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DP being horrible towards my DCat

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Yasmin98 · 14/06/2025 09:12

DP and I don’t live with each other but he stays over a couple nights a week.

Recently, he has been making increasingly rude comments about my DCat and when I challenge him he just says ‘she’s a cat, she doesn’t have feelings’.

He really isn’t a pet person which is fine but I would expect him to treat mine with respect.

Has anyone had a similar situation and found a solution? I am reluctant to move him in full time unless his attitude changes.

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Lotsofsnacks · 14/06/2025 10:28

VickyEadieofThigh · 14/06/2025 10:26

I cannot believe you've actually been considering moving this scrote in full-time. He's awful - as pp have said, ill-treatment of animals is a real red flag. Add in his attitude towards women and I don't know why you're not binning him off right now.

There's no "solution" - apart from getting rid of the man.

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Some women are that desperate to have a man that they ignore glaringly obvious red flags!!

raspberrieswithchocolate · 14/06/2025 10:28

Justsomethoughts23 · 14/06/2025 10:15

My first LTB 😂

I think it might be mine too!
I see a lot of posters are saying the same thing, I hope the OP takes everyone's advice.

VickyEadieofThigh · 14/06/2025 10:26

Yasmin98 · 14/06/2025 10:01

I don’t think he would actually kick DCat, I know the statement looks extreme written down.

He said something last night (which prompted me to post) about DCat reminding him of his ex who he broke up with. Saying that she was lazy too but at least she had her uses in other ways (meaning sexually) which I found really uncomfortable.

I cannot believe you've actually been considering moving this scrote in full-time. He's awful - as pp have said, ill-treatment of animals is a real red flag. Add in his attitude towards women and I don't know why you're not binning him off right now.

There's no "solution" - apart from getting rid of the man.

TwistedWonder · 14/06/2025 10:26

Yasmin98 · 14/06/2025 10:01

I don’t think he would actually kick DCat, I know the statement looks extreme written down.

He said something last night (which prompted me to post) about DCat reminding him of his ex who he broke up with. Saying that she was lazy too but at least she had her uses in other ways (meaning sexually) which I found really uncomfortable.

So he thinks it’s acceptable to disrespect animals and women? Wow what a prince you’ve got there.

The way people treat animals shows you their character - and his is shit

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 14/06/2025 10:25

What a prize of a man! Get rid of him.

Mumof2heroes · 14/06/2025 10:25

Yasmin98 · 14/06/2025 10:01

I don’t think he would actually kick DCat, I know the statement looks extreme written down.

He said something last night (which prompted me to post) about DCat reminding him of his ex who he broke up with. Saying that she was lazy too but at least she had her uses in other ways (meaning sexually) which I found really uncomfortable.

Oooof! You know what you've got to do OP

Lotsofsnacks · 14/06/2025 10:23

OP for god sake your last post tells you all u need to know about him!!! Do not move in with him, he has no respect for women or animals. Why would you even consider moving in with a man like that?? You know if the relationship continues he will be talking about you, the way he is talking about his ex now, eventually one day.

LeftieRightsHoarder · 14/06/2025 10:23

He said if DCat gets in my way again I’m going to kick her like a football.

Jesus wept! He would be out of my house before he could take another breath! Whether he wants you to think he’s making a serious threat or not, it’s a disgusting thing to say. He’s training you to accept abuse. And remember that convicted child abusers often have a history of ill-treating animals.

Bonjovispyjamas · 14/06/2025 10:22

Slatterndisgrace · 14/06/2025 10:15

Are you expecting her to do it ‘live’ on mumsnet? 😁

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Yeah, why not? 😜😆

Chia68 · 14/06/2025 10:20

Yasmin98 · 14/06/2025 10:01

I don’t think he would actually kick DCat, I know the statement looks extreme written down.

He said something last night (which prompted me to post) about DCat reminding him of his ex who he broke up with. Saying that she was lazy too but at least she had her uses in other ways (meaning sexually) which I found really uncomfortable.

I think his attitude towards the cat isn’t even your biggest problem here.

GreenEggsIAm · 14/06/2025 10:19

Leave him.

namechangedforvalidreasons · 14/06/2025 10:18

It’s the fact he says to you, an adult woman, out loud, ‘the cat doesn’t know what I’m saying.’

No shit, ya plum. Verbally abusive to a creature that doesn’t know or care about what you’re saying while defending your right to do so to someone who does.
That’d be plenty for me. Too thick to be attractive.

TheOccupier · 14/06/2025 10:18

Yasmin98 · 14/06/2025 10:01

I don’t think he would actually kick DCat, I know the statement looks extreme written down.

He said something last night (which prompted me to post) about DCat reminding him of his ex who he broke up with. Saying that she was lazy too but at least she had her uses in other ways (meaning sexually) which I found really uncomfortable.

He's horrible. Get rid.

LeftieRightsHoarder · 14/06/2025 10:16

Chazbots · 14/06/2025 09:14

How people treat animals is a good indicator of their character.

Absolutely true.

RedIsNotMyFavouriteColour · 14/06/2025 10:16

He'd be out the fucking door in a split second. Cunt!

RampantIvy · 14/06/2025 10:16

It is things like, if DCat gets in my way again I’m going to kick her like a football

Saying that she was lazy too but at least she had her uses in other ways (meaning sexually) which I found really uncomfortable.

This is dumping territory. The more you post about him the more reason to dump him.

Justsomethoughts23 · 14/06/2025 10:15

My first LTB 😂

TheFormidableMrsC · 14/06/2025 10:15

Yasmin98 · 14/06/2025 10:01

I don’t think he would actually kick DCat, I know the statement looks extreme written down.

He said something last night (which prompted me to post) about DCat reminding him of his ex who he broke up with. Saying that she was lazy too but at least she had her uses in other ways (meaning sexually) which I found really uncomfortable.

Christ. What a prick. You can’t stay with this man. He’s shown you what he is, listen to him.

PlumpAndCircumstance · 14/06/2025 10:15

Yasmin98 · 14/06/2025 10:01

I don’t think he would actually kick DCat, I know the statement looks extreme written down.

He said something last night (which prompted me to post) about DCat reminding him of his ex who he broke up with. Saying that she was lazy too but at least she had her uses in other ways (meaning sexually) which I found really uncomfortable.

He doesn’t sound a nice man at all.

Slatterndisgrace · 14/06/2025 10:15

Bonjovispyjamas · 14/06/2025 10:12

You don't know that he wouldn't kick her though, you're just presuming.

So what are you going to do? Everyone is saying dump him, but you haven't responded to that.

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Are you expecting her to do it ‘live’ on mumsnet? 😁

anytipswelcome · 14/06/2025 10:14

So he’s a misogynist as well then? Lovely. Having read everyone’s replies OP what are you planning to do? Do you really want to waste any more time on this prick?

raspberrieswithchocolate · 14/06/2025 10:14

@Yasmin98 I don’t think he would actually kick DCat, I know the statement looks extreme written down.

Are you going to take that chance? I wouldn't. Your cat needs you to protect her and act in her best interest, don't ever leave her alone with him. I'll say it again - find someone better, get rid of this man.

Thereislightattheendofthetunnel · 14/06/2025 10:14

Goodness sake OP.

Leave this mysoginistic prick and don’t waste a second more of your youth on this useless prick

TheFormidableMrsC · 14/06/2025 10:13

I would see this as red flag behaviour personally. People who are cruel or mistreat animals are not decent people.

neverbeenskiing · 14/06/2025 10:12

Yasmin98 · 14/06/2025 10:01

I don’t think he would actually kick DCat, I know the statement looks extreme written down.

He said something last night (which prompted me to post) about DCat reminding him of his ex who he broke up with. Saying that she was lazy too but at least she had her uses in other ways (meaning sexually) which I found really uncomfortable.

Ugh. A misogynist who doesn't like cats. Its a no from me.