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12 year old son falsely accused.

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Fran091321 · 14/06/2025 08:26

We are so upset our 12 year old has been accused of getting his penis out during a lesson! No such thing happened. His trousers clasp had come undone which either made the zip go down a little bit or the zip wasnt fully done up beforehand. Someone noticed in class that his trousers had come undone and started laughing and saying your trousers are undone. His shirt was tucked in and you couldn't even see any of his boxesr shorts as his shirt was covering them). Then everyone looked and some kids started saying the most disgusting things, it was a free for all (there was a substitute teacher in the class). He has been called a pedophile along with some other vile statements and had to be put in isolation according to the school "to keep him safe". I'm so upset that the school didn't deal with this firmly from the start. The whole thing has now got so out of hand and now we have year 7s spreading lies to other year groups.

The day the non incident happened my son was hassled by a large group of children at lunchtime, many of whom were not present in the lesson in which his trousers clasp came undone.

I asked the school "If, the isolation was intended to "keep him safe", then why was he left to go out at lunchtime and be hassled by a large group of kids? There was plenty of time for kids to call him all sort of names, including a paedophile and other vile statements that he has asked me to explain to him. This "keeping him safe" reason, doesn't seem to make sense at all!"

The response I got from the Designated Safeguarding Lead was "teachers come to school to teach" the teacher involved is not part of the safeguarding team". Now, I am a teacher (primary), but you don't need to be a teacher to know that safeguarding always has to be the top priority, followed by teaching! I was was astounded at his response.

The school put my son in isolation but the kids who made the false accusation were not (the school have categorically stated that they know the accusation is false). What message does this send to the rest of the year group?

We cannot believe how this is being handled and I need some opinions and help please.

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Ilovemychocolate · 14/06/2025 09:23

As a teacher, surely you know the complaints procedure?
Meeting with head, letter to the governors if not satisfied, ultimately Ofsted.
Im so sorry this has happened to your son, you and him must be absolutely devastated.
And to put HIM in isolation?!
Absolutely disgusting.
I hope you get it resolved x

RhaenysRocks · 14/06/2025 09:18

Taking your post at face value and not going down the "is there more to this" route, the schools response is appalling. If the cover teacher couldn't contain the situation she should have used school procedures to call for support in the first instance. The situation should never have reached the point where he needed to be removed "for his safety" and if so, certainly not them dumped back in a free for all playground. I'd be asking for a meeting with his HoY on Monday. I'm a secondary teacher by the way. Safeguarding is absolutely the first priority on any situation and all teachers have a legal duty to carry it out. We are all on that team, all the time.

Profpudding · 14/06/2025 09:16

Sit back and see what happens on Monday if it’s not all blown over I would respond with my child came to school to learn not be fucking terrorised.
What’s the plan? Push it totally back on them, he shouldn’t be an isolation.

springbirdss · 14/06/2025 09:16

Oh my God that sounds really extreme. The comment about safeguarding from the DSL is insane... Safeguarding is everyone's responsibility. It sounds like it's more convenient for them to 'isolate' your son than to deal with the bullies. Is this one of those schools that is so overwhelmed with issues that they are unable to protect kids properly? Honestly I would remove him from the school. It's nearly the end of the academic year so this might be possible...?

OneFineDay13 · 14/06/2025 09:14

This is shocking am so sorry that happened to your son. Children can be absolutely vile and have a pack mentality. hoepfully it calms down in a few days but the school should have definitely handled this better and I would be angry too

Hercisback1 · 14/06/2025 09:13

What do you want to happen now?

By Monday most of this will be forgotten.

It's not ideal that there was a substitute teacher, as this may have meant school policies weren't followed properly. The spell in isolation was probably to try and cool the whole thing down a bit.

Realistically it's difficult to sanction large groups in school. This is in regard to the name callers on the playground.