Called Unsociable 10 year old a fat c*nt

I suppose the question I ask is what is more damaging; a child being verbally slapped down by an adult for appalling, belittling, intimidating and possibly sexist behaviour, or a child not receiving any timely consequence for the above. I think the latter is more damaging.

“If you called my kid a fat c*nt I’d do this and that”.
He was insulting the OP and I’m imagining others, and his dad couldn’t control him. He’ll experience worse if he doesn’t wise up.
I wouldn’t worry about it OP, next time he’ll be on the end of a slap after calling someone a fucking bitch again.

Ricky Gervais did it in the first episode of After Life and that was funny. But in real life you should probably avoid the slurs. I’d have focused on the chubby aspect instead if he really was chubby because it’d have hurt more than the C word.

That's just saying the same vague thing again. It clarifies nothing. Do you mean you would assault them? Or just go red in the face and angrily use hurty words?

It's not great. What bothers me is the kids dad was like no she didn't . I remember not being believed as a kid and its horrible - you feel like you don't exist. You address the behaviour , you don't throw insults

This thread has made my morning 😂😂😂

Op, your use of language was a tad colourful but it is what it is. You lost control. It happens. Move on. You clearly feel terrible and acknowledge what you did was wrong. Next time just be mindful of the triggers and respond accordingly.

I do feel there’s a clear lack of respect amongst the young nowadays. Not saying all before people jump down my throat. I have a lot of teacher friends and the stories they share about behaviour is shocking.

I’ve never needed the laugh emoji more! Hilarious answer..

Tried to tag you in the post above but somehow deleted it. I’m not being very competent here.

Oh for goodness sake, it was late, I was tired. I’d done a long and frankly hellish day in school. From OPs description there’s actually a possibility this kid was in my classroom a few hours earlier, I can name three immediate suspects from my own class, and tens more from the school at large. I am aware that I came off as patronising, I didn’t mean to, I am just used to speaking to the 11 year old not the adult about stuff like this. I guess a better way of putting it would have been “you fucked up, but you’ve realised that, so don’t give it any more headspace”. To be fair, I probably fucked up, and I’m sorry if I accidentally patronised the OP, I had teacher brain on, as I do basically 24 hours a day in term time because it takes over your life.

What is the answer then? Op wasn't violent to him just called him a not very nice name. He on the other hand was threatening her.

If of maybe called him a cheeky cunt, rather then a fat one.

Of course it’s not ok. But she used that language first: and she’s an adult and he’s 11!

But that’s just more of the same. Surely you can see that?

Children disciplined with violence and insults acquire the same skills. It’s not rocket science.

I don't blame you. You only need to watch the news to see how these horrendous kids end up. Intimidating and attacking people, because they have ineffectuall parents. Shame someone didn't knock the little shit off his scooter.

It’s also not ok for a 10 year old boy to verbally belittle a woman. There was going to be no consequence from the father, and I don’t think a restorative, “it’s important to be empathic” reasoning session was going to have any effect in this situation.
OP, I’d have found myself using my elbows and the boy’s momentum to dislodge the little shit.

You called a spade a spade, I wouldn't be worried about going back to M&S

I feel like saying worse to the little shits who bully my 11 year old daughter

Love that-it’s more acceptable to call someone a cunt rather than fat😂

Love that his Dad didn’t believe him, that would’ve wound him up big time 😆

The child might have reasons behind his behaviour. You have no such excuse. You should have owned up to the father about what you said as not doing so made the child look even worse than they are. Really appalling. Where do you think it came from, op?

Wow. Case in point.

It might be more hurtful to him if he was.

100% deserved it.

He could obviously do you serious injury call him whatever you like.

What??!!

It’s not ok to verbally abuse someone/ call them abusive/ degrading names. Anyone. In any context. Let alone an adult to a child.