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Which of your children would take up arms if need be to defend their country

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Lardychops · 14/06/2025 01:01

Ive been thinking about this a lot lately in a thought experiment/abstract way since Ukraine invasion and having lived years ago in Israel where young people do national service from 17 as a matter of course with frequent refreshers- obviously now for them being put to the test .
So, my question is -
In terms of the ‘barbarians at the gates scenario which of your children/neices /nephews /siblings parents would drop everything to defend their country/ city/town/ village and family if they needed to ? And do you think their lifestyle/career path impacts on this?

I have 1DD single mother of 3 - she would have been first in the queue pre kids and if I looked after them she would be first to front line

3x DS - all tradesmen- without hesitation- 1 has a child but a partner - he would be first on the front line after his sister. One of them would be terrified but his pride would make him follow his brothers to protect his family rather than any bigger picture

1xDSD - works in retail -No doubt she would pick up arms and fight to the death.

1xDSD- left Uni-just got back from travelling - nothing in hospitality- no chance.

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Emonade · 17/06/2025 22:40

freakyfriday23 · 17/06/2025 12:51

The worrying sad thing is that unlike in the 30s/40s there are many pople living here who don't like British people/England. The left push a narrative of being anti British/something to be ashamed of and to be proud of being British makes you 'far right'. I proud of being British and would stick my nect out to protect this country. I wouldn't sit back and expect others to do it. If the shit hit the fan you wouldn't have a choice. You would HAVE to do it unless you had health issues.

Do they though?!

SerendipityJane · 17/06/2025 16:20

That's the point really, assuming places like Spain, Germany and France don't turn back the clock and decide to have another crack at invading Britain,

As pointed out previously, invading and occupying are completely different things. The only thing that connects them is invasion typically has to precede occupation.

Vichy France is probably more what we would see. The invading force would overwhelm our defences and rock up at Westminster where the government of the day would be invited to run the UK on their behalf. That is "invited" in the same way you are "invited" to pay your tax.

Dotjones · 17/06/2025 16:12

It's not just children who will need to fight in the next war, the whole country will need to fight. Would you fight? I like to think I wouldn't, but it would depend on the circumstances really. If it meant I could have a gun and some ammunition at home as a standby to fight invaders and enemies of the state already here I probably would (depending on whether the enemies seemed worse than the government at the time). I'm not going to go to Ukraine or Israel or France to fight though.

That's the point really, assuming places like Spain, Germany and France don't turn back the clock and decide to have another crack at invading Britain, they'd need to be overrun first and hopefully their own citizens would have weakened the enemy forces.

Of course Russia, North Korea and China are more likely just to nuke Britain altogether rather than invade, in which case there would be no fighting anyway. I always used to think North Korea was a long way away until someone pointed out that their missiles could easily reach us by heading over Russia and the Arctic, it's only about 5000 miles.

Natsku · 17/06/2025 16:10

SerendipityJane · 17/06/2025 15:44

I am perpetually amused by the (alleged) hard core preppers who point to their 3 weeks worth of water as if it counts for anything. Yes, they are a sensible precaution against bad weather, strikes, localised unrest or a marathon on the town.

But in a situation where the balloon really went up then the idea things will be up & running in 3 weeks is a little bit optimistic.

(Also why prep, if you and a gun can relieve preppers of their stuff ?).

Yup. I keep food and water on hand for things like extended power cuts and very bad winter storms but hoping to prep for a shit hits the fan situation? No point.

SerendipityJane · 17/06/2025 15:44

Natsku · 17/06/2025 15:20

In the countries involved yeah but the pp was talking about going to a country at peace. Though if there's a war in the UK then I doubt there will be much of Europe that's not involved so finding such a country, with a functioning private healthcare system and without strict border controls might be a tad difficult...

I am perpetually amused by the (alleged) hard core preppers who point to their 3 weeks worth of water as if it counts for anything. Yes, they are a sensible precaution against bad weather, strikes, localised unrest or a marathon on the town.

But in a situation where the balloon really went up then the idea things will be up & running in 3 weeks is a little bit optimistic.

(Also why prep, if you and a gun can relieve preppers of their stuff ?).

Noodledog · 17/06/2025 15:35

I have thought about this after the Russian invasion of Ukraine. I was initially surprised to read that Ukrainians aren't called up to fight until they are 25, but then thought that while traditionally warfare was very hand to hand, and involved having to carry your heavy equipment with you, these days most isn't like that. So it's no longer necessary for armies to consist of young men at their peak strength and fitness (and frankly, peak testosterone and aggression levels).

I'm in my fifties, and in a Ukraine like situation, I'd much rather it was me risking my life than young family members in their twenties.

Natsku · 17/06/2025 15:20

SerendipityJane · 17/06/2025 14:22

I'm guessing that if the conflict arose that involved civilians having to take up arms, then private healthcare would long since have collapsed.

In the countries involved yeah but the pp was talking about going to a country at peace. Though if there's a war in the UK then I doubt there will be much of Europe that's not involved so finding such a country, with a functioning private healthcare system and without strict border controls might be a tad difficult...

SerendipityJane · 17/06/2025 14:22

Natsku · 17/06/2025 12:33

You might be surprised, not all private healthcare companies will just take unknown patients without ID/health insurance card. Might open them up to legal risk if something goes wrong. Certainly in my country you have to show your health insurance card before you get anywhere with private healthcare and you need to register with the authorities to get that.

I'm guessing that if the conflict arose that involved civilians having to take up arms, then private healthcare would long since have collapsed.

SerendipityJane · 17/06/2025 14:20

bellabasset · 17/06/2025 10:33

I suspect that joining the military might be an option in the near future for some young people. It has provided opportunities for some young people who didn't do well at school. One of my colleagues was worried about his son being injured in Afgahistanbut he's back in the UK working now. As Prime Minister Rishi Sunak thought the armed forces would need to be larger due to concerns over the effect of the war in Ukraine might have on Europe.

I don't think Rishi Sunak thought any more than about scoring political points. He certainly wasn't serious about defence.

mbosnz · 17/06/2025 13:56

Respectfully, I would fight to defend my country. As would my kids, I think.

I do not think of the UK as my country. I am a citizen, I live here, but my home and my love is NZ. We pays our taxes, we live as good and contributing citizens, and that will have to be enough.

Natsku · 17/06/2025 13:50

Andoutcomethewolves · 17/06/2025 13:01

Didn't need to do that in NL or Portugal...

And hopefully they won't introduce such a rule, or indeed a general 'show your papers' rule in the event of war nearby, for national security reasons.

Nurseryquestions86 · 17/06/2025 13:25

I would protect my family above all else including my country.

Andoutcomethewolves · 17/06/2025 13:01

Natsku · 17/06/2025 12:33

You might be surprised, not all private healthcare companies will just take unknown patients without ID/health insurance card. Might open them up to legal risk if something goes wrong. Certainly in my country you have to show your health insurance card before you get anywhere with private healthcare and you need to register with the authorities to get that.

Didn't need to do that in NL or Portugal...

freakyfriday23 · 17/06/2025 12:51

The worrying sad thing is that unlike in the 30s/40s there are many pople living here who don't like British people/England. The left push a narrative of being anti British/something to be ashamed of and to be proud of being British makes you 'far right'. I proud of being British and would stick my nect out to protect this country. I wouldn't sit back and expect others to do it. If the shit hit the fan you wouldn't have a choice. You would HAVE to do it unless you had health issues.

Natsku · 17/06/2025 12:33

Andoutcomethewolves · 17/06/2025 12:25

I earn enough to pay privately for healthcare. I doubt private healthcare providers care enough to report paying patients.

I was brought up off grid so not concerned with that aspect!

You might be surprised, not all private healthcare companies will just take unknown patients without ID/health insurance card. Might open them up to legal risk if something goes wrong. Certainly in my country you have to show your health insurance card before you get anywhere with private healthcare and you need to register with the authorities to get that.

Andoutcomethewolves · 17/06/2025 12:25

Natsku · 17/06/2025 12:05

So you'll live off the grid and never use healthcare or any other public service?

I earn enough to pay privately for healthcare. I doubt private healthcare providers care enough to report paying patients.

I was brought up off grid so not concerned with that aspect!

Natsku · 17/06/2025 12:05

Andoutcomethewolves · 17/06/2025 10:23

No. But I don't mind breaking the rules. How on earth are they going to know?? I work remotely so wouldn't be at all on the government's radar.

So you'll live off the grid and never use healthcare or any other public service?

bellabasset · 17/06/2025 10:33

I suspect that joining the military might be an option in the near future for some young people. It has provided opportunities for some young people who didn't do well at school. One of my colleagues was worried about his son being injured in Afgahistanbut he's back in the UK working now. As Prime Minister Rishi Sunak thought the armed forces would need to be larger due to concerns over the effect of the war in Ukraine might have on Europe.

Andoutcomethewolves · 17/06/2025 10:23

Natsku · 17/06/2025 09:28

Do you have citizenship in any of those countries? As if not, then you can't easily go live in them.

No. But I don't mind breaking the rules. How on earth are they going to know?? I work remotely so wouldn't be at all on the government's radar.

Slatterndisgrace · 17/06/2025 09:32

Logoffforflipssake · 16/06/2025 16:49

Absolutely no way would there be a ' boots on the ground' attack on the UK or England..I mean unless Wales or Scotland started something.

There doesn't need to be , drones and missile strikes would destroy us without a problem, and Russia wouldn't want us for ' land'.

I think your question, as daft as it is, is would you be happy for your child to be conscripted to fight a proxy war for Billionaires in a far flung part of world.

You would be mad to say yes to that.

Concise and perfectly put.

Slatterndisgrace · 17/06/2025 09:30

sleepwouldbenice · 14/06/2025 01:32

Wow. Such morals

Off you pop then.

Natsku · 17/06/2025 09:28

Andoutcomethewolves · 16/06/2025 22:03

No. I was brought up pretty feral so I'm confident I could survive in eg the Forest of Dean and I'm too attached to, you know, being alive to join the fight. Pretty sure I could escape over the channel into Europe as well and I've lived in several European countries and speak the languages adequately. I'm not sufficiently patriotic to stay and fight for England when I could easily move to France/Portugal/Spain/Czech/ Holland

Do you have citizenship in any of those countries? As if not, then you can't easily go live in them.

Andoutcomethewolves · 16/06/2025 22:03

EdisinBurgh · 16/06/2025 16:43

So you’d hide out in a forest somewhere in Britain, then come out again when the fighting is over?

What if the UK lost, is now occupied by an agressive invader who takes everything and treats the occupied people as slaves?

Might you then perhaps wish you had in some way helped defend your country?

No. I was brought up pretty feral so I'm confident I could survive in eg the Forest of Dean and I'm too attached to, you know, being alive to join the fight. Pretty sure I could escape over the channel into Europe as well and I've lived in several European countries and speak the languages adequately. I'm not sufficiently patriotic to stay and fight for England when I could easily move to France/Portugal/Spain/Czech/ Holland

CleverButScatty · 16/06/2025 20:19

Lardychops · 14/06/2025 08:02

Most my cousins my age and some of their kids have served/are serving in armed forces (all grew up in the West Country so very common path as very rural and work options ltd etc)
One medically discharged after Afghanistan.

I notice you keep talking about what your family members have done. Not to be confused with anything you have done...
You sound like you're getting off on the excitement of it all. You need a dose of reality.

CleverButScatty · 16/06/2025 20:16

twinklystar23 · 15/06/2025 07:54

Two of my sons are in the army. Reading this thread is seriously making me question what / who they are defending.

I get the disenfranchisement and how many or the elites are asset hoarding/ stripping us and our young people of their futures to grow, prosper not just financially. I to would like to give the willy waving war mongers a gun each so they can finish each other off.

The biggest test i think, is our own social cohesion or lack thereof, that this thread demonstrates. Thinking back to my grandparents generation there was a much more unified response, or at least in the main to defend ourselves from the nazis. There was also a greater need for housing, the NHS was born, people felt they "deserved better" perhaps those in authority also did give some concession to this?

Fully agree with a previous poster that we are being poked. We need to be so aware of the threats from russia china and Iran also the orange turd and their attempts to create division between us.

I think some of that comes from the fact the bus the time war broke out there was pretty much no ambiguity, Hitler and the Nazis were clearly the enemy.
I feel that Israel/ Netanyahu's government are very much the eneny, and yet UK military resources are being deployed to defend them, carry out reconnaissance flights etc.
That is why this is a very different situation.
I am disgusted that the UK aren't doing everything in their power to stop Israel, never mind sending my precious kids out to die protecting their maniacal genocidal government.

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