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Men with hands down the front of their trousers

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youworkedhard · 14/06/2025 15:44

Am I being unreasonable in thinking this is absolutely disgusting and unhygienic. I keep seeing young men out in public with one hand inside their trousers and very obviously on their dicks. My husband thinks it’s disgusting too and I rate his opinion.

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MemorableTrenchcoat · 14/06/2025 17:08

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 17:06

So what would you report to the police?!! You said you’d want to report it to the police but you’re too nice!!

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Your confusing me with another poster, I said no such thing.

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 17:07

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Niceduck · 14/06/2025 17:06

MemorableTrenchcoat · 14/06/2025 17:05

Acceptable, yes. Perhaps not ideal, and I certainly wouldn’t consider it masturbation.

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So what would you report to the police?!! You said you’d want to report it to the police but you’re too nice!!

ExercicenformedeZ · 14/06/2025 17:06

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 17:04

But I was talking about you saying you want to report to the police.

for what? For the possibility he is masturbating?

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You again. Under a different name, but we all know who you are. Just put a sock in it, why don't you!?

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 17:05

Ambaallen4 · 14/06/2025 17:00

Having a hand down his trousers and fumbling his penis for whatever reason in public, is indecent behaviour.

As you can see, many women on this thread feel upset when they see men doing it

You never see women in public, sticking their hand down the front of their skirt, and touching their vagina for whatever reason. People would be horrified.

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Ok so….

you think hand down the trouser walking along is an offence. But you don’t report this offence because you’re “too nice” and don’t want to “ruin his life”

correct?

MemorableTrenchcoat · 14/06/2025 17:05

Ambaallen4 · 14/06/2025 17:02

I think its indecent for him to have his hand down his trousers, touching his penis for ANY reason in public, yes.

No reason is acceptable.

If you saw a woman walking down the road, stop stick her hand down the front of her skirt, and touch her vagina. Would you think it is acceptable?

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Acceptable, yes. Perhaps not ideal, and I certainly wouldn’t consider it masturbation.

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 17:04

Ambaallen4 · 14/06/2025 17:02

I think its indecent for him to have his hand down his trousers, touching his penis for ANY reason in public, yes.

No reason is acceptable.

If you saw a woman walking down the road, stop stick her hand down the front of her skirt, and touch her vagina. Would you think it is acceptable?

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But I was talking about you saying you want to report to the police.

for what? For the possibility he is masturbating?

Ambaallen4 · 14/06/2025 17:02

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:58

Ok so to be clear

whenever you see a man walking down the street, say like the Op with his dog, and one hand down his trousers…. You think he’s masturbating?

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I think its indecent for him to have his hand down his trousers, touching his penis for ANY reason in public, yes.

No reason is acceptable.

If you saw a woman walking down the road, stop stick her hand down the front of her skirt, and touch her vagina. Would you think it is acceptable?

Ambaallen4 · 14/06/2025 17:00

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:52

masturbating in public is a crime; it is indecent behaviour.

walking along with your hand down your trousers is unsightly and gross but not a crime

however you seem to think the two inevitably go hand in hand

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Having a hand down his trousers and fumbling his penis for whatever reason in public, is indecent behaviour.

As you can see, many women on this thread feel upset when they see men doing it

You never see women in public, sticking their hand down the front of their skirt, and touching their vagina for whatever reason. People would be horrified.

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:58

Ambaallen4 · 14/06/2025 16:57

The man in your scenario IS masturbating in all likelihood. He is touching himself

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Ok so to be clear

whenever you see a man walking down the street, say like the Op with his dog, and one hand down his trousers…. You think he’s masturbating?

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:57

Petitchat · 14/06/2025 16:55

hand in hand

🤣 🤣

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😆

Ambaallen4 · 14/06/2025 16:57

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:51

So if you think this person is masturbating in public, you wouldn’t report him because you’re “too nice” and worried about ruining his life?

If I thought someone was masturbating in public, hell I’d report, but I don’t think a revolting man walking along with his dog and one hand down his jeans is masturbating in all likelihood. Do you?

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The man in your scenario IS masturbating in all likelihood. He is touching himself

Petitchat · 14/06/2025 16:56

Sorry, don't know why I found that funny?
As you were....

Petitchat · 14/06/2025 16:55

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:52

masturbating in public is a crime; it is indecent behaviour.

walking along with your hand down your trousers is unsightly and gross but not a crime

however you seem to think the two inevitably go hand in hand

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hand in hand

🤣 🤣

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:52

Ambaallen4 · 14/06/2025 16:48

What?

Its a crime to masturbate in public.

I saw a video where a woman was arrested and jailed in the US, for masturbating on a beach.

The minute a woman does it, it is reported. We are too nice to men, and we dont report them

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masturbating in public is a crime; it is indecent behaviour.

walking along with your hand down your trousers is unsightly and gross but not a crime

however you seem to think the two inevitably go hand in hand

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:51

Ambaallen4 · 14/06/2025 16:48

What?

Its a crime to masturbate in public.

I saw a video where a woman was arrested and jailed in the US, for masturbating on a beach.

The minute a woman does it, it is reported. We are too nice to men, and we dont report them

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So if you think this person is masturbating in public, you wouldn’t report him because you’re “too nice” and worried about ruining his life?

If I thought someone was masturbating in public, hell I’d report, but I don’t think a revolting man walking along with his dog and one hand down his jeans is masturbating in all likelihood. Do you?

Ambaallen4 · 14/06/2025 16:48

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:42

It’s not that you’re too nice

it is that hopefully somewhere in your brain, common sense kicks in that stops you from reporting this

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What?

Its a crime to masturbate in public.

I saw a video where a woman was arrested and jailed in the US, for masturbating on a beach.

The minute a woman does it, it is reported. We are too nice to men, and we dont report them

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:42

Ambaallen4 · 14/06/2025 16:40

Do you think we should be reporting these guys to the police.

I want to but then im too nice and i think, oh it will ruin his life etc etc

It’s not that you’re too nice

it is that hopefully somewhere in your brain, common sense kicks in that stops you from reporting this

Petitchat · 14/06/2025 16:42

Ambaallen4 · 14/06/2025 16:40

He actually said to me "its not a sexual thing. Do women not touch their vagina's for comfort"

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😁 Just envisioned women walking around in public with their hands down their pants!
Ya know, just for comfort like.....

Ambaallen4 · 14/06/2025 16:40

Do you think we should be reporting these guys to the police.

I want to but then im too nice and i think, oh it will ruin his life etc etc

Ambaallen4 · 14/06/2025 16:40

Petitchat · 14/06/2025 16:36

Aww, bless 'em ...

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He actually said to me "its not a sexual thing. Do women not touch their vagina's for comfort"

Petitchat · 14/06/2025 16:36

Ambaallen4 · 14/06/2025 16:31

One man told me that they do it for "comfort".

Aww, bless 'em ...

JoshLymanSwagger · 14/06/2025 16:35

I suppose the only saving grace is that he had his hand down the front of his own trousers, and not somebody elses.

Petitchat · 14/06/2025 16:34

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:23

op
yes it’s disgusting
yes you come across as a bit in awe of your husband and think we should be the same we are categorically not in awe of your husband’

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This is why I don't start threads nowadays.
Some people just take simple comments to ridiculous levels!

And there must be some strange relationships where women never ask or value their husbands opinions.....

Ambaallen4 · 14/06/2025 16:31

One man told me that they do it for "comfort".