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Men with hands down the front of their trousers

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youworkedhard · 14/06/2025 15:44

Am I being unreasonable in thinking this is absolutely disgusting and unhygienic. I keep seeing young men out in public with one hand inside their trousers and very obviously on their dicks. My husband thinks it’s disgusting too and I rate his opinion.

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Petitchat · 14/06/2025 16:30

youworkedhard · 14/06/2025 16:12

No need for the sarcasm. I think what I meant was it wasn’t me being sensitive.

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Ignore the sarcasm OP.

I knew exactly what you meant.
I would find my DH's opinion interesting too, from a male perspective.

And yeah, it is absolutely gross and I wonder if they touch DW and DC straight afterwards?
Can't imagine that type of man washing his hands every five minutes, can you?

NiLunNiLautre · 14/06/2025 16:28

I had only read about this on here and thought people were exaggerating or just making too much of some lad innocently adjusting himself or something until recently I was town and I saw some late teens at it. It’s disgusting.

I can’t fathom quite why they do it. It’s not attractive or impressive or threatening, just gross.

HangryLikeTheHulk · 14/06/2025 16:25

I’ve never seen this. Was it a pauper ?

minipie · 14/06/2025 16:24

My point was that it’s not just a female viewpoint that isn’t disgusting.

Even if it was “just” a female viewpoint - that’s still valid.

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:23

youworkedhard · 14/06/2025 16:18

You are so wrong but I’m not going to waste any more time trying to convince you.

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op
yes it’s disgusting
yes you come across as a bit in awe of your husband and think we should be the same we are categorically not in awe of your husband’

Hallywally · 14/06/2025 16:21

It’s revolting and offensive.

ArtTheClown · 14/06/2025 16:21

There was a thread here where someone photographed one of the filthy fuckers doing it, and people were outraged at her violatiion of a young man's right to privacy.
Personally, I think if you want privacy to play with your dick, you should do it at home.

drspouse · 14/06/2025 16:18

There was a man washing under his swim trunks at the pool (open showers). I had a loud word with him and others were making faces. He claimed it wasn't possible to wash properly without doing this and I told him to shower at home then.
Front desk staff weren't impressed either but didn't appear to have any solution.

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youworkedhard · 14/06/2025 16:18

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:16

I think that yes, you would actually think that you were being unreasonable to think he was being disgusting if you husband had said it was fine

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You are so wrong but I’m not going to waste any more time trying to convince you.

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MemorableTrenchcoat · 14/06/2025 16:18

youworkedhard · 14/06/2025 16:12

No need for the sarcasm. I think what I meant was it wasn’t me being sensitive.

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I would have thought most women, and a good proportion of men, find it unpleasant. It’s worth noting, of course, that there are far, far more unhealthy bacteria in our mouths than on the skin of a penis.

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:16

youworkedhard · 14/06/2025 16:15

What do you think. Honestly I give up.

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I think that yes, you would actually think that you were being unreasonable to think he was being disgusting if you husband had said it was fine

DoctorRoseReturns · 14/06/2025 16:15

It was the trademark of a former inmate at one point

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youworkedhard · 14/06/2025 16:15

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:14

So if your husband had said it was fine…. You’d have no longer thought disgusting?

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What do you think. Honestly I give up.

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Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:14

youworkedhard · 14/06/2025 16:14

Yes they were wearing a top. Walking dog, no woman with a pram.

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American xl?

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:14

youworkedhard · 14/06/2025 16:12

No need for the sarcasm. I think what I meant was it wasn’t me being sensitive.

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So if your husband had said it was fine…. You’d have no longer thought disgusting?

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youworkedhard · 14/06/2025 16:14

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:05

I’d bet they aren’t wearing a top either
And wondering around town with a woman pushing a buggy, with child slugging a coke.

I know it’s not PC, but I’d bet a lot on it

Yes they were wearing a top. Walking dog, no woman with a pram.

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Judiezones · 14/06/2025 16:13

Usually they're wearing those awful track suit bottoms that slip down and show their bums/underpants and have tight ankle cuffs. I call them "no self-respect trousers".

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youworkedhard · 14/06/2025 16:12

MemorableTrenchcoat · 14/06/2025 16:06

A man has clarified it, you say? Well, that settles it then.

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No need for the sarcasm. I think what I meant was it wasn’t me being sensitive.

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terracelane23 · 14/06/2025 16:12

It’s grim. I used to teach teenage boys. They’re constantly shuffling things around down there.

Lizzbear · 14/06/2025 16:10

I’ve seen it too. Couldn’t believe my eyes. I thought I was imagining it. WTF

Judiezones · 14/06/2025 16:10

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:05

I’d bet they aren’t wearing a top either
And wondering around town with a woman pushing a buggy, with child slugging a coke.

I know it’s not PC, but I’d bet a lot on it

and eating a pasty out of a paper bag

Ambaallen4 · 14/06/2025 16:10

Its disgusting.

I was literally private tutoring an adult male and he started "adjusting himself", while sitting next to me. I could tell that he was aroused and he was touching himself because of that. I refused to work with him again.

Really, we should report these guys to the police. I dont cuz i get scared i wont be believed. Its his word against mine. No cameras.

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:10

A man has clarified that it’s unacceptable.

so it’s gospel then.

SummerEve · 14/06/2025 16:08

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:05

I’d bet they aren’t wearing a top either
And wondering around town with a woman pushing a buggy, with child slugging a coke.

I know it’s not PC, but I’d bet a lot on it

Or even better, an energy drink.

MemorableTrenchcoat · 14/06/2025 16:06

youworkedhard · 14/06/2025 15:50

I don’t need my husband to confirm my thought process. My point was that it’s not just a female viewpoint that isn’t disgusting. A man has clarified that it’s unacceptable. I don’t know any man that would think this is ok.

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A man has clarified it, you say? Well, that settles it then.