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To ask when your looks started to fade?

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Triviall · 14/06/2025 16:33

Feeling a bit depressed, I split up with my ex a year ago (I’m 35 now) and worrying that he had all my best years and I will never find anybody because I am old.

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LuvACustardCream · 14/06/2025 17:04

Late 50s and I think I look better now than I did when I was younger. This idea that only young women are attractive is ridiculous

Mischance · 14/06/2025 17:04

I am 76! I have dark brown hair with no grey and I have no wrinkles at all. Both family traits and inherited from either side of the family. I chose wisely!

But I would happily have a head of grey hair and a faceful of wrinkles to have my late OH back and to not be in pain.

Never satisfied, me!

ninjahamster · 14/06/2025 16:57

About aged 45, Ive changed quite dramatically, really old and ugly now.

Harrysarseinthedogbowl · 14/06/2025 16:56

DramaAlpaca · 14/06/2025 16:37

I'm 61, and I'm still gorgeous too😊

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I'm 65 and more gorgeous than either of you youngsters.

Jojimoji · 14/06/2025 16:49

You're 35!!!!
Go and stand in front of a mirror and repeat after me "I am gorgeous, I am in my prime, I have the best yet to come"

You're just going through a low period.
It'll pass.
At 35 you've years and years of fabulousness ahead of you. X

Disturbia81 · 14/06/2025 16:48

BalladOfBarryAndFreda · 14/06/2025 16:39

Well, as I'm early/mid 40's, I'm no longer in the first flush of youth but there's a shit load more to me than my face and body. I'm sure the same is true of you.

As for being too old to find a new relationship, that's clearly nonsense. People in their 80's and 90's find new love and get married. There's definitely hope for a 35 year old!

Yep my mum was getting propositioned in her 70s and my grandma found love in her 80s, and infact was the happiest she’d been.

BIossomtoes · 14/06/2025 16:48

DramaAlpaca · 14/06/2025 16:37

I'm 61, and I'm still gorgeous too😊

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Beat you both, I’m 71 and still got it!

Seriously @Triviall I was 43 when I met my bloke and he told me I was the most beautiful woman he’d ever met, he still tells me that. We live in a society obsessed with youth but I can honestly say I looked better in my 40s than I did in my 20s. Looks don’t fade, they change.

ohyesido · 14/06/2025 16:47

I wish I was 35! I’m 43 now and can only dream of being 35

Disturbia81 · 14/06/2025 16:46

NiLunNiLautre · 14/06/2025 16:42

You’re not old, you’re young! And guess what, men get older too, even single ones.

I’m happy enough with how I look at 56 TBH, except for my craggy neck.
Suppose it helps that I’m happily married.

Exactly, men are alongside us.

ThePoshUns · 14/06/2025 16:45

53 and still fabulous

rainbowunicorn · 14/06/2025 16:44

This is really sad to read. Do you really guage your self worth on how you look? You have your whole life ahead of you.

Disturbia81 · 14/06/2025 16:44

I’m 44 and feel better lookswise than I ever have. You are too young to feel like this, though I don’t think anyone should but yeah you need to work on your confidence and do some self care.

NiLunNiLautre · 14/06/2025 16:42

You’re not old, you’re young! And guess what, men get older too, even single ones.

I’m happy enough with how I look at 56 TBH, except for my craggy neck.
Suppose it helps that I’m happily married.

Almostwelsh · 14/06/2025 16:42

Menopause

wastingtimeonhere · 14/06/2025 16:41

Never a 'looker' to start but definitely started aging rapidly in last 3 years..now 58. Thanks menopause! I am active, do sports, walk 20k plus steps daily. Struggling to shift middle spread, saggy skin, jowls. < sigh>

BalladOfBarryAndFreda · 14/06/2025 16:39

Well, as I'm early/mid 40's, I'm no longer in the first flush of youth but there's a shit load more to me than my face and body. I'm sure the same is true of you.

As for being too old to find a new relationship, that's clearly nonsense. People in their 80's and 90's find new love and get married. There's definitely hope for a 35 year old!

WordleForWordle · 14/06/2025 16:38

Around 47. I am now in my early 50s. Luckily, I was never naturally beautiful though scrubbed up okay. My identity was much more around my brains and my job rather than my looks. I think that’s why it’s all been easier for me. I still make an effort, I dress well and am slim etc but things have definitely changed, when I look in the mirror!

DramaAlpaca · 14/06/2025 16:37

Saltedcarameltiramisucheesecake · 14/06/2025 16:35

I'm 62, still gorgeous 😍

I'm 61, and I'm still gorgeous too😊

TheWisePlumDuck · 14/06/2025 16:36

Around 8 years old.

According to my late evil grandmother anyway.

Thedogscollar · 14/06/2025 16:36

At 35 you are not old. Relationships should not be based on looks alone. If they are they won't work.
Cheer up and enjoy your youth.

hedgerunner · 14/06/2025 16:36

I’m 42 and I don’t think my looks have faded. I look better now than what I did at 30. Mainly due to losing weight, weight training, more money and time to invest in skincare.

Canshehavewaferthinham · 14/06/2025 16:35

Not yet-43. I work out a lot and have botox.

Saltedcarameltiramisucheesecake · 14/06/2025 16:35

I'm 62, still gorgeous 😍

greencartbluecart · 14/06/2025 16:35

Firstly you ard not old

secondly you don’t have to have looks to find someone who likes you -you the person as opposed to you the container. What matters is a deep connection and relationship built on shred values and interests

REDB99 · 14/06/2025 16:35

I’m 45 and can now see a difference from the 35 year old me. I have a very young looking face anyway but the lines around the eyes when I smile are my biggest bug bear.