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To think 70% of people shouldn’t be in A&E

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PrettyPleaseXo · 13/06/2025 07:47

Recently I was admitted in excruciating pain to A&E due to kidney stones. Over the time I was there it got progressively busier as expected and there was corridor care (I was stuck in a corridor without pain relief and crying in pain for two hours) and ambulances backed up out the door.

When I was discharged and went back out through the A&E reception/wait room I couldn’t help but notice
that 80% of the people sat there looked perfectly fine, chatting etc and didn’t appear to be in either an accident or emergency.

AIBU to think that unless you’re seriously unwell, in acute pain or have an injury that needs immediately addressing you should be turned away from A&E and told to go
to the GP instead?

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LucyLoo1972 · 10/01/2026 21:53

curious79 · 13/06/2025 08:10

Clearly, if people have a low-level problem, they shouldn’t be in A&E. But I had bad wind once that felt like I was about to die or have a burst appendix, and it wasn’t until I let out the largest fart that I knew that’s what it was.

YABU - yes there are some malingerers I am sure but the majority of people don’t want to spend 12 hours of their day having something minor checked out and we are not our own personal x-rays.

I love this. Did you let the fart out in the A and E waiting room?

Arran2024 · 08/11/2025 23:09

I was sent to A& E at a bigger hospital by my local A & E for a quinsy on my tonsils. I had no obvious symptoms to look at but I had a huge boil filled with pus in my throat and was seen very quickly as it was a proper emergency - the board said 8 hour wait but I was seen in 10 minutes by an ENT specialist, who lanced the quinsy. Then i was properly ill as pus inevitably gets into the body, and I had to be admitted.

marmaladeandpeanutbutter · 08/11/2025 22:35

On the whole I think that people who say that others “look” like they shouldn’t be in A and E are talking bullshit. You don't know anything about other people or their issues.

There are people who shouldn’t be in A and E and are time wasters, but there are others who need to be seen somewhere and are not being.

x2boys · 08/11/2025 08:10

Kendodd · 13/06/2025 07:56

I read once some opinion that A&E have triage the wrong way around. Instead of a nurse on triage, they should have the most senior doctor on duty on triage. This doctor would then just send loads of people home, often after minor/advice treatment. This way loads of patients would only have to see one HCP not two, cutting workload and waiting times. There must be some reason why hospitals don't do this though.

I can see what you mean but if you have someone admitted with a life threatening condition, you probably need your most senior and experienced staff, you dont need them to to be assessing cut lips and swollen fingers etc.

BogRollBOGOF · 08/11/2025 08:00

DS had a spate of going down to A&E with asthma, concussion and injuries.
One Saturday night he was ambulanced in and needed to stay in the GP lead zone for a medication review. A couple of hours into the wait the Dr said that he was the only one on duty (for that zone), he had 32 patients waiting for him and that waits were at least 6 hours (an all-nighter). 3 minutes later, half the families in the waiting room had left.

There are a lot of families that end up there for routine illnesses because they're struggling to access GP care either from time of day or avaliability. Sometimes it's lack of confidence in self-care, or other services like pharmacies or accessing Out Of Hours. One one occasion a family said openly that they were there to get anti-biotics for their child's cold 🤦‍♀️ (a few days later I had Covid... if that's where I caught it, anti-biotics would have been no use!)

You can't generally see worthiness to be down there by casual looking though.

DS has often been tired, pale and grey round the eyes, but sometimes that's the recovery from asthma or on another occasion he was in surgery within 8 hours of arrival.

The biggest issue is access to primary care.

Dolphinnoises · 08/11/2025 07:37

Last time I was in A&E it was with DD who had delayed concussion. My mum went with a heart attack which was a slow burner. Some people with broken arms / legs are ok if they don’t put weight on it…

SoftBalletShoes · 08/11/2025 01:57

I couldn’t help but notice that 80% of the people sat there looked perfectly fine, chatting etc and didn’t appear to be in either an accident or emergency.

You are being v v unreasonable. You have no idea at all what's wrong with people. My late father, when he was admitted to hospital for the last time, would have fit your criteria above. In fact, he had a soon-to-turn-dangerous fecal impaction due to his secondary terminal lung cancer, which had spread to his bones. He died three weeks later. Yet he walked into A&E that day, sent there moaning and groaning about the fuss, because he had diarrhea which can signal a potentially serious side effect of his immunotherapy, so anyone with that profile needs to be seen asap.

Likewise my mother seemed TOTALLY FINE to the naked eye when she had terminal cancer, except for the last three weeks. But people in that situation have a million things going on in their bodies which can take them down pretty fast.

Another example is AIDS, where the virus hides in "pockets" all over your body and, if you can't get your meds for some reason, or something else is going on, those "pockets" are the reason you can get very sick, very quickly. They all activate at once. But in the early stages of that happening, a casual observer wouldn't know.

ETA: I went to A&E with chest pain, had an initial EKG which was fine, but then I had to wait for a lung scan because they were concerned I had a blood clot in my chest from a long flight. Which I did, but I still looked normal. You wouldn't have known I had chest pain to look at me.

It's actually incredible what serious trouble people can be in and look OK - before getting worse.

manywanderings · 08/11/2025 01:45

I think the reason is, there aren't enough Doctors! Partly. Ideally everyone would be triaged by a Dr straight away and sent on one path or another or discharged. eg sent for x ray or bloods - and that's when the delay kicks in - the investigations get done quickly but then a Dr has to review everything and there aren't enough of them for everyone. I also think it's just the way the system is and "systems" get stuck in mindsets. Nurses are all doing things that Dr's used to do now - taking bloods, doing ecg's etc. In fact it was a healthcare assistant that did my first ecg - not even a nurse. I asked if it looked normal and she said oh I can't read them I;m just a healthcare assistant. So that would be one way of reducing time. If the person doing the ecg was actually qualified to read it and say yes that's fine or no that needs further investigation.

CoffeeCantata · 06/11/2025 16:29

Kendodd · 13/06/2025 07:56

I read once some opinion that A&E have triage the wrong way around. Instead of a nurse on triage, they should have the most senior doctor on duty on triage. This doctor would then just send loads of people home, often after minor/advice treatment. This way loads of patients would only have to see one HCP not two, cutting workload and waiting times. There must be some reason why hospitals don't do this though.

Plus a huge bouncer to see people off the premises.

And patients should be limited to one accompanying adult. If two need to come to the hospital (eg one to drive and one other) the plus one should wait in the cafe or the car.

Laserwho · 06/11/2025 15:02

So OP you where crying in pain, does that make you more worthy? Other people where chatting, that actually works because it can take your mind off your pain. Last time I was in A&e for myself I was admitted for a week, I wasn't crying in pain I sat there in silence waiting. In your eyes I didn't need to be there. When I've been there for my kids theyve had appendicitis, dislocated bones and allergic reactions. They needed to be in A&e every time but they didn't scream or cry they played with toys or watched a video. But in your eyes they shouldn't have been there. You carnt diagnose with your eyes walking through a waiting room

FurCoatNoKnickz · 06/11/2025 14:45

I also don’t believe there are people sitting there waiting for ten hours with a broken nail. I think it is propaganda.

manywanderings · 05/11/2025 19:48

I don’t think it’s fair point. The problem is with the health service , not the patients. Lack of staff and beds. I was in A&E recently with chest pain and had been told to ring for an ambulance. Got there about 5pm and it was heaving. You get the initial triage with a nurse quite quickly (ecg and bloods) and then it’s the long wait to see a Dr. 10 hours in my case. During that time they go round doing BP pulse etc and ask about pain levels. That is another indication of who needs to be seen quicker and who can wait. In addition to all the people waiting they have critical admissions coming in from another entrance by ambulance- really critical people - on the point of death ,road traffic accidents etc - you dont see everything from a waiting area - they quite rightly get prioritised - everyone else is lower priority. It’s not right but they are understaffed and not enough Doctors.

Im also disabled and sitting in one position for 10 hours was very bad for me - but I wasn’t as critical as some because my observations were fairly stable despite a pulse rate of over 100 and chest pain. But the pain wasn’t excruciating.

During my 10 hour wait two people gave up and left. One was in a lot of pain and said it was her pancreas .She had raised this a few times but eventually said she count stand being in pain any longer - I assume she left to go and get some painkillers elsewhere. Even though that might have been dangerous if something later ruptured.

One person collapsed and the crash team had to come out. Two people were vomiting violently for hours. One very distressed.

We are all high priority - there just sent enough Doctors. I couldn’t be seen until a Dr had seen my ecg. And they then wanted to admit me. But as it was 4am by then they said wait for the day Consultant - then decided not to admit me because bloods were ok and the consultant decided it wasn’t bad enough and could be viral and see if it improved but told to come back to urgent daycare centre if it got worse. So I was a borderline admission.

Everyone was wonderful but the wait was horrendous. I can’t see how it can be improved other than more Doctors available.

And it really isn’t good enough. It’s almost a third world system.

workingallthetimenow · 21/06/2025 10:01

PrettyPleaseXo · 13/06/2025 07:47

Recently I was admitted in excruciating pain to A&E due to kidney stones. Over the time I was there it got progressively busier as expected and there was corridor care (I was stuck in a corridor without pain relief and crying in pain for two hours) and ambulances backed up out the door.

When I was discharged and went back out through the A&E reception/wait room I couldn’t help but notice
that 80% of the people sat there looked perfectly fine, chatting etc and didn’t appear to be in either an accident or emergency.

AIBU to think that unless you’re seriously unwell, in acute pain or have an injury that needs immediately addressing you should be turned away from A&E and told to go
to the GP instead?

Most are there because you cant even get to see a GP for 4 weeks in some areas thats the issue. If they had turned my mother away at A& E recently she would have died, although she was also able to chat while waiting.

BlueandWhitePorcelain · 20/06/2025 18:25

Thursst0n · 16/06/2025 12:16

None which has anything to do with this thread or other patients who are entitled to privacy and not to have their health diagnosed by others who aren’t even patients.

Well, why don’t you have a go at OP? If anyone is an armchair diagnostician, OP is!

I didn’t start the thread, where OP can apparently diagnose 70% of people at A & E as time wasters; when there’s been a zillion threads already on groups of people laughing, eating, etc along with one patient in A & E?

Or is it, you just don’t like that I get to sit for 6 hours or more in A & E with a doctor, who does have 10 years of training and experience in dealing with patients, has worked with the staff there, and can make some actual diagnoses?

I had to call 999 between 1 - 3 times a week to DD1, who can die at any time with a life threatening condition; and we spent 100s of hours, watching time wasters in A & E. I can’t be bothered to start threads about it, because as the said doctor tells us, people have lost the ability to self monitor and treat minor conditions with OTC drugs. What is needed is more education and posters frothing at the mouth on MN is not going to change the behaviour, until then.

pestowithwalnuts · 19/06/2025 18:23

PrettyPleaseXo · 13/06/2025 07:47

Recently I was admitted in excruciating pain to A&E due to kidney stones. Over the time I was there it got progressively busier as expected and there was corridor care (I was stuck in a corridor without pain relief and crying in pain for two hours) and ambulances backed up out the door.

When I was discharged and went back out through the A&E reception/wait room I couldn’t help but notice
that 80% of the people sat there looked perfectly fine, chatting etc and didn’t appear to be in either an accident or emergency.

AIBU to think that unless you’re seriously unwell, in acute pain or have an injury that needs immediately addressing you should be turned away from A&E and told to go
to the GP instead?

I feel your pain OP.
I also attended AE for kidney stones...the pain was terrible. There were lots of people in the waiting who didn't look ill/ in pain but there were a few who did. Me being one. Thankfully I didn't have to wait too long. My sister who was with me said I looked terrible so maybe that and the constant vomiting got me in quicker

FedupofArsenalgame · 19/06/2025 17:53

Thursst0n · 16/06/2025 12:16

None which has anything to do with this thread or other patients who are entitled to privacy and not to have their health diagnosed by others who aren’t even patients.

Yet apparently it's ok for doctors receptionist to diagnose health in the other thread lol

spicemaiden · 19/06/2025 07:56

puffinchuffin · 18/06/2025 18:13

Where as i live in a mid sized city, i called at 8.10 becuase i missed the 8am rush, had an appointment for 8.45, and it ended up being far more complex than initially thought, i was at the GP 2.5 hours, saw the dr, then a HCA for ecg and obs, then back to the GP who referred me, then called me an hour after i got home to add on more investigations, its definitely luck of the draw as it where you live.

I also live in a mid sized city: 8am phone call, 13th queue, told ‘no appointments’. Next day, 8am phone call, 17th in queue, told ‘no appointments’. And if you’re lucky enough to get an ‘appointment’ this will consist of you having to sit with your phone until they call and then arranging an appointment after the 1st appointment. I’ve had the 1st appointment as late as 3:45pm. And entire day waiting for the phone call (and unable to work) to then tell me to turn up at the surgery at 4:30.

puffinchuffin · 18/06/2025 18:13

MoominUnderWater · 18/06/2025 10:53

I’ve today tried to contact my gp surgery.

Can’t get through on the phone and it’s just a recorded message saying they’ve reached capacity for the day. Try again tomorrow or ring 111 or go to a&e.

so they can’t be surprised if people do as they’re told and go to a &e.

our village has doubled in size in the last few years. The number of Gps has got less as not replaced one when they retired 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Where as i live in a mid sized city, i called at 8.10 becuase i missed the 8am rush, had an appointment for 8.45, and it ended up being far more complex than initially thought, i was at the GP 2.5 hours, saw the dr, then a HCA for ecg and obs, then back to the GP who referred me, then called me an hour after i got home to add on more investigations, its definitely luck of the draw as it where you live.

Fizbosshoes · 18/06/2025 11:39

MoominUnderWater · 18/06/2025 10:53

I’ve today tried to contact my gp surgery.

Can’t get through on the phone and it’s just a recorded message saying they’ve reached capacity for the day. Try again tomorrow or ring 111 or go to a&e.

so they can’t be surprised if people do as they’re told and go to a &e.

our village has doubled in size in the last few years. The number of Gps has got less as not replaced one when they retired 🤷🏻‍♀️

Edited

A few years ago, DS had an ear infection that hadn't cleared up after a course of anti biotics. The Dr said to go back if it was no better after the antibiotics. For 3 days I called the GP surgery as soon as the phone lines opened, waited in a queue for 40 min/until appointments for the day ran out (having to be late - and make up time - for work each time) on day 3 we gave up and went to a walk in centre attached to a hospital. We waited for an hour, saw a GP who prescribed sone different antibiotics and all was fine.
We were lucky to have that facility available (it was a 20 min drive away v 10 minute walk to GP surgery) but it was a lot of time and effort for a pretty simple issue.
If the problem had got worse and I couldn't access the walk in centre I guess we might have ended up in A and E.

MoominUnderWater · 18/06/2025 10:53

I’ve today tried to contact my gp surgery.

Can’t get through on the phone and it’s just a recorded message saying they’ve reached capacity for the day. Try again tomorrow or ring 111 or go to a&e.

so they can’t be surprised if people do as they’re told and go to a &e.

our village has doubled in size in the last few years. The number of Gps has got less as not replaced one when they retired 🤷🏻‍♀️

GretaGreen · 17/06/2025 22:27

FeministUnderTheCatriarchy · 17/06/2025 11:51

This is likely accurate for some people, but definitely not all.

The reality is that for a lot of people the GP wait times are absolutely crazy. In some cases the person's condition wouldn't get worse with a wait, but a lot of people's would.

A GP receptionist can't reliably judge what is urgent or not when a patient likely doesn't know either.

I nearly died of sepsis due to my gallbladder. I had to wait weeks for an appointment despite the fact that I was passing out from the pain and throwing up for hours. By the time I got to my GP appointment I could barely walk and was rushed straight to hospital where they operated.

I wish I hadn't waited for that GP appointment and instead had taken myself to hospital. I would have avoided emergency surgery, 6 days in hospital and terrifying all my loved ones.

I've never spoken rudely to any medical staff, ever. And I don't condone rudeness, but people who are more quiet and don't advocate for themselves enough can be in life threatening situations due to the current wait times.

And you may say I should have realised it was a situation that deserved A&E and I was stupid to wait... But we hear about time wasters so often that I was scared of being one.

We are told to patiently wait for GP appointments and not to fill up A&E... But it doesn't really stop the attention seekers, it just stops those who are scared of doing the wrong thing.

There's a balance somewhere, but the current system isn't it.

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I was the same as you. Bleeding internally from a ruptured ectopic pregnancy. I was in agony but carried on, when I eventually went to a GP and he said he was going to call an ambulance I said that was a bit dramatic and got dh to drive me instead 😳. I collapsed outside the door of A&E, lost almost half of my blood and nearly died because I didn't want to waste people's times with stomach pain. Like you say it sounds stupid but it happens.

I will never hesitate to seek help again and always encourage others to do the same. The consequences of not doing it can literally be life or death.

Arran2024 · 17/06/2025 21:54

Of course the big question is where would those 70% go instead?

Badbadbunny · 17/06/2025 20:43

AnneElliott · 17/06/2025 18:35

Well it was the staffs theory @taxguruand I think they are better placed than you or I to make that judgement call.

Nhs staff are notorious for patient blaming!

AnneElliott · 17/06/2025 18:35

Well it was the staffs theory @taxguruand I think they are better placed than you or I to make that judgement call.

taxguru · 17/06/2025 17:28

AnneElliott · 17/06/2025 12:15

Yes I was going to say the same. My friend ended up In a&E on Sunday and it was really quiet. She mentioned it to the staff and they said it’s because it was Father’s Day so most people had something going on!

My MIL spent 48 hours in A&E over New Year's Day, so that theory isn't valid as I'm sure most people have something better to do on NYD! It was absolutely heaving, with ambulances parked up outside into the road and people on trolleys in the corridors.

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