To not heat my dinner plate?

Jaggy1 · 2025-06-13T19:27:53+00:00

Just a silly one really.. My MIL has been coming to us once a week for a little while now. Every single time we have dinner whether we serve up or she does, even if we get a takeaway she always asks if I want my plate heated? Either with boiling water or in the oven if it’s being used. I just think it’s strange as I’d never do that on a random Tuesday night dinner or anything but she does it all the time 🤣 Also weird that DH never asks or cares for his plate heated any other time but he’ll always have it when she’s here. Is this a thing? Am I the strange one 🤣 YABU- you religiously heat your plate YANBU- never heat your plate

ButteredRadish · 14/06/2025 15:22

Eddie16 · 14/06/2025 15:14

My gran does this, the plate has to have steam coming off it for her to deem it hot enough.
In restaurants, she complains to the wait staff if her plate isnt hot enough for her liking, plates should be served with a side of tea towel and food should be served quickly as well as cooked.
She also likes her coffee extra hot, if she could get away with putting her mouth under the coffee machine and pour the water in, she would.
She has burned her mouth numerous times and given herself mouth ulcers all because food and coffee have to be HOT!
At 86, I'm putting it down to a generation quirk.

I am exactly the same as your gran and I’m 40 years old. My parents weren’t like this it’s just me!

ButteredRadish · 14/06/2025 15:21

I always do it. I’m not putting hot food onto cold porcelain. I like my food properly hot

Eddie16 · 14/06/2025 15:14

My gran does this, the plate has to have steam coming off it for her to deem it hot enough.
In restaurants, she complains to the wait staff if her plate isnt hot enough for her liking, plates should be served with a side of tea towel and food should be served quickly as well as cooked.
She also likes her coffee extra hot, if she could get away with putting her mouth under the coffee machine and pour the water in, she would.
She has burned her mouth numerous times and given herself mouth ulcers all because food and coffee have to be HOT!
At 86, I'm putting it down to a generation quirk.

popcornpower2025 · 14/06/2025 15:08

I never heat my plate, but I seem to be in a minority of not liking my food to be scorching hot, or my tea. Maybe my mouth is sensitive.

I hate it when restaurants bring out kids food and say the plate is hot so be careful. Why is my 6 year olds plate scorching hot?

BooneyBeautiful · 14/06/2025 14:28

Nala82 · 13/06/2025 23:50

Even worse than her faffing about with heating plates is my MILs insistence on plates and cutlery for eating a fish supper. The eye brows getting raised when you use your fingers...you have to just treat it as funny and enjoy winding her up or you'd go mad.

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Oh yes, we definitely had to eat fish and chips with cutlery. I still do it now, although I don't often have chips with the fish, so make myself a salad instead. I don't mind eating chips with my fingers, but definitely not fish.

Needspaceforlego · 14/06/2025 14:24

MasterBeth · 14/06/2025 11:11

I kind of knew that hot plates would be a fussy eater thing.

"Raw broccoli! The very thought of it!!"

People who are desperate to be disgusted by food, for some reason.

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The only thing I've not tried raw is cauliflower.

But your so right hot plates is a fussy eater thing.
I swear the ILs are more fussy than the kids. One won't eat rice, one won't pasta, they moan about cheese sauces, then moan about tomato sauces having tomatoes in them.

worriedmum88 · 14/06/2025 12:35

I never warm the plates, infact I usually dish up and wait for a few minutes before serving because I enjoy it more if it's not piping hot.

MasterBeth · 14/06/2025 11:11

PuppyMonkey · 14/06/2025 11:08

No thank you.

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I kind of knew that hot plates would be a fussy eater thing.

"Raw broccoli! The very thought of it!!"

People who are desperate to be disgusted by food, for some reason.

PuppyMonkey · 14/06/2025 11:08

Needspaceforlego · 14/06/2025 10:48

Cooked broccoli is minging, try it raw 😋
That's said I wouldn't put raw broccoli on a plate.

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No thank you.

Coolasfeck · 14/06/2025 10:57

We’re fortunate enough to be able to afford central heating so don’t need to warm plates.

zingally · 14/06/2025 10:55

My mum does it, but I never do it otherwise. It wouldn't cross my mind to.

My mum heats them up so much though, that you find yourself almost dashing to the table with your loaded plate, before it burns your skin right off!

marmaladeandpeanutbutter · 14/06/2025 10:52

I’ve not seen it done in homes for years.

Needspaceforlego · 14/06/2025 10:51

Ninkynonkpinkyponks · 14/06/2025 10:44

Can’t stand it. My dad comes round and I always get a huge 30 minute lecture about how it’s essential. Then a big show and dance about putting the oven on for the plates and then the dinner is late (my fault) because of cold plates that haven’t had any attention.

have three small children and even if I didn’t I don’t give AF about plates

Exactly cooking the plates is just another stress to add to cooking a meal.
Well seen it's men that want hot plates - go to a blinking restaurant!

Needspaceforlego · 14/06/2025 10:48

PuppyMonkey · 14/06/2025 10:31

Well I’ve never eaten a piece of broccoli yet that tastes better rested and cold.

Cooked broccoli is minging, try it raw 😋
That's said I wouldn't put raw broccoli on a plate.

Ninkynonkpinkyponks · 14/06/2025 10:44

Can’t stand it. My dad comes round and I always get a huge 30 minute lecture about how it’s essential. Then a big show and dance about putting the oven on for the plates and then the dinner is late (my fault) because of cold plates that haven’t had any attention.

have three small children and even if I didn’t I don’t give AF about plates

Jamfirstest · 14/06/2025 10:40

Dp and I are evangelical about plate heating for takeaways. The kids think it’s bizarre.

PuppyMonkey · 14/06/2025 10:31

Well I’ve never eaten a piece of broccoli yet that tastes better rested and cold.

Growlybear83 · 14/06/2025 10:26

Cherrytree86 · 14/06/2025 09:51

@Growlybear83

i bet he would if the alternative was to starve

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Quite possibly but it’s unlikely to happen when he can heat his plate in the microwave for a minute before I dish up our food.

MasterBeth · 14/06/2025 10:17

Shhhhitsmagic · 14/06/2025 10:04

I feel very light, thank you!
You're right, I really don't get the joke. I thought jokes were meant to be funny?
Anyway, nice chatting, have a great day! 😘

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Wow, so if you don't understand a joke, or don't find a joke funny, it is objectively not funny.

The arrogance of you!

Anon501178 · 14/06/2025 10:06

cryptide · 13/06/2025 23:10

Why is it a total faff? You only have to put the plates in the hot oven for a few minutes. If the oven isn't hot, you put them in the microwave for one minute.

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My mum doesn't have a microwave 🤭 but yeah I guess if someone did and was that way inclined it wouldn't be so much.

Shhhhitsmagic · 14/06/2025 10:04

MasterBeth · 14/06/2025 09:42

You lighten up. You're the one who doesn't get the joke.

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I feel very light, thank you!
You're right, I really don't get the joke. I thought jokes were meant to be funny?
Anyway, nice chatting, have a great day! 😘

Beautifulspringsunshine · 14/06/2025 09:58

It a generation thing nothing to do with class/ poshness. Kitchens wouldn't have heating in the past and crockery would be stone cold particularly in the winter. It was practical to keep your food warm. Some people do it, some don't 🤷‍♀️

Cherrytree86 · 14/06/2025 09:51

Growlybear83 · 13/06/2025 20:30

My husband won’t eat any hot meals unless the plate has been heated first.

@Growlybear83

i bet he would if the alternative was to starve

MasterBeth · 14/06/2025 09:42

Shhhhitsmagic · 14/06/2025 09:22

Lighten up Beth! It's just a chat about gravy and cold food 😂

Anyway, to my fellow warm food fans - I would highly recommend getting a plate warmer. Best investment I ever made!

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You lighten up. You're the one who doesn't get the joke.

RedRosie · 14/06/2025 09:38

Warm, (not scorching hot) plates for hot food here. Not sure it's generational exactly, more something that runs in families.