Called Unsociable 10 year old a fat c*nt

Okay … you shouldn’t have called him that … the ‘C’ word is never acceptable imo.

however… enough of this holier than thou rhetoric … you were being intimidated by a shitty boy on a electric scooter.. any woman would feel the same, no one should be treated like this and yes, the threat of harm is always present, regardless of the kids age.

The fact the father was so unable to control this little delight just shows what the future holds.

Stop beating yourself up … we’ve all got lost it in situations like this, kids need boundaries, and I’m sure to god he’ll get called a lot worse if this behaviour continues without being addressed.

Well he was fat and he was a cunt. I don’t think OP was too wide of the mark. In retrospect, I’m sure OP wishes she’d have gone high, not low, but it’s hard to get a reaction like this spot on.

I don’t really believe in corporal punishment and definitely not from strangers. But if said fat little cunt knew there was a thick ear at there end of this behaviour perhaps he’d just be fat rather than a fat cunt. And if he was as close and aggressive as you say, a slap or a boot off his scooter would be self-defence.

it sounds like you were provoked . . . It’s not an ideal way of dealing with the situation but I’d forget it, forgive yourself and move on and go to M&S during school hours.

😂🤣 fair

I thought it meant "if you called my child that I'd beat you up so hard that where to go shopping would be the least of your worries"

I love that your first concern is the (mis)use of inverted commas. It borders on outrage. 😁

This is what I think.

And as for the pps saying bravo for sinking to his level and teaching him a lesson, no it won’t: it’s showing him that hitting back with insults ( and in one of the anecdotes with actual physical violence) then lying or not coming clean about it wins the day.

This thread is like high-fiving the bullies.

It’s no wonder children don’t know how to behave.

Can’t believe people are applauding adults for winning a kid’s game. You pull them up on their behaviour of course, but civilly and openly. It turns out even his dad was there - quite beyond the m and s staff. There was plenty op could have done to deal with it like an adult.

Absolutely - it both depresses and amazes me that here on MN you can often count to 10 and then someone will appear to defend the totally indefensible! Why? Do they really think anti-social behaviour is OK?

Of course it's going to be the result of parental failure on some level, but in the first instance the child's bad behaviour needs to be called out and stopped. OK, OP was inappropriate, but I empathise with the anger they felt.

All those people who are shocked by the OP - what damage do you think has been done to the child by being called a fat cunt by someone he was deliberately harassing and intimidating?

He’ll be surrounded by excellent role models, I guarantee it. There’ll be adults at school modelling good behaviour all the time. He’s clearly not taking the blindest bit of notice - until an adult in the wild finally snaps, and then he runs to daddy.

He’s probably learned a valuable lesson - shit behaviour outside school may result in being called a fat cunt, or even getting a fat lip. Not everyone in life will sit you on a beanbag and offer you juice and biscuits when you’re kicking off.

This is a Ricky Gervais sketch isn’t it? The kid calls him a pedo and he says ‘if I was a pedo, you’d be safe you fat cunt’ or something along those lines.

There’s a perfect way to respond and there’s a perfectly inappropriate way to respond, how about a middle ground where you don’t use insults and swear words? To a child?! Just because a child is behaving appallingly you don’t respond like that for goodness sake.

Not your finest moment, but these kids push people’s buttons.
He’ll get over it.

This is important because he definitely sounds like a c**t.

Of course it's not ok to call a kid that! Bloody hell.

Well, fat shaming is really non PC nowadays...

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Full marks to the dad for not sticking up for him unconditionally - how refreshing. But - he clearly wasn't doing his parenting right.
I normally think that minimum wage staff cannot be expected to deal with anti-social customers, but I would have thought that M & S managers are paid enough and trained enough to deal with this. What on earth was he doing on his scooter inside the store?

No - I think this obnoxious boy was vile.

However, I don't think you can say so. OP - 'unsociable' is a very mild descriptor - this boy was anti-social at the least and his behaviour is really concerning. I agree that you should have said something - but not that! "Please get out of my way. Where is your adult?" would have been more appropriate, but I get that you were really riled with him.

Full marks to the dad for not sticking up for him unconditionally

Ah it's just a word, and one he could have avoided being called if he had behaved in a civilised manner.
The reason people, adults or kids, behave this way is because there's no concequences and because others are in a rush to defend them and blame the other person for reacting to a situation pushed on them by someone else, usually with the intent of getting a reaction and then being the poor hapless victim.
I don't rise to this sort of stuff because it pisses them off more, they want their actions to affect other people negatively and cause a reaction and it's far more impactful on them to act a bit bored with it and just carry on, they're not as important as they think they are then.
But I absolutely see why people do snap because there's only so much anyone can take, and I don't blame anyone who does.

So when your child is behaving badly or having a tantrum you ‘discipline’ them by insulting them and swearing at them? The child undoubtedly behaved appallingly but it’s up to the adult to behave like an adult in this scenario. Her reaction will have given that child the impression that that’s how adults behave so it’s ok for him to continue.

It takes a village to raise a child. This was the village raising the child.

I maybe would have gone with little shit or something, fat c*nt is more offensive lol but i do get where you are coming from and sometimes something just snaps and it comes out, they are intimidating and some don't actually give a shit.
The problem here was his dad, if he was 'trying' to get his 11 year old home, and if he stood there while his son verbally abused you then that explains to you the kids attitude. Unfortunately some parents don't know how to parent and let their kids do and say whatever they want.

You are out if order but i can’t help laugh OP 😆 😆

This.

You were unreasonably bad, but it did make me laugh. I bet that kid was gobsmacked, they don't expect respectable people to act in the same manner as themselves.
You should have modelled good behaviour, I am sure you would have turned his life around, if you had said 'go away you naughty boy'.
As it was, at least you made him think!

Honestly? If my child was going round insulting and intimidating people I would tell them they deserved everything they got. The op might have overreacted slightly but the kid shouldn't have been doing what he was doing in the first place and people don't always react in a perfect way to a stressful situation.