Holiday offer revoked

Disagree entirely
Kids are part of integrated family and I'm amazed by the number of posters who feel that relationships with children ( either biological or step) should cease because of divorce.
Hughly upsetting for the children who have a shared history.
Imo, the fact that the kids are not biologically related is irrelevant

Your title is misleading in that there never was a holiday offer to revoke.

A more apt title would be Holiday offer not forthcoming.

Is your ex (the children's stepdad) still having contact with the children post divorce either regularly or on an ad hoc basis? If anything if that is the case perhaps he may take them in future years but I am rather incredulous that you think this is something you still get to benefit from.

Crikey! Thats a bit entitled, what nationality will your next husband be? Quite a elaborate plan to get free holidays for you and your kids you have going there 🤣

When my parents divorced I remember my Mother taking us to see my Auntie (my Fathers sister).
My Auntie told my Mum that her visiting with us was inappropriate and that in future it was down to my Dad to bring us to see them.
My Mum was gutted as had known them all since she was 17 until she was 40 but in their minds she was no longer family.
Im surprised you thought you’d still be welcome especially as the kids aren’t his biologically, regardless how civil the divorce is/was.

I honestly can’t fathom how you think free holiday accommodation, and your kids entertainment, would continue post separation.

OP, your DH’s family welcomed him as a member of the family, and put up with you and your DC. Why on earth would they want you to come and visit now you are separating? It’s not as though the American family are your DC’s relatives - why would they want to keep in contact? Frankly, I think you have an astounding cheek to have asked!

You're not a blood relation and neither are your kids. They are your DH's stepchildren and while it would be lovely to think they might continue to have a relationship, it's a bit much to assume his extended family would maintain contact after your divorce, much less host you all for a month for free.

Honestly @Singineletricdreamsits ridiculous you still think that these things would continue to happen.

God you are so entitled. Bet your next question will be something along the lines of ‘my ex’s family have 3-4 homes and more cash than I do. Now we are divorcing do I have any rights to his family’s money in the settlement’. He is drawing a line and rightly so. You have no children together. It should be a clean break with you and your finances going one way and him and his going the other.

Can't actually believe you thought you could still help yourself to a free holiday from DH family when you're not together. Think it's possibly the most cheekyfuckerish thing I've seen on here

This is obviously a bitter pill for you to swallow OP and it has caught you off guard, but what did you think would happen? Did you honestly think that you and your ex would divorce and everything would continue as before? That you'd continue to holiday with him and his family ever summer? Why would you assume that? I certainly wouldn't. If your DC were his as well then I'd expect that he would take them, if that's what he does in the summer, to spend time with him and his family, but your DC aren't related to him or his family, so why would assume that you and they will continue to be welcome after you and your ex have split? Blood is thicker than water for the vast majority of families. I'm surprised you hadn't considered that things would change.

The words ‘brass neck’ come to mind. Seriously …..

This is unhinged behaviour, you surely can’t be serious?!

I'd be more inclined to think it was a bit sad if you'd married when your kids were tiny babies and toddlers and are now teens.

But I'm quite taken aback that you'd assumed the offer stood and hadn't already checked.

What don’t you understand about divorcing meaning that you’re no longer part of your DHs family?!

Of course they’re not being unreasonable.

You are divorcing, this means you now live completely separate lives of no concern to eacb other. Apart from any agreed split of assets, he owes yoh nothing, no time, no money, no thought if he doesnt want to think about you ever again.
To think you will still go on holiday together to his family is bonkers.

Worth remembering these aren't even the exH's properties; they belong to his family, so even if he'd willingly have taken his step kids away, staying there with them isn't his decision to make

I can’t imagine spending holiday time with a couple in the middle of a divorce. It sounds like torture to me! It’s no surprise his family don’t want to do it.

Are the flights already booked? Were you expecting to stay at one of the houses with your ex, or on your own with the kids?

Were you expecting to go with your ex husband?

Doesn't read like a reverse - it's unusual to have such a strong YABU

Yes, you are the CF

YABU you and your children are soon to be wholly unrelated to these people so why would you expect to use their holiday home , completely unreal that you even thought this would still be possible

This has got to be a reverse, surely??

If it's not, give your head a wobble OP. Entitlement verging into the ridiculous.

I don’t know why you’re confused by this to be honest. They’re not his kids and you’re no longer his partner, why would any of you be getting a free holiday??