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People are just vile

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holymoly56 · 13/06/2025 16:25

Numerous stories about the tragic air India crash all over my socials at the moment. The comments sections are fucking grim. Racist jokes, racist comments, conspiracy theories about the sole survivor, not to mention the gutter press posting photos and names presumably before passengers have been formally identified and families informed.

It’s as though people have become so detached from reality they just don’t care. The fact so many people actually died in such a horrible way seems to be lost on them. No sympathy, not even a respectful silence…they all just want to stick their two penneth in. It’s really bothered me today.

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LBFseBrom · 18/06/2025 11:31

Braygirlnow · 17/06/2025 09:03

I gave up on Facebook 5 or 6 yrs ago it's full of conspiracy theorists, fake stories and vile racist haters.

It does have a lot of that, I agree. It's quite an eye opener! However it does have other things which are more pleasant. I do think FB is coming to a natural end though, it's far less busy than it was.

llizzie · 17/06/2025 20:25

Braygirlnow · 17/06/2025 09:03

I gave up on Facebook 5 or 6 yrs ago it's full of conspiracy theorists, fake stories and vile racist haters.

But you need to know what people are saying. Forewarned is forearmed, and all that.

Braygirlnow · 17/06/2025 09:03

I gave up on Facebook 5 or 6 yrs ago it's full of conspiracy theorists, fake stories and vile racist haters.

ContraryNoodle · 15/06/2025 13:10

I am still puzzled about this. I am on social media including Facebook with a fairly high number of friends and followers (it helps with my art work) and I have not seen a single nasty comment. The only mentions I have seen are people expressing sorrow and sympathy for the loved ones. I am not suggesting that there aren't any nasty comments. But I do think that as far as social media is concerned, there are algorithms that filter out different posts and shapes what we see.

Plainplantain · 15/06/2025 11:14

Sample of FB 'discussion' on the interview with the survivor, posted by The Telegraph 😔

People are just vile
Snakebite61 · 15/06/2025 11:09

holymoly56 · 13/06/2025 16:25

Numerous stories about the tragic air India crash all over my socials at the moment. The comments sections are fucking grim. Racist jokes, racist comments, conspiracy theories about the sole survivor, not to mention the gutter press posting photos and names presumably before passengers have been formally identified and families informed.

It’s as though people have become so detached from reality they just don’t care. The fact so many people actually died in such a horrible way seems to be lost on them. No sympathy, not even a respectful silence…they all just want to stick their two penneth in. It’s really bothered me today.

Sounds like your typical tory/reform voter.
Vile people are naturally attracted to them.

Noononoo · 15/06/2025 10:45

There is no such thing as ‘Facebook’ as regards their attitude. You create your own Facebook based on algorithms, based on what you have liked posted and approved in the past. I got no comments on the crash just my normal stuff: against animal cruelty for beautiful gardens and lots of lively doggy stuff, Oh and some heartening gender critical and women’s rights. It should be a place you recognize and feel comfortable in.
The crash was too awful for words. Heartbreaking.
Got more stuff on crash on X-Twitter but all heartfelt.
Make sure you bother to approve of positive things and ignore the horrid and negative or it will come back and bite you. The algorithm thinks it is pleasing you with these comments so take note - ignore all you disapprove of. I think even arguing will show you are responding. They are powerful free tools but you have to be very aware how to use them.

Wadadli · 15/06/2025 07:48

Whoops: I attempted to quote someone’s comment but unfortunately it didn’t attach to mine 🤣😜😇

ByNattyScroller · 15/06/2025 06:39

I totally agree. I can’t stand Jimmy Carr and think he’s an insecure, immature k**b, and as for Frankie Boyle I will always turn the channel over if he’s on anything l. He’s absolutely vile. Regarding the initial post. I’m currently having problems with fb so I can’t comment, but if this is true, then I hope Karma pays a visit to these awful beings. I totally despair of the human race sometimes 😔 and would rather spend my time around animals- obviously the furry kind🐕 🐈

ForQuirkyFawn · 15/06/2025 02:54

Some people are vile....like all reform voters..haha

Theshsmpoo · 15/06/2025 02:01

Don't look op, basically a toilet wall for every idiot that thinks they're clever/funny. and thinks we are all drooling to hear whatever thought bubble farts across their brain.

llizzie · 15/06/2025 01:14

Lalgarh · 14/06/2025 20:55

Basically keeping screenshots of the relevant comments. Receipt keeping = keeping evidence.

Just in case in about X months time they pop up in some other context. It's why quite a lot of various elected officials end up having to sheepishly apologise or even resign for various bits of bile they were happily spouting 🐳 in their echo chamber

Do you think reporters say 'too much' sometimes? If there are two BBC reporters covering the same news like this, they ask each other questions - I am thinking of the time they discovered someone survived - and carry on a conversation which includes speculation?

The BBC has a 'verified' system and now it seems that everyone thinks everything is verified. That is the problem with fine ideas - they don't always work out that way, and some people who listen cannot understand the difference, hence you get the posts on social media.

Lindajonesjustcantlivemylife · 15/06/2025 01:11

T1Dmama · 15/06/2025 01:09

??

I wondered about that one but really didn't want to ask.

T1Dmama · 15/06/2025 01:09

Wadadli · 14/06/2025 23:08

Fucking good!

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T1Dmama · 15/06/2025 01:08

I personally haven’t seen anything vile.
lots of people don’t believe the survivor was on the plane… not sure where he’d have got a boarding pass from though (he presented one).
The only speculation I’ve seen is that he jumped out of the emergency exit which is seat was located next to… OR the plane snapped in half and ejected him as he’d removed seatbelt.
My friend was also upset by the comments and jokes .. but like I say I haven’t seen those

Wadadli · 14/06/2025 23:08

Fucking good!

Laurmolonlabe · 14/06/2025 22:46

TBH I don't go out of my way to follow news stories-ever. It's easy to blame social media, but vile comments have always been out there- social media just makes it quicker and easier. I don't like an hour by hour assault on my faith in human nature-so I just don't follow news stories.

Nickisli1 · 14/06/2025 21:40

TinySaltLick · 14/06/2025 21:01

On social media, you're grossly underestimating the targeting and orchestration of what you are presented with. The comments you see, the ordering, the timing, the tone, the users - is absolutely targeted and personalised to maximise engagement. Every interaction, scroll movement, screen dwell time - is recorded and the algorithms use this to maximise ad revenue.

You can prove this easily enough - get a few people to look at the same posts, you don't all see the same comments

Agree. Social media is hugely different to how it was a few years ago - it is hugely targeted /manipulated and creates a distorted reality

Flomingho · 14/06/2025 21:39

I feel exactly the same. Some of the comments on SM and newspaper websites have been utterly vile not to mention racist and lacking empathy for the victims and their families.

icelolly12 · 14/06/2025 21:34

bretta · 14/06/2025 21:14

I'm familiar with X (obviously rife with bots) but not Facebook; how do you know an account is legitimate?

Click on their profile and see their history if its public access, often they have photos with family, other people posting on their page, info about them, where they work etc.

bretta · 14/06/2025 21:14

icelolly12 · 14/06/2025 20:55

Nope, it's facebook profiles that are everyday people. The racism at the minute in the UK is scary.

I'm familiar with X (obviously rife with bots) but not Facebook; how do you know an account is legitimate?

ACatCalledPuss · 14/06/2025 21:14

Agree. I never normally go on X but read a post the other day condemning the racism riots in NI and some of the comments underneath it completely shocked and depressed me. Hard to believe that such people and opinions exist. I suppose on a daily basis you are surrounded by people with similar backgrounds and views to your own (friends and family, even work colleagues) so it is a shock to be faced with comments from people with completely different values.

TinySaltLick · 14/06/2025 21:01

BellissimoGecko · 13/06/2025 17:25

@ArtTheClownIsNotAMime- Your algorithms might decide on the stories, but they don’t decide on the comments you see!! I’ve seen some stories from people/organisations I’ve never heard of on FB. And many of the comments are absolutely vile.

On social media, you're grossly underestimating the targeting and orchestration of what you are presented with. The comments you see, the ordering, the timing, the tone, the users - is absolutely targeted and personalised to maximise engagement. Every interaction, scroll movement, screen dwell time - is recorded and the algorithms use this to maximise ad revenue.

You can prove this easily enough - get a few people to look at the same posts, you don't all see the same comments

icelolly12 · 14/06/2025 20:55

bretta · 14/06/2025 20:50

The overwhelming majority will be bots created by nefarious influences (eg Russia) keen to create social instability in the UK

Nope, it's facebook profiles that are everyday people. The racism at the minute in the UK is scary.

Lalgarh · 14/06/2025 20:55

CountryMouse22 · 14/06/2025 18:25

What does that mean - receipt keeping?

Basically keeping screenshots of the relevant comments. Receipt keeping = keeping evidence.

Just in case in about X months time they pop up in some other context. It's why quite a lot of various elected officials end up having to sheepishly apologise or even resign for various bits of bile they were happily spouting 🐳 in their echo chamber

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