Hello
try to keep it as short as possible. My mother in law is Poland and resides there. She has three sons one of which I’m married to in the uk with 3 kids. Another moved to Belgium and started a family there who we are close to.
I’ve been married for 11 years and think she has visited 4-5 times but will stay only a few short days. She is the same for other son in Belgium. She will only visit for christenings. Anytime she is asked by either sons she makes excuses always saying she’s working (she retired but went back to work but works CONSTANTLY all day morning until night nearly always 7 days a week) she could take annual leave but just doesn’t. She doesn’t text or call on kids birthdays, send a card in post or present. Now and again through the years she has sent money so we could buy them something from her. When with her she is absolutely lovely full of hugs and kisses and smiley she will give us money when we visit her or when she has come here even when we tell her we don’t want it she’s insisting but apart of this she just doesn’t bother with the grandkids. We go to visit her every year and stay for 2 weeks. last year we went for 10 days. She chose to work the WHOLE time we were there including the day we landed and the day we left. We didn’t spend one single day with her and when she came home from work each evening she went to bed after half an hour saying she was tired.
my hubby doesn’t open up about his feelings on it apart of continually asking if she can make time to come to us as she hasn’t in years. But I’ve now seen my ***. My mum is constantly making time for our kids and does everything a loving nan should do and more. My brother in laws wife in belgiums mother was the same. A loving mum and Nan. My mother in law on the other hand just doesn’t even do the bare minimal of picking up the phone let alone anything else. Anyone’s thoughts on this?