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People are just vile

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holymoly56 · 13/06/2025 16:25

Numerous stories about the tragic air India crash all over my socials at the moment. The comments sections are fucking grim. Racist jokes, racist comments, conspiracy theories about the sole survivor, not to mention the gutter press posting photos and names presumably before passengers have been formally identified and families informed.

It’s as though people have become so detached from reality they just don’t care. The fact so many people actually died in such a horrible way seems to be lost on them. No sympathy, not even a respectful silence…they all just want to stick their two penneth in. It’s really bothered me today.

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icelolly12 · 14/06/2025 20:53

Nickisli1 · 14/06/2025 20:11

I've not seen them but that's the sort of thing that would stop me reading a particular outlet/ social media source. I wouldn't go on X or Daily Mail for example as comments are always vile. You cam control what you are exposed to, and as others have said once you start looking at unpleasant content algorithms serve you more

Any news article shared on social media about the crash and victims has plenty of these sort of vile racist comments underneath. There's no point in pretending these vile racists don't exist when they're growing in numbers and getting bolder by the day.

llizzie · 14/06/2025 20:51

My first thought when I heard there was one survivor was: ''If God saved a life, it is to bear witness to what has happened''.

Why do some people express grief by saying outrageous things?

bretta · 14/06/2025 20:50

The overwhelming majority will be bots created by nefarious influences (eg Russia) keen to create social instability in the UK

Rhaenys · 14/06/2025 20:28

I’ve only seen one tweet that says something along the lines of “not being funny, but why is everyone so bothered about a plane crash in India” and everyone else commenting is outraged.

carchi · 14/06/2025 20:24

holymoly56 · 13/06/2025 17:11

Mostly Facebook where the overwhelming number of comments on news articles have been fucking gross. I just can’t understand how are there are so many people who would respond publicly to a tragedy like this with sick jokes and racist comments.

I closed my Facebook account about two months ago because my mental health was definitely being affected by the content. I felt that if I read it that I was then responsible for making sense of it and it's impossible to make sense of the absolute crap thats posted. Also Facebook do not monitor the online abuse that takes place. I feel so much better for not trawling through crap everyday and wasting my time and emotions.

Nickisli1 · 14/06/2025 20:15

holymoly56 · 13/06/2025 23:06

I do know it but I suppose it is surprising just how many people seem to share these views and have zero shame about posting them publicly under their full names.

This is the problem with social media it has become toxic. I don't believe the majority of people hold these views, it just feels like that due to the toxic nature of these platforms and the bots / fake accounts that stir up hatred. We need to do all we can to protect our children from some of the worse sites

Nickisli1 · 14/06/2025 20:11

I've not seen them but that's the sort of thing that would stop me reading a particular outlet/ social media source. I wouldn't go on X or Daily Mail for example as comments are always vile. You cam control what you are exposed to, and as others have said once you start looking at unpleasant content algorithms serve you more

fetchacloth · 14/06/2025 19:41

I would refuse to read comments like that and I certainly would not wade in with any comments of my own, this just encourages these sick people.

It's very sad that some people in this life have no empathy or respect whatsoever. 😪

DrCoconut · 14/06/2025 19:20

KenAdams · 13/06/2025 17:32

Leicestershire Live Facebook page is where they all congregate.

This is why it makes me laugh when people think there's no problem with racism these days. This was always there, its how people always felt. They're just brave enough to say it out loud now.

There absolutely is a problem with racism and it's getting worse again. Just a few years back people wouldn't have dared express such things in public, now they're proud of it. We are heading in such a bad direction as a country.

RichardEdinburgh · 14/06/2025 19:06

The whole situation is horrific. I hate to think how the survivor will be feeling. I hope he gets all the support possible and is kept of the media.
it’s the same on morning radio, they actually play the 999 calls made before tragic events. We really have no right to intrude on what could quite possibly be the worst moments of someone’s life.
the media are scum. But they are like that to feed the public so in many ways they just reflect us.

ThePhantomoftheEcobubbleOpera · 14/06/2025 19:04

There wasn't even a Reform party till ten minutes ago, who were these people voting for then?

Yellowstickerstalker · 14/06/2025 19:04

I agree, some of the comments haunt me.
I’ve been involved in politics for ten years, have had a lot of doorstep conversations and am well aware most of us live in a bubble.
But these cross lines I thought were uncrossable in this day and age.

GiveDogBone · 14/06/2025 19:00

holymoly56 · 13/06/2025 17:11

Mostly Facebook where the overwhelming number of comments on news articles have been fucking gross. I just can’t understand how are there are so many people who would respond publicly to a tragedy like this with sick jokes and racist comments.

Reform voters.

CountryMouse22 · 14/06/2025 18:27

WestwardHo1 · 14/06/2025 11:22

I agree with this so much.

Because of social media, there are so many people labouring under the delusion that free speech means their thoughts are important and worth sharing, even if they are pig ignorant and unpleasant and have no more capacity to think critically than a slug.

" have no more capacity to think critically than a slug."

Good remark.

asrl78 · 14/06/2025 18:27

Racist jokes/comments? That was going around after the Grenfeld disaster as well. Sadly we have to accept there are a lot of scum in society who take advantage of the fact that they can say what they want without fear of having their skull smashed in. An unfortunate side effect of living in a civilised society.

CountryMouse22 · 14/06/2025 18:25

Lalgarh · 13/06/2025 19:21

It’s as though people have become so detached from reality they just don’t care.

That's where screenshots and "receipt 🧾 keeping" comes in.

What does that mean - receipt keeping?

JHound · 14/06/2025 15:17

NCNC2 · 14/06/2025 02:18

The new thing seems to be “send them back” on any photo of someone who isn’t porcelain white and has a name that isn’t smith or jones
like he was born in Manchester, where the fuck do you want him sending back to?!

they should probably do their family tree and realise if we had “sent them back” they wouldn’t exist then they might STFU

Yep.
Or anything referring to a black/ brown / non-white person as Brit / Scottish / French / Swedish etc is full of comments saying “no they’re not - SEND THEM BACK”.

Anybody objecting to that is apparently “Wokey Left”.

SusanSHelit · 14/06/2025 14:31

Absolutely appalling behaviour. I work with some really amazing, caring and highly professional colleagues from India and they are all quite unsurprisingly devastated. Some of them have recently flown with air India and know people who have lost loved ones in the tragedy.

To make vile racist jokes or twist it into conspiracy theories is, as you said op, vile.

Guarantee the shoe would be on the other foot if it was a plane full of white brits.

JumpingDizzy · 14/06/2025 14:26

OffToLockUp · 14/06/2025 14:23

Racist made the usual noises about ‘but I didn't mean you, you are ok?’

GP reported racist to the police under hate crime.

Racist deregistered from surgery (by the surgery) as relationships have broken down.

Glad they got chucked out of the surgery.

OffToLockUp · 14/06/2025 14:23

TooSquaretobehip · 13/06/2025 23:18

Oh goodness, @OffToLockUp , what did the parent/GP say to the racist? Did she say anything? Did the racist seem horrified it was her doctor?

Racist made the usual noises about ‘but I didn't mean you, you are ok?’

GP reported racist to the police under hate crime.

Racist deregistered from surgery (by the surgery) as relationships have broken down.

WestwardHo1 · 14/06/2025 11:22

TomatoSandwiches · 13/06/2025 23:54

I remember when people used to keep their mouths shut because they didn't want to embarrass themselves as they new they weren't bright because people had the common sense to roll their eyes when they opened their mouths or told them to shut up!

SM has given all sorts of people the impression that their thoughts are facts, the next thicko ticks the like button and the external validation grows and the next comment gets even more attention and so the cycle continues.

Most people are disgusting.

I agree with this so much.

Because of social media, there are so many people labouring under the delusion that free speech means their thoughts are important and worth sharing, even if they are pig ignorant and unpleasant and have no more capacity to think critically than a slug.

NCNC2 · 14/06/2025 02:18

The new thing seems to be “send them back” on any photo of someone who isn’t porcelain white and has a name that isn’t smith or jones
like he was born in Manchester, where the fuck do you want him sending back to?!

they should probably do their family tree and realise if we had “sent them back” they wouldn’t exist then they might STFU

Anxious2024 · 14/06/2025 02:05

I have been shocked by the same thing OP.

SnowFrogJelly · 14/06/2025 01:01

Suggest you don’t look at social media and read a book instead

PointsSouth · 14/06/2025 00:37

LivelyMintViper · 13/06/2025 17:37

Don't know if it's true but I overheard someone saying the survivor opened the emergency door causing the crash. Of course that should not have been possible ..

That’s helpful. Thanks for that.