To cancel my baby shower next week

Nah - nothing wrong with it. It’s your shower so why would anybody care if you cancelled it?

I knocked this one on the head with all of mine. Not my thing this fad at all.

Exactly. I wonder how many people actually read the OP. She wouldn't be cancelling because she 'doesn't feel like it', she is UNWELL. What is it that posters don't get about that? Why is it women gaslight and guilt other women into doing something when they're NOT WELL?!?? Women are our own worst enemies! FFS we should be supporting each other, not guilting each other to do something when you're about to go into labor and clearly not fucking well!

I'd see what the midwife says, but yeah there's no obligation for it to go ahead x

Cancel. I love it when plans get cancelled and I have a do what I fancy day instead

All this!

Who is this Baby Shower supposed to be for?
I'm surprised by the number of posters who think a heavily pregnant woman who is feeling really unwell should force herself to attend an event that is supposed to be for her benefit, just to please other people. If the Mum-to-be is going to be feeling too poorly to properly enjoy it then what on earth is the point?

If one of my pregnant friends cancelled their baby shower because they were feeling unwell it wouldn't occur to me for a second to be annoyed with them, or even disappointed. I would just be hoping they (and baby) were ok.

A week is plenty of notice to cancel a small event like this. We're not talking about cancelling a wedding, it's really not that deep. A week gives people time to make other plans, and it doesn't matter if they've already bought gifts as they can either post them if they want to or drop them round once baby arrives. This is presumably what they would have done if OP wasnt having a baby shower in the first place.

I do understand why you’re reluctant to cancel but cancelling because you are unwell is very different! Focus on your health first and (as you’ve said) see your midwife or, you could even give the maternity assessment unit a call over the weekend. Tired and nauseous are to be expected but being light headed is different. I was exhausted and uncomfortable towards the end of my first pregnancy and, due to this, was honest that I couldn’t be doing with all the games that had previously happened at showers within our friendship group! We had a lovely cuppa and cake and a chat instead and that was just right (and I suspect many guests were relieved too!!)

Bit OTT no? I hardly think she’s endangering the health of the baby by having tea and cake with ten people.

Everyone will be hugely relieved if you cancel anyway.

The two hour limit suggestion is a good one.

I would personally try to go ahead with it.
I think send a message to the group and say you’re not feeling well so will be quite a short party.
however if you want to cancel it; do it sooner rather than later so people can plan.
usually baby showers mean the mum just sits around and gets pampered.
you could un-invite most of the group and just have your closest friends or just family so it’s easier? Or have your mum come over on the day and look after your toddler while you nap?

Are you disappointed because the people you really want there have cancelled? It sounds a bit like that. Ten people is a good shout. If you are going to cancel do it soon. Like Monday soon.

10 is loads! I don’t know why you’re disappointed. If you’re feeling tired then surely the fewer people the better?

10 people is plenty.

You might be able to get your blood pressure checked at a pharmacy or find someone with a home monitor. I bought one from a pre eclampsia charity and tested my urine myself using dipsticks from Amazon.

I agree, contact your midwife and get yourself checked out. It's difficult to get enough sleep in the last weeks of pregnancy and that can leave you feeling rubbish. I wouldn't cancel the shower though, as your Smum has made the effort to arrange it and it's just a couple of hours having tea and cake which isn't really strenuous!

Get checked out by the midwife.
Don’t Cancel because there are ‘only’ 10 people . That’s a lovely number. Even 3 of 4 would be a very nice little tea party or people who are happy for you.

Tbh, I'd probably go along with it. It's meant we'll, not strenuous and you never know - you might even enjoy it when you're there. You've probably already spent more hours agonising over it, than the event itself will even take.

If it were a mountaineering trip in the himalayas, I could get your concern.

Congratulations on your soon-to-be-born baby btw x

This!

I think a week is plenty notice for cancelling something local, they could bring the gifts separately once baby is here.

See if you can get an appointment tomorrow for blood pressure and urine checked to make sure all is okay.

I'd be over the moon if you cancelled but then I'm a complete anti social cow 😁

2 hours? I wouldn't have it for one hour mid-way pregnancy. 2 hours is batshit at that stage and when she is so sick. She's not well. She won't cope with 2 hours.

OP please pay attention to the messages your body is giving you, and cancel it.

It’s nice to get together with the people who care about you. Whatever the reason/ excuse.
Could you do it but limit it to a short time, 2 hours? As you’re tired and heavy.