Puppy dilemma - it’s not her, it’s us

That's the whole point of her question - should the dog go to a more deserving family.

I think the OP is really brave in being honest.

@neverwakeasleepingpuppy you are only human. So many people get a dog or other pet and realise, actually it's not the right thing. But not all of them check that they can go back to the breeder.

People on here have been incredibly mean. The older I get the more I see, humans are not allowed to make mistakes without a barrage of online abuse. Your puppy seems very well cared for. Your breeder sounds perfect. You are a normal human. Parenting is hard - you need to put your family first as the dog will be ok. You're not asking if you should be putting it to sleep! People are dog mad. Don't get me wrong, I love animals, I have pets but if I made a mistake I would hope I wouldn't be demonised in owning up to it. Please give yourself some love. Give your pup a hug. And think about what to do away from all these keyboard warriors.

Also, having a daughter with allergies is no joke.

From one mum to the next - you got this.

Be kind people.

Yeah, I suspect it’s just a mate whose dog (bitch) got knocked up, not a professional breeder. I don’t feel like a real breeder would have sold the puppy to someone who was so clearly not that invested. Normally you have to jump through hoops to prove yourself.

Send her back.
she’s just a dog, another family might be better.

nothing wrong with you. Good for you making the honest decision,

Dogs can/do make you home dirty.

Adore her? After TEO WEEKS? She never stood a chance and you definitely didn’t think this through before you got her. She’s had 2 weeks to prove her worth and she’s not passed the test. Absolutely irresponsible on your part. Please stay pet free.

It’s very much a good breeder. A bad one wouldn’t entertain returning a puppy.

Totally agree it’s not to be taken lightly, it’s a responsibility to not let them down again. But in my experience of almost 40 rescue dogs now? I’d say 25% have trotted into my house with zero issues. Happy dogs, shit background, hasn’t affected them. At all. Probably a further 70% have some relatively minor issues. Resource guarding or fear based behaviours or avoidance. All very manageable and totally resolved with time and a bit of effort. End up as “normal” dogs in a year or so, give or take.
The remaining 5%? Massive amount of effort, baby steps, one step forward, two steps back, will probably always need special measures. For me? All totally worth it. But honestly, I would rather these dogs didn’t exist and if irresponsible people stopped buying puppies they hadn’t actually thought about? They wouldn’t. Dogs do not get to choose the life they have. Nor the effect it has on them.

When you take on an animal you make the commitment to try and provide it with the best life it can possibly have, for the duration of that life, be in 15 to 20 years. You don't ever get one on a whim, without considering the responsibility and commitment.

Please take it back and don't ever get any more animals.

I very much doubt this is a good breeder. They're taking the puppy back because it's a family friend. OP won't answer questions about what breed it is.

This makes me so sad. A dog is such a source of joy and unconditional love. That precious pup deserves a family who absolutely adores her.

This. A dog is for life. You aren't ready for one and may never be. That's not a bad thing just a fact

I’m actually going against the grain and would say you are still in the trenches at 2 weeks in, perhaps give it time? I have two, four month old puppies. Two weeks into ownership and it was the hardest thing I had ever done and one of them I did not bond with. Now (ive had them 2 months), I absolutely adore them, especially the one I didn’t bond with! Give it time OP….

Send the poor dog back as soon as possible, you are clearly not a dog person.

I think you and the kids aren't pretty excited by the cute puppy in the first couple of weeks it's probably not going to get much better. I think if the breeder can place with someone else then I would give the puppy back. Frankly I think that is the kindest thing for all involved and I don't know why you're getting such a hard time here.

Better to admit you made a mistake now and hand her back rather than wait until she’s 6-8 months, going through the equivalent of the doggy teenage spell.
We’ve got dogs, I’ve never adored them from the off if they were pups, in fact I prefer older dogs to pups (which is why many of. Our dogs have been adult rescues) however we’ve always gone into getting whichever dog with eyes wide open and fully aware of the work involved.
You’re not an awful person, you thought a situation would be better then it is in reality and you are doing the responsible thing by returning her.
Dogs are a tie, they have to be considered in every situation and you have to be fully committed yourself (most kids bin off doggy chores once the novelty has worn off).

I disagree on your point on rescues. The dogs in rescues often display more difficult behaviours. Not because they are “bad” dogs but often because of earlier life experiences that have caused them to become anxious, reactive etc. Hopefully with lots of time, care and patience these dogs can have happy lives but it’s not something to be taken lightly. We rescued a puppy, traumatised by irresponsible breeders. We love her but it’s been very hard and expensive, and still a long way to go.

They’ve already said they aren’t going to get a dog again.

Despite growing up in a dog-mad (and dog breeding) household, I am at best indifferent to dogs. I would not dream of getting one ever, it would be totally unfair on the dog. I may not like them but I would not want them to suffer from lack of proper love.

oh FFS just pointing out that its not compulsory to have pets.

She’s going back to the breeder and she’s way too young to be spayed.

I am not slating at all, just pointed out that its is not compulsory to have pets.

What are you asking on here?
Give her back to the breeder now! She should not be kept in your family.
The sooner the better!!

This. Good to recognise the mistake - now do what is best your your puppy

Please give her back. She deserves better, and like you said, it’s not her, it’s you. She needs an owner who knows dogs aren’t accessories you return when you lose interest. 🙄

The allergy thing can take a while. I knew a family who got a lovely dog from rescue. Toddler took about a week to show the allergy. I guess if the house starts from dander free, it takes a while for the amount to build up to trigger point, also there is a length of time exposure element. The thing with the allergy is that its not just the hair, its not hair and dander, the allergen is in the animal's saliva as well. There is also no such thing as hypoallergenic dog, its just that not all allergic people are allergic to all dogs.