Page 7 | Called Unsociable 10 year old a fat c*nt

SalmonDreams · 13/06/2025 09:30

Lavender14 · 12/06/2025 22:53

Does it actually matter?

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It does matter a little bit. If he was actually overweight it would be a lot more hurtful than if he clearly wasn't.

Op, not your finest moment but like someone else said don't lose too much sleep over it. We all lose our temper at times and sometimes I do think it's good for kids to see that adults too can snap sometimes if you push their boundaries too much. (In this case I don't think he would have learnt any valuable lesson though except maybe that it's ok to call people fat cunts.)

I feel sorry for rhe dad as well. He obviously seems to be struggling with his son's behaviour and it's quite telling that he believed that his son was quite likely to make up someone calling him a fat cunt.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 13/06/2025 09:27

Where was the store security, his useless father will pay the price for gentle parenting. He should have took him home by the ear an hour earlier.

BonfireToffee · 13/06/2025 09:27

Zone2NorthLondon · 13/06/2025 09:03

Oh get you! All implied threat and hard as..Bet you love faaaamily and you’d do anything for your kids.Hey ho, I see you. You’ll never have to worry about going to fortmum and mason again. I ever see you or your fat cunt kid at the hors d'oeuvre section and we will be having words. You get me?

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Weeping with laughter here. This thread is so bad for my peaceful breastfeeding session 😂😂😂

Bushmillsbabe · 13/06/2025 09:25

MysticHalfWitch · 13/06/2025 09:19

Eeeeh I love this thread. I did vote YABU purely because it’s not cricket to go around calling kids fat c*s, however I have a feeling we would get on very well as friends.

Don’t beat yourself up, you had a weak moment and your wobble gob ran away with you. It’s not the end of the world and it might make the little c* think in future (doubt it, but you never know).

Love this thread too, with phrases like 'gumption' and 'it's just not cricket.
I also feel I would get on with OP, I would (in my what my husband calls my posh home counties voice) absolutely call a little sht out for being a little sht, and would probably feel bad afterwards.

BonfireToffee · 13/06/2025 09:23

Sunshinestate07 · 12/06/2025 23:35

As annoying as this kid sounds, I can’t lie to you OP, If you called my kid a fat cunt, you wouldn’t have to worry about going to marks and Spencer’s again.

Rocky Balboa has entered the chat 😂🙄

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Just snort-laughed so hard baby fell off my boob 😂

Bushmillsbabe · 13/06/2025 09:21

nomas · 13/06/2025 06:32

Pity you don’t put this passionate intensity to good use and raise your children not to intimidate women and make throwing up noises around them.

Because this little shit wasn’t targeting men.

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I was thinking this too - this boy clearly picked a women to try to intimidate, I doubt he would have tried the same with a muscly 6'4 male.
At 11 he knew what choices he was making, it's not like he bumped into her accidentally, he made a choice to try to intentionally intimidate her and then moaned when she reacted.

ArthurBloom · 13/06/2025 09:20

Good on you, better he hears it now, and that's how he was acting.

user1492757084 · 13/06/2025 09:20

Was he fat?
His father knows that he behaves like a cunt and has form for annoying people in dangerous ways. Therefore the Dad believed you over his ever naughty son.
You should have called him an Annoying Brat and called shop security upon first noticing him.
You did wrong but maybe you did his Dad a favour.
The poor fellow. What an horrific child to have to wrestle with each day.

Guinessandafire · 13/06/2025 09:20

Zone2NorthLondon · 13/06/2025 09:03

Oh get you! All implied threat and hard as..Bet you love faaaamily and you’d do anything for your kids.Hey ho, I see you. You’ll never have to worry about going to fortmum and mason again. I ever see you or your fat cunt kid at the hors d'oeuvre section and we will be having words. You get me?

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The posters facebook will also have a loveheart with her kids names, Jayden, Kayden and Blayden as the profile photo, stating " my life, all I need, everyone else is just snakes'

MysticHalfWitch · 13/06/2025 09:19

Eeeeh I love this thread. I did vote YABU purely because it’s not cricket to go around calling kids fat c*s, however I have a feeling we would get on very well as friends.

Don’t beat yourself up, you had a weak moment and your wobble gob ran away with you. It’s not the end of the world and it might make the little c* think in future (doubt it, but you never know).

TealScroller · 13/06/2025 09:17

Herefortea2 · 12/06/2025 22:46

Ok, am I the worst person ever??
Last week I was at marks and spencers and there was this boy there, about 11 who was riding around on a electric scooter, whizzing past people and behaving in a passive aggressive way. When I past him he loudly made throwing up noises several times right in front of me, to scare/shock me and I said oh are you ok, maybe you need a doctor (because I don't like to be initimdated by youths). Anyway I do the shop and keep thinking about him, I was in a bad mood already and he really annoyed me, I'm fed up of little shits thinking they can terrorise people.
Anyway I saw him again on the way out and again he was whizzing past scaring people. He came past me again and then I said it.....I said 'fat cnt'!!! Now I actually do not use that word, I don't like it, I don't like it when it's used around me either but I was so pissed off that that's what I said!!!! Anyway he circled round and was like what did you say....I ignored him and he started insulting me and following me as I walked to my car, saying is this your car you fucking bitch, cnt, etc etc. I walked away saying I'm calling the police! Then this guy comes over who's his dad! He apologies and says he's trying to get him home (the kid had been in the car park for half an hour at least, maybe longer), the kid tells the dad what I called him and the dad says 'no she didn't' then the kid goes off at the dad for taking a strangers side. The dad is completely useless as the kid is still circling me where I actually have to push him away from me! Eventually he leaves after a lot of verbal abuse, from the kid. Now I'm thinking I shouldn't have done it and feeling guilty and also worried that I can't go back to M&S because he might be there and start abusing me and I have 2 young children. Thoughts? I am going to hell?

I honestly wouldn't worry about it, you were in a stressful situation with a little shit and it just came out. I think if a man had said it to him he wouldn't have kicked off so much and I don't think it would have been so big a deal. I do think YABU for posting it on here though, making a mistake, posting on here and then getting torn apart by wolves won't make you feel any better about it.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 13/06/2025 09:13

I would bet a month's pay that the child was overweight.
You wouldn't have said that if he wasn't. You might call him an ugly cunt or the likes but not a fat cunt. Tut tut.

Alucard55 · 13/06/2025 09:12

NeedToChangeName · 13/06/2025 08:08

I thought it meant "if you called my child that I'd beat you up so hard that where to go shopping would be the least of your worries"

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But then she would be convicted off assault, go to prison and wouldn't be able to police Marks for women who don't put up with antisocial behaviour.

She's not thought that one through.

Zone2NorthLondon · 13/06/2025 09:11

Herefortea2 · 13/06/2025 09:06

Thanks for all the responses, I've been catching up this morning. To answer a few queries - it was in the car park only he was whizzing around not in the supermarket itself. So as people were coming in and out she was cutting them off if that makes sense.

Regarding the 5 minutes of abuse this was happening whilst i walked to my car and then turned back because I was worried what he'd do when I was in it, or follow me (his dad wasn't there then). Then his dad came over and I said this boy is terrorising everyone here. I walk further as the boy is following me and say I'm calling the police - so I put my phone to my ear and pretend to call the police. I try to sort of hide around one side of M&S but he's there again. The dad is so near by and saying literally nothing but in fairness seems pretty 'normal', that was around the time he told the dad what I'd called him. The dad was just sort of standing there and he can hear him verbally abusing me, he wasnt trying to usher him on or anything. I was going to walk to the other end of M&S as there was a security man there but that would mean he'd follow me the whole time so I just pretending to speak to the police on the phone!! Yes it is a big car park, there's a couple of other shops there.

I'll confirm again the boy was not fat. I understand the insult is awful, I think that's the reason I went to it, for the shock factor.

I was actually thinking about it late last night/earlier morning and even had a dream about him!!

Go hand yourself in. I’ll crowd fund for a fierce barrister for you
You’ll need witness protection, as Martina Cole isn’t happy with you

TalkToTheHand123 · 13/06/2025 09:11

Don't worry about it. A lot of kids these days are disrespectful and horrible and need to be put in their place. You just need to be careful.

Bababear987 · 13/06/2025 09:10

Honestly I'd have ended up doing the same. These kids sometimes need a shock.
I'd also agree it's not my finest hour but his parents arent doing anything about him terrorising people so better a stranger call him a name than give him a good slap, cause plenty would.

Bushmillsbabe · 13/06/2025 09:09

Foreverm0re · 12/06/2025 23:02

What? You’d have beaten her up? For calling your kid out when they were being a little shit? Nice

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Exactly. My issue would have been my child's behaviour - what a random women says is unlikely to have any influence on their future, we would never see her again. As I tell my children, another person behaviour is a reflection on how they are feeling, such as bully's insults people because they are angry/scared/sad/feel inferior rather than because you have done anything wrong, so you try not to pay then any attention, it's not worth your time and energy.

If I had a child who thought they could treat a random adult like that, that's what I would need to focus on. Meant kindly OP, you actually wouldn't matter to me in that moment, unless you laid a hand on my child, then I would be calling security/police.

NewsdeskJC · 13/06/2025 09:08

Well 2 things

when people act that way they should expect that reaction.
tactically you know that it was the wrong thing to do. You gave him ammo to harass you.

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Herefortea2 · 13/06/2025 09:06

Thanks for all the responses, I've been catching up this morning. To answer a few queries - it was in the car park only he was whizzing around not in the supermarket itself. So as people were coming in and out she was cutting them off if that makes sense.

Regarding the 5 minutes of abuse this was happening whilst i walked to my car and then turned back because I was worried what he'd do when I was in it, or follow me (his dad wasn't there then). Then his dad came over and I said this boy is terrorising everyone here. I walk further as the boy is following me and say I'm calling the police - so I put my phone to my ear and pretend to call the police. I try to sort of hide around one side of M&S but he's there again. The dad is so near by and saying literally nothing but in fairness seems pretty 'normal', that was around the time he told the dad what I'd called him. The dad was just sort of standing there and he can hear him verbally abusing me, he wasnt trying to usher him on or anything. I was going to walk to the other end of M&S as there was a security man there but that would mean he'd follow me the whole time so I just pretending to speak to the police on the phone!! Yes it is a big car park, there's a couple of other shops there.

I'll confirm again the boy was not fat. I understand the insult is awful, I think that's the reason I went to it, for the shock factor.

I was actually thinking about it late last night/earlier morning and even had a dream about him!!

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ForeverDelayedEpiphany · 13/06/2025 09:06

MauriceTheMussel · 12/06/2025 23:07

Not a great thing to say, but I also don’t blame you.

If the little shit has the gumption to FOLLOW you and call you names, well, it’s not like he doesn’t use similar language too.

I’ve seen similarly behaved children and it boils my piss too. Ideally, you’d rise above it but sometimes these things happen.

Missing the point of this thread and your reply totally, but I'm loving your use of the word gumption... my DM uses it a lot and it's an underused word in general, IMHO.👍

WhatdoesitmeanKeith · 13/06/2025 09:06

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 13/06/2025 08:35

Oh for goodness sake, it was late, I was tired. I’d done a long and frankly hellish day in school. From OPs description there’s actually a possibility this kid was in my classroom a few hours earlier, I can name three immediate suspects from my own class, and tens more from the school at large. I am aware that I came off as patronising, I didn’t mean to, I am just used to speaking to the 11 year old not the adult about stuff like this. I guess a better way of putting it would have been “you fucked up, but you’ve realised that, so don’t give it any more headspace”. To be fair, I probably fucked up, and I’m sorry if I accidentally patronised the OP, I had teacher brain on, as I do basically 24 hours a day in term time because it takes over your life.

I did wonder if you were a teacher!

Zone2NorthLondon · 13/06/2025 09:03

wobblyewobbly · 12/06/2025 22:50

As annoying as this kid sounds, I can’t lie to you OP, If you called my kid a fat cunt, you wouldn’t have to worry about going to marks and Spencer’s again.

yeah, the kid was out of order and annoying but he didn’t swear at you or threaten until you called him a fat cunt no? And also if I was the kid, I’d be quite pissed off my dad didn’t believe a stranger would call me a fat cunt?? You know why the dad didn’t believe it? Because it’s so fucking outrageous.
You go to a staff member, who have security, who would’ve dealt with this.

also just to add. Yeah YABU, the moment you called a child a fat cunt.

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Oh get you! All implied threat and hard as..Bet you love faaaamily and you’d do anything for your kids.Hey ho, I see you. You’ll never have to worry about going to fortmum and mason again. I ever see you or your fat cunt kid at the hors d'oeuvre section and we will be having words. You get me?

MauriceTheMussel · 13/06/2025 09:02

I woke up this morning absolutely gagging to read the updates to this thread.

OP, in other news, get any good picky bits at M&S?

PerkyShark · 13/06/2025 08:58

It wasn't ideal. I am not proud to admit it but sounds like something I would do if I lost my rag as I have a short fuse. I would also feel bad about it after like you do. So don't be too hard on yourself, you are only human. And sometimes a fat cunt needs to be called out even if they are 10. 😂

AnneMarieW · 13/06/2025 08:54

You know YABU. I’ve sometimes heard people snapping eventually and calling kids stuff like “little shits” when they are behaving like that - I mean it happens, even in public 🤷‍♀️ . But “Fat Cunt?” I’ve only occasionally even heard adults use that kind of language to each other - because you’ve got the double whammy of body shaming and use of a female body part to shame which hints at internalised misogyny.

I do understand snapping after goading happens, even in somewhere like a supermarket - but personally I think you need to have a good think about why you went straight to those words, in case it happens again.

ETA: Obviously YANBU to have been really angry at the kids behaviour though, I dread to think what he will be like as a teenager if he’s behaving that way at 10.