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People are just vile

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holymoly56 · 13/06/2025 16:25

Numerous stories about the tragic air India crash all over my socials at the moment. The comments sections are fucking grim. Racist jokes, racist comments, conspiracy theories about the sole survivor, not to mention the gutter press posting photos and names presumably before passengers have been formally identified and families informed.

It’s as though people have become so detached from reality they just don’t care. The fact so many people actually died in such a horrible way seems to be lost on them. No sympathy, not even a respectful silence…they all just want to stick their two penneth in. It’s really bothered me today.

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TooSquaretobehip · 13/06/2025 18:31

Arealnumber · 13/06/2025 16:59

I haven’t seen anything like this at all. I’m primarily on X, but also Facebook & read The Times. Where are you hanging out?!

Someone on twitter posted facebook 'laughs' on an article about the crash. I hadn't heard about the conflict between India and Pakistan, I don't pay as much attention to international politics as I should but someone posted 3 screenshots of the couple of hundred facebook names that had the 'laugh' emoticon on the story. Most of them were Pakistan accounts. I could not comprehend that. And I existed out of the screenshots pretty quickly because I didn't want to spend too much time thinking about it. It was horrific. So many people can't put themselves in place of these people who died on the plane. One of them who died on that plane was a relative of a friend of mine. It really wasn't good for my health to look at those laugh emoticons too long.

Keepingittogetherstepbystep · 13/06/2025 18:30

Some people are just abhorrent buts it's not a recent thing.

I visited the war grave of a relative about 15 years ago and the comments in the memorial book were horrible. It was a struggle to read the crap.

WestwardHo1 · 13/06/2025 18:20

YANBU. I've steered well clear of comments sections today for this reason. They disgust me.

People have always been racist but they've been emboldened in recent years. IMO it started with Brexit and it's been gathering pace ever since.

Jonny234 · 13/06/2025 18:17

twilightermummy · 13/06/2025 18:11

@Jonny234 What is there to discuss? What is there to agree to disagree on? People have died in a terrifying way. There should only be one way to view such a tragedy.

100% there is only one view.

But unfortunately we live in the world we do and none of us can legislate for other people's vile behaviour. Sometimes in life you just have to accept some people are what they are, ignore them and move on.

sandrapinchedmysandwich · 13/06/2025 18:13

WallaceinAnderland · 13/06/2025 17:21

Your algorithms will decide what you see.

Odfod. These are posts in response to news sites. The algorithm will therefore show that the op watches the news. Stop insinuating something that isn't there.

Etheral · 13/06/2025 18:11

Maybe don't use Facebook

twilightermummy · 13/06/2025 18:11

@Jonny234 What is there to discuss? What is there to agree to disagree on? People have died in a terrifying way. There should only be one way to view such a tragedy.

mambojambodothetango · 13/06/2025 18:10

Jonny234 · 13/06/2025 18:06

If you follow the right accounts racism is almost non existent. Maybe an odd stupid random comment in the replies by attention seekers but that's about it.

I maintain the worst are the woke left, 100%. It's currently in the process of eating itself.

What are the 'right accounts'? And, without wishing to encourage you further, if the left is racist, what does that make the right?

feellikeanalien · 13/06/2025 18:10

It's true that social media makes it so much worse. I remember some pretty sick jokes being made at the time of the bombing of the Grand Hotel in Brighton during the Tory conference. The only difference was that there was no social media to spread it and to encourage others to do the same.

Slight derail but I was reading an article in the Times today about benefit cuts and the comments were really nasty. I always thought that the Times was a bit more balanced in the comments section but the comments without exception were making incredibly nasty generalisations about people on sickness benefits.

SapporoBaby · 13/06/2025 18:10

The ‘gutter press’ does generally check that family has been informed before posting names and faces. It’s in the Ethics Code.

FirenzeFirenze · 13/06/2025 18:10

Totally agree OP.

I have just deleted the Mail On Line app because of this.

I’m ashamed to say I occasionally have the urge to read trashy, showbiz articles on this app. (Sorry but I have said I’m ashamed).

However, the comment sections are so hateful in all the ways you describe, that my life is enriched now I’ve deleted it. I was getting so upset by people’s comments and now I’m free from it all.

Etheral · 13/06/2025 18:09

You probably just need to read the newspapers instead, no comments on those, I use PressReader, it's free from the library

anytipswelcome · 13/06/2025 18:09

Jonny234 · 13/06/2025 18:06

If you follow the right accounts racism is almost non existent. Maybe an odd stupid random comment in the replies by attention seekers but that's about it.

I maintain the worst are the woke left, 100%. It's currently in the process of eating itself.

You think ‘the worst’ racism online comes from ‘the woke left’?

mambojambodothetango · 13/06/2025 18:08

Some of them will be bots and some are trolls who just jump on any bandwagon for clicks. But sadly, many are walking among us and present as nice people in public.

Roselilly36 · 13/06/2025 18:06

I agree, beyond awful. Those poor families, just heartbreaking.

Jonny234 · 13/06/2025 18:06

JHound · 13/06/2025 17:57

X is the most toxic of them all.

If you follow the right accounts racism is almost non existent. Maybe an odd stupid random comment in the replies by attention seekers but that's about it.

I maintain the worst are the woke left, 100%. It's currently in the process of eating itself.

ExpressCheckout · 13/06/2025 18:05

I've not see anything like this, but not surprised. In the UK, Reform are gaslighting people and whipping up racism. So, I guess it's not going to get any better. In fact, the nastiness is going to get worse, I think.

Anyway, OP, the social media algorithms think that you will enjoy this kind of content ... if you don't want to see this, then just stick to traditional media outlet websites and ignore the comment sections.

placemats · 13/06/2025 18:05

Jonny234 · 13/06/2025 17:28

The point to note is the tolerant left is anything but. Woke lefty channels and platforms like the BBC, Sky, Ch4 news, Facebook spew out propoganda rather than news and attracts the worst. This is why they are all slowly dying.

X is circa 50/50 left and right and people can have a genuine discussion and if necessary agree to disagree.

Have to disagree with you on that. I only have following on my Twitter feed and it's mostly okay. However I did venture into one comment section because the post is from someone I like, just to give sympathy and some of the posts were horrendous - racist and homophobic. I've been doing a fair bit of blocking.

My Facebook is friends and family I know only. I don't venture into a post I don't know and strangely there's been a lot of them.

I agree @holymoly56 it's vile. Take care x

Moonlightdust · 13/06/2025 18:05

It’s such an awful tragedy. I can’t stop thinking about all those lives lost 😞 How anyone can make any comment other than a compassionate one is beyond me. These are human beings, they have loved ones!

JumpingDizzy · 13/06/2025 18:05

nautys · 13/06/2025 17:54

Yes I agree OP. One of my colleagues was on the plane and I’ve seen multiple posts sharing his ‘story’ which is completely fake information. A fair few colleagues learnt of his passing via Facebook and The Daily Mail articles. The local news has even gone and interviewed a neighbour about him. Absolute gutter press. Hundreds of disgusting racist comments on Facebook posts. It’s been very distressing for people who had friends/family/colleagues on the flight.

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I'm so sorry to hear this.
It's heartbreaking
Just saw a pic of a family and their little dcs so excited on the plane before takeoff 😢

WhyWouldAnyone · 13/06/2025 18:04

I haven't seen anything other than shock and sympathy. I don't really look at news on social media though, so it doesn't come up on my feed.

But yes, there are some vile people in this world.

JumpingDizzy · 13/06/2025 18:02

holymoly56 · 13/06/2025 17:51

Why? There are news stories everywhere understandably. My feed or algorithms don’t dictate what people comment.

If I had infinite time and resources I would try to alert the employers of these people and see how funny they think it is then.

I'm guessing most aren't employed.

ginasevern · 13/06/2025 18:01

It has always been thus, but of course social media makes it more obvious. I remember working in a department full of "fine, upstanding middle aged men" in the 1980's. They made vile and utterly sickening jokes about both Lockerbie and the Zeebrugge ferry disasters amongst other things. It disturbed and upset me for a very long time - still does. These men were public school educated, pillars of society in positions of power.

Silvers11 · 13/06/2025 17:59

SeaShellsSanctuary1 · 13/06/2025 17:14

You don't have to look further than the comments on any SKY news post

Well you aren't missing anything. I've seen a number on Facebook already - especially the conspiracy theories........ It's gross in my view

Imsickofpettypeople · 13/06/2025 17:58

People are just horrible nowadays, both on and offline.