To be furious about inevitable menopause

Agree, because hormones have been HELLISH.
I was in the big job - had minor brain fog, nothing significant (as noted 8 weeks before the following happened...)
Flashed, flushed and flooded. I worked in a healthcare related role (back office). "Hoped" my employers would understand. They didn't. 15 months later, still can't get a job (they want 35 year olds to mould).
Sorry, that was - and is - negative.
On the positive, I give very few fucks, and am now pursuing my passions. Sadly it pays pence rather than pounds

So true. This is pretty much the same for me.

Apart from the hormonal headaches and the odd warm glow I managed to escape all the other symptoms.

But I know that any bloody moment now the brain fog and anxiety and insomnia and prolapse will come for me and ruin it.
I'm still entitled to be intellectually angry that my brain and professional standing and peaceful relationships will all be taken away from me for no reason.

@Fragmentedbrain not necessarily. Pplease don't assume that it is the same for everyone, and stop catastrophising.

Oh and this is another thing. Every single emotion, physical sensation or bloody food preference is now met with "oh that will be peri!"

And this is what gives us women a bad name. I wish they would bloody well stop blaming everything on their homones.

I’m 46 and I don’t give it a second thought. Every other bugger does though, it’s all you ever hear about.

Yes, it's getting boring now.

It makes no more sense to be angry about menopause than it does about dying-both are inevitable, and on their timetable not yours.
Nor is it inevitable you will get brain fog, anxiety and insomnia- many do, but many get away with a few hot flushes, go on HRT and feel even more on top of the world.
No part of life is fair- you have to roll with it.

I'd suggest you wait and be angry if it happens. In the meantime, you might want to have a think about the consequences of going round saying that older women lose their mental capacity and ability to succeed professionally. Because honestly the last thing we need are any more stereotypes about our supposed inferiority in the workplace.

I'm still entitled to be intellectually angry that my brain and professional standing and peaceful relationships will all be taken away from me for no reason

Honestly this is wild. If this is what you genuinely believe you need to get some help for your mental health.

Being on the pill didn’t stop my menopause symptoms, so don’t take it just for that reason

OP you’re worrying about something that may never happen. Not every woman has a bad menopause experience so there’s a good chance you might get lucky and sail through it.
If you want to prepare I would try and get into healthy lifestyle habits now. The usual advice of healthy diet, exercise and low alcohol intake. Good luck x

My advice would be to do anything you can to delay menopause. I was put into an early chemical menopause after being diagnosed with aggressive breast cancer aged 39. It’s truly awful - the side effects (some from the forced menopause some from my ongoing treatment) are worse than chemo was, and I was on that for almost 3 years in the end! There are days when I feel 80.

So yes, delay it if you can, or take HRT (another thing that will never be available to me), to combat the symptoms.

My advice. Get mirena fitted - mines been fab then gel or estrogen patches.
You don't have to suffer with symptoms.

I couldn’t wait for my meno, not that periods were ever a problem for me. But fucking hell, I’d only ever wish it on my worst enemy. I don’t think I’ve ever been the same since.

Menopause doesn't actually cause your brains to fall out your arse 😂

This is the most uplifting thing I've ever read on here. Thank you!

Menopause doesn't actually cause your brains to fall out your arse, it's all a load of bullshit dreamt up by menovultures to get you to buy their anti brains-falling-out-your-arse snake oil.
Ever seen an orca browsing the menoshit shelves in Boots? Didn't think so. Get on with your life - it'll be over before you know it. Stop wasting your rage on shit that doesn't matter - there's loads of more deserving recipients. Be more orca!

I'm still entitled to be intellectually angry that my brain and professional standing and peaceful relationships will all be taken away from me for no reason

What the fuck are you on about? I’ve been through meno, brain, professional standing and relationships unscathed. You are coming across as mentally ill (as opposed to peri) frankly.

ETA- look at so many high profile professional women, past and present in the world and see if you can use the words ‘brain taken away’ and ‘loss of professional standing’ and then give your head a very big wobble.

I took HRT for two years. Yes I felt more human. Then I had breast cancer left side. Three years later right side. Nobody can say this was caused by the HRT but quite likely according to my GP.

I think you need to calm down OP. You're angry about being a human. Seems pointless and you're missing out on a lot of joy and fun you could be having instead.

It’s not “post menopausal women” that are not taken seriously - partly because that can be anytime between 40 and 60

its old women that people don’t like

I’m 43 too and started to feel perimenopausal rage recently. I’m taking Evening Primrose oil which isn’t a long term fix but seems to be helping.

Do you not take post menopausal women seriously? It sounds as though you have some internalised misogyny if so. These are the people with the most experience and expertise.

This is bonkers. Why do you think that? I am post menopausal and my brain and professional standing are better than ever. I didn't notice any difference. My best work has been done post menopause.

I can’t wait to stop my period. I’m definitely in peri menopause but it’s been fine

🤣🤣🤣

It affects everyone differently. Quite like periods. Some women sail through them, others don’t. Some women find motherhood easy others don’t. Nothing you can do really. If it’s bad, it’s very bad. I take HRT got to the stage where I couldn’t leave the house I had become so paranoid. Just luck of the draw I’m afraid.

I also sense that hormones are at the root of a lot of misery in this world
You'd be considerably more dead without them