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Puppy dilemma - it’s not her, it’s us

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neverwakeasleepingpuppy · 14/06/2025 15:45

Brought home a gorgeous 2 month puppy two weeks ago; the kids wanted one for years, DP and I are mildly pro-dog, thought it’d be great for us as a family, everyone says they’re great, unconditional love blah blah.

Being fair, she’s a perfect puppy so far - quickly getting the crate and toilet training and is now sleeping through from 11-7am, minimal accidents in the house. Hard work but manageable.

We are the problem - despite her gorgeousness, we are all a little meh. DD2 seems to be allergic; puffy eyes and sneezing. The kids have zero interest - spent maybe 30mins with her since she landed. DP and I are enjoying her somewhat but also my OCD is going through the roof, googling amputees from dog licks etc.

Am interested to hear others views on this as I think it’s a case of it’s not her, it’s us …. the breeder is fine to take her back as she has a waiting list for an adorable puppy who is mostly trained! Just wondering if it’s fairer all around to do this?

OP posts:
BettyButterBum · 14/06/2025 15:53

Take the puppy back to the breeder ASAP. If you're feeling "meh" about such a young, helpless puppy, are unable to reciprocate the unconditional love it will already feel towards you, your home is not a suitable place for it to be. Send it on its way to a family who will adore it.

Lightuptheroom · 14/06/2025 15:53

Give her back to the breeder, you're being honest that you made a mistake, now rectify that mistake quickly before your pup ends up in a rescue.

Clychaugog · 14/06/2025 15:50

A 11 week old puppy is not mostly trained.

Training is intense and at times soul destroying. "Meh" won't be enough.

Hand her back now so she gets the best chance with another family who will train and adore her.

PrepStarRunner · 14/06/2025 15:50

Contact your breeder and return the pup. Never, ever get a pet for the kids. Only get one of you are prepared to take care of yourself.

vivainsomnia · 14/06/2025 15:48

What do you want us to say? It sounds like you've gone into it totally unprepared, for the wrong reasons (entertaining the kids), and then realised they are not just a toy but a bring that requires almost as much attention than a child.

This is exactly why there exist a slogan that says that dogs are not just for Christmas!

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 15:48

You got a dog but you were only “mildly keen to.

OP this is so unreasonable that I reckon you’re making this up

Beetletweetle · 14/06/2025 15:47

Send her back as soon as possible so she can go to a decent family and never get another animal again.

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