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Imaginedinos · 2025-06-12T21:50:15+00:00

what will a judge do if DC (11) want to live with their dad full time? How much weight do they give to a child’s “opinion” at that age. Has anyone else been through similar?

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Imaginedinos · 13/06/2025 08:38

Ablondiebutagoody · 13/06/2025 00:14

What's wrong with 50:50?

Well I’m the primary parent and I’ll hardly ever see dc mainly

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Ablondiebutagoody · 13/06/2025 00:14

What's wrong with 50:50?

StormBrewin · 13/06/2025 00:03

It’s very unusual for a child that age to have such strength of feeling.

Lightuptheroom · 12/06/2025 23:27

So 70/30 with you being the 70? Surely an extra 20% wouldn't have been a huge difference? What are your reasons for refusing to the point its going to court? Very gently (I divorced 20 years ago with a then 3 year old so I do understand) we can become entrenched in our own feelings and forget that the child has feelings too.

BookArt55 · 12/06/2025 23:24

What are the reasons DC is giving for wanting that?

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Imaginedinos · 12/06/2025 23:22

Lightuptheroom · 12/06/2025 22:57

Normally they will take 'wishes and feelings' into account from around age 10. But, they also look at whether its safe, what the current arrangements are etc.
How often do they see dad at the moment and what is the child's reasoning for wanting to move full time? Are you anywhere near 50/50 at the moment? If you are could it be increased slightly in dad's favour? Importantly does dad want them there full time and can living arrangements accommodate this? Could you trial it for the school holidays and see if it works?
Why has it ended up in court? The judge would also ask a carcass officer to speak to the child and write a report and may appoint a 'guardian' for the child.

70/30. He’s asking for 50/50 and has taken it to court, dc have decided they want to be there full time. Terrified it will happen.

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Lightuptheroom · 12/06/2025 22:57

Normally they will take 'wishes and feelings' into account from around age 10. But, they also look at whether its safe, what the current arrangements are etc.
How often do they see dad at the moment and what is the child's reasoning for wanting to move full time? Are you anywhere near 50/50 at the moment? If you are could it be increased slightly in dad's favour? Importantly does dad want them there full time and can living arrangements accommodate this? Could you trial it for the school holidays and see if it works?
Why has it ended up in court? The judge would also ask a carcass officer to speak to the child and write a report and may appoint a 'guardian' for the child.