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People are just vile

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holymoly56 · 13/06/2025 16:25

Numerous stories about the tragic air India crash all over my socials at the moment. The comments sections are fucking grim. Racist jokes, racist comments, conspiracy theories about the sole survivor, not to mention the gutter press posting photos and names presumably before passengers have been formally identified and families informed.

It’s as though people have become so detached from reality they just don’t care. The fact so many people actually died in such a horrible way seems to be lost on them. No sympathy, not even a respectful silence…they all just want to stick their two penneth in. It’s really bothered me today.

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JHound · 14/06/2025 00:32

Jonny234 · 13/06/2025 18:06

If you follow the right accounts racism is almost non existent. Maybe an odd stupid random comment in the replies by attention seekers but that's about it.

I maintain the worst are the woke left, 100%. It's currently in the process of eating itself.

😂

Ok.

TomatoSandwiches · 13/06/2025 23:54

I remember when people used to keep their mouths shut because they didn't want to embarrass themselves as they new they weren't bright because people had the common sense to roll their eyes when they opened their mouths or told them to shut up!

SM has given all sorts of people the impression that their thoughts are facts, the next thicko ticks the like button and the external validation grows and the next comment gets even more attention and so the cycle continues.

Most people are disgusting.

OnlyTheBravest · 13/06/2025 23:31

I am no longer on social media. It has become a complete cesspool with zero accountability.

I believe in freedom of speech but the level of hatred on certain comment sections is borderline hate speech.

TooSquaretobehip · 13/06/2025 23:18

OffToLockUp · 13/06/2025 22:53

Very sadly I'm not surprised. Leading a maintained school with a high proportion of Asian families provides a daily insight into racism from white British communities. Racism isn't just online.

Stereotypical comments, refusing school places in the so called ‘muslim school’, avoiding conversation with Asian families, being racist to individuals in person.

One incident related to me by one of the parents was that she accidently bumped her supermarket trolley into another female. The other female spun round and called her a ‘f*@king P@K%’ only to find that the trolley pushing female was in fact her own GP.

Vile comments and conspiracy theories are part of my local newspaper FB page. I haven't gone looking for them. I am appalled that reporting to the page or to FB, under ‘sharing of misinformation’ or inciting hatred’ has no effect at all. FB always find in favour of the poster in that they haven't breached the guidance.

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Oh goodness, @OffToLockUp , what did the parent/GP say to the racist? Did she say anything? Did the racist seem horrified it was her doctor?

holymoly56 · 13/06/2025 23:06

ChessorBuckaroo · 13/06/2025 22:54

Social media is vile OP, you must know this?

It gives a platform to everyone, including the dregs of society.

Mental health has deteriorated so much because of the toxicity online.

I do know it but I suppose it is surprising just how many people seem to share these views and have zero shame about posting them publicly under their full names.

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ChessorBuckaroo · 13/06/2025 22:54

Social media is vile OP, you must know this?

It gives a platform to everyone, including the dregs of society.

Mental health has deteriorated so much because of the toxicity online.

OffToLockUp · 13/06/2025 22:53

Very sadly I'm not surprised. Leading a maintained school with a high proportion of Asian families provides a daily insight into racism from white British communities. Racism isn't just online.

Stereotypical comments, refusing school places in the so called ‘muslim school’, avoiding conversation with Asian families, being racist to individuals in person.

One incident related to me by one of the parents was that she accidently bumped her supermarket trolley into another female. The other female spun round and called her a ‘f*@king P@K%’ only to find that the trolley pushing female was in fact her own GP.

Vile comments and conspiracy theories are part of my local newspaper FB page. I haven't gone looking for them. I am appalled that reporting to the page or to FB, under ‘sharing of misinformation’ or inciting hatred’ has no effect at all. FB always find in favour of the poster in that they haven't breached the guidance.

holymoly56 · 13/06/2025 22:49

greengreyblue · 13/06/2025 22:25

I’ve not read anything vile. I only read the BBC for news. I don’t have social media. Maybe you need to do the same.

Or maybe people could just not be evil arseholes.

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tommyhoundmum · 13/06/2025 22:46

WallaceinAnderland · 13/06/2025 17:21

Your algorithms will decide what you see.

That must be why I get dogs, cats, possums and pangolins

SaintNoMountainHighEnough · 13/06/2025 22:40

Social media is a gutter. (Hi fellow users....)

It should not be a barometer for the general feel on this tragedy.

WestwardHo1 · 13/06/2025 22:39

NewsdeskJC · 13/06/2025 21:30

Not even surprised.
I live on the south coast. Every single post about literally anything is filled with comments about illegal immigrants.
Mind you, same people tried to get the Chinese take away closed down in Covid cos clearly that's how it spread from China.

Doesn't even have to be the south coast. A few weeks ago there were stories about a species of shark in west Wales and it seemed on every one, some hilarious wit popped up to make quips about hoping the shark swam into the Channel to sink some dinghies and eat some immigrants/refugees.

So not only ignorant, cruel and stupid, but unoriginal and unfunny as well. The type of person who responds with a laughing emoji when they're challenged because they're too fucking thick to string a coherent sentence together in response.

Imisscoffee2021 · 13/06/2025 22:37

I've noticed a huge amount more of vile, ignorant comments on all sorts of things, from seemingly genuine profiles. Its grim.

EdithBond · 13/06/2025 22:35

RedToothBrush · 13/06/2025 20:47

Never mind the social media. I think the tone of interviews has been appalling.

I was watching an interview with a brother off the survivor and they were asking how he was feeling. They kept on going on about the brother who has survived and were completely dismissive and insensitive to the fact that his other brother had just died!

It was appalling. The interview just kept pushing even though he was distressed.

And that was the BBC!

I think its set a tone for the rest of the reporting and the comments that have been made. There's no way they'd have asked similar if it had been a plane full of White Brits at a British airport.

Yes, I saw that and thought it was utterly crass journalism. It was on Associated Press.

Nayan (the brother) was clearly in total shock and speaking on his doorstep. Doorstepping is the pits. Just bloody leave people alone.

Hillsborough Law needs to give people entitlement to support to keep reporters at bay.

cryptide · 13/06/2025 22:35

Jonny234 · 13/06/2025 17:28

The point to note is the tolerant left is anything but. Woke lefty channels and platforms like the BBC, Sky, Ch4 news, Facebook spew out propoganda rather than news and attracts the worst. This is why they are all slowly dying.

X is circa 50/50 left and right and people can have a genuine discussion and if necessary agree to disagree.

What on earth has this got to do with the thread? Are you really claiming horrible racist comments about people who have died tragically are simply "genuine discussion"?

Why is that bigots can't spell? You'd think they would have more respect for the English language.

greengreyblue · 13/06/2025 22:25

I’ve not read anything vile. I only read the BBC for news. I don’t have social media. Maybe you need to do the same.

saraclara · 13/06/2025 22:22

All the news media that comes up on my feed is followed by this awful, awful crap. The conspiracy theories about the survivor completely ignore that he was registered on that flight, and there are some ridiculously fantastical 'explanations' for him being alive. No-one of them positive about him.

And yes, of course 90% 'he's not British' comments.

Iceplanet · 13/06/2025 22:20

holymoly56 · 13/06/2025 17:51

Why? There are news stories everywhere understandably. My feed or algorithms don’t dictate what people comment.

If I had infinite time and resources I would try to alert the employers of these people and see how funny they think it is then.

I'm not on socials, are these vile comments under their real identities or just anonymous cowards?

holymoly56 · 13/06/2025 22:17

EdithBond · 13/06/2025 22:10

Surely there’s not anyone who thinks he jumped out of the moving plane?

I agree there’s been some disgusting stuff online. There always is. Depressing to read what goes through some people’s minds. Though lots of bots and other agitators. There are many kind, anti-racist people online too.

Horrific tragedy. Heart breaks for the families.

Who knows what happened. It’s still such early days. But it’s pretty shitty of Geoff off Facebook to start throwing conspiracies around and suggesting there are ulterior motives.

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feelingbleh · 13/06/2025 22:17

Yanbu iv seen some absolutely disgusting things. I don't understand it.

Finetoday · 13/06/2025 22:16

I haven’t read any social media stuff but thought it very strange that the BBC chose to do a 1 hour special on a plane crash, on the actual day of the crash, when they clearly knew exactly nothing, and only had a 4 second clip which was freely available all over the internet. The fact they stretch it out to the 1 hour mark without adding anything to those 4 seconds beggars belief.

EdithBond · 13/06/2025 22:15

LeftieRightsHoarder · 13/06/2025 21:19

Are you sure that’s what Jo Brand said? Surely that would actually be illegal, calling for violence against an identifiable person?

https://www.standard.co.uk/news/uk/jo-brands-joke-battery-acid-politicians-not-be-probed-further-ofcom-a4345691.html

IvanaTinkles · 13/06/2025 22:13

rhomb · 13/06/2025 21:00

I’m the same with my eye condition. When people had surgeries planned they ask, what’s the pain like, what do you do whilst recovering etc. I have given them my experiences, tips on recovering, what do to do etc.

RCE?

EdithBond · 13/06/2025 22:10

holymoly56 · 13/06/2025 19:45

It’s also the sheer arrogance of people “well he couldn’t have been on the flight he just walked away he’d have broken legs if he jumped, he probably was a bystander wanting a free pass to Britain”. Not even in possession of the facts but so convinced their pathetic conspiracies are right.

Surely there’s not anyone who thinks he jumped out of the moving plane?

I agree there’s been some disgusting stuff online. There always is. Depressing to read what goes through some people’s minds. Though lots of bots and other agitators. There are many kind, anti-racist people online too.

Horrific tragedy. Heart breaks for the families.

ThePigandPear · 13/06/2025 22:04

Since the gutter press earn ad accrued kajillions via every click, it would not surprise me in the slightest if a large majority of user comments were AI generated.
This is the attention economy after all, and even negative attention earns billions.

Appalled and intrigued readers from Mumsnet, Reddit, and many other sites will head over to the articles to wring their hands over the state of things and the DM grow steadily richer...

I'm something of a woke centrie/leftie and even I don't believe that the average Brexiteer would wish anything so vile upon others. There certainly are scum amongst us, but still...

I am often surprised at how many MNers patronise the gutter press. It's all a bit grotty.

ClairDeLaLune · 13/06/2025 21:39

LivelyMintViper · 13/06/2025 17:37

Don't know if it's true but I overheard someone saying the survivor opened the emergency door causing the crash. Of course that should not have been possible ..

And there lies the problem. Stupid people repeating rumours and stupid people believing them and passing them on.