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DP being horrible towards my DCat

259 replies

Yasmin98 · 14/06/2025 09:12

DP and I don’t live with each other but he stays over a couple nights a week.

Recently, he has been making increasingly rude comments about my DCat and when I challenge him he just says ‘she’s a cat, she doesn’t have feelings’.

He really isn’t a pet person which is fine but I would expect him to treat mine with respect.

Has anyone had a similar situation and found a solution? I am reluctant to move him in full time unless his attitude changes.

OP posts:
IdiottoGoa · 14/06/2025 09:16

‘She might not have feelings but I do. Stop being a dick, being unkind to animals isn’t a good look’.

If he resists or does it again, show him the door.

mbosnz · 14/06/2025 09:16

I definitely wouldn't be moving him in full time. He is showing his incompatibility to live with an important part of your family in a positive fashion.

Cats take up slightly less room in the bed, cost far less to run, have fur, and purr.

Keep the cat.

PlumpAndCircumstance · 14/06/2025 09:15

Huge red flag - and now you have raised it he is disrespecting you by ignoring your request (as well as being a dick).

id throw this one back in the sea.

Chazbots · 14/06/2025 09:15

Dcat is the cat equivalent of Ddog, much loved family dogs and cats.

SpryCat · 14/06/2025 09:15

He is showing you, that he finds animals intolerable, if you moved in together, he would get worse. Your cat, your home and if he can’t respect that, he needs to fuck off.

Profpudding · 14/06/2025 09:14

That’s a big red flag. Any cruelty towards animals indicates the disposition to be cruel to children and anybody else they considered to be vulnerable.

Chazbots · 14/06/2025 09:14

How people treat animals is a good indicator of their character.

OtterlyMad · 14/06/2025 09:14

What on earth is a “Dcat”???

The solution is to tell him to stop, and if he doesn’t, dump him.

temperedolive · 14/06/2025 09:13

This would annoy me as well. It's about disrespect for something you love and a refusal to curtail that.