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Original poster

Using 'We' when talking about yourself.

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Aquarius1234 · 14/06/2025 00:22

AIBU to do this in a fairly light hearted way?

Is it just going with the modern times.
I like to for whatever reason esp when telling a story.

Also AIBU to be slightly annoyed when the other person doesn't get it? 🙄

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ImagineHarder · 14/06/2025 00:43

JabbaTheBeachHut · 14/06/2025 00:41

Can you give some examples?

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Yes, give examples, OP. But I’d have said it was the reverse of self-deprecating, given that monarchs traditionally referred to themselves as ‘We’…?

Dontlletmedownbruce · 14/06/2025 00:43

People use it around little kids. 'We are a bit tired today' when talking to Mum about a grumpy kid, for example. I don't know any other context.

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Aquarius1234 · 14/06/2025 00:42

Im a bit surprised no one else has done or heard people doing this.

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JabbaTheBeachHut · 14/06/2025 00:41

Aquarius1234 · 14/06/2025 00:40

I say it in more of a humorous way or self-deprecating way.

Can you give some examples?

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Aquarius1234 · 14/06/2025 00:40

I say it in more of a humorous way or self-deprecating way.

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ImagineHarder · 14/06/2025 00:33

JabbaTheBeachHut · 14/06/2025 00:31

What bug?

I don't think I've really heard anyone saying 'we' when they mean 'I'?

Apart from idiots who say 'we're pregnant'.

I like to ask them if they've decided on which one of them will be giving birth and breastfeeding.

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Yes, I don’t think I’ve ever heard it out of that one specific context.

OP, do you mean you say ‘When we were in Crete last week, we went on a whale-watching trip’, or ‘We went to have our smear’, but you’re only talking about yourself?

Floatlikeafeather2 · 14/06/2025 00:33

Are you Margaret Thatcher's ghost? "We are a grandmother".

JabbaTheBeachHut · 14/06/2025 00:31

Aquarius1234 · 14/06/2025 00:29

That I'm clearly talking about myself. But I've caught the bug of sometimes saying we.

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What bug?

I don't think I've really heard anyone saying 'we' when they mean 'I'?

Apart from idiots who say 'we're pregnant'.

I like to ask them if they've decided on which one of them will be giving birth and breastfeeding.

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Aquarius1234 · 14/06/2025 00:29

ImagineHarder · 14/06/2025 00:27

It’s not clear what you think the other person ‘isn’t getting’. That you’re just talking about yourself? That you’re actually part of the Borg hive mind? That you’re using the royal ‘we’? That you’re sharing a brain with your husband?

That I'm clearly talking about myself. But I've caught the bug of sometimes saying we.

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ImagineHarder · 14/06/2025 00:27

It’s not clear what you think the other person ‘isn’t getting’. That you’re just talking about yourself? That you’re actually part of the Borg hive mind? That you’re using the royal ‘we’? That you’re sharing a brain with your husband?