience of it. It's fucking amazing. (Which is something you don't normally say because clearly many people really struggle with awful symptoms -- but if you have had a shitty time with your periods for whatever reason it can be a blessed releif).

@Fragmentedbrain wait, you're angry about that scene and you were six years ago? Why?!

Don't be taken in by the current media focus on menopause / perimenopause. It's massively overhyped. Women have been doing this forever without Davina McCall's input. Don't overthink it and see what happens. For me it's been the best and most liberating period of my life. The whole 'everything is shit' narrative is not true for everyone and I'd wager that it's not even true for the majority of people. It's hype from people wanting to sell books, supplements, therapies blah blah. Just live through it and take it as it comes, as your probably did through puberty and every other part of your life.

I am furious that I am more likely to get diabetes than a white woman because of my shitty genetic inheritance.

Don't make a statement about something you obviously no nothing about, the menopause can make you very ill, it's debilitating and disabling for many of us that suffer severely.