Called Unsociable 10 year old a fat c*nt

Many of those "entitled yobs" are exploited and vulnerable children. The majority in fact. I work with this demographic and I've yet to meet one who's simply just a shit. I can think of young people I have worked with who would have acted in that way as a result of brain injury or serious abuse in childhood or just plain neglect. Is it still cool to call kids in those circumstances fat c*nts? Because sadly they don't come with warning labels. They look just the same as the rest.

But you haven’t explained how you would prevent her from doing so…

😂😂❤

Maybe if the parent actually parented his child properly and didn't allow him to go around bullying multiple customers the op wouldn't have lost her temper.

It wasn't ideal, but she's only human.

Probably better that the op called him a cunt than having the next person smack the kid in the face.

I called some brats ‘feral little bastards’ on a different thread. Is that worse or better? I don’t know. Cunt gets people all twisted out of shape. I’m finding this thread amusing too though. It makes me laugh that you let his dad think he was a fibber, naughty OP.

What? You’d have beaten her up? For calling your kid out when they were being a little shit? Nice

Kids like that don't understand or give a toss about consequences because they are never disciplined. Fat cunt, especially if he was fat was well deserved. And YES! great that the dad didn't believe him😹

OP, are you actually Ricky Gervais?

Op you crossed a line. Kids learn not just from their parents but from the wider world around them. By calling him that, you taught him/reinforced the idea that he can verbally abuse people.
And personally I hate and never use that C word as I find it offensive and deeply misogynistic.

And I always tell my kids (both under 5 so perhaps easy at this point) never to use fat as an insult. It's a horrendous thing as being fat is a physical state not a character failing. And I imagine can be hurtful to people that are fat.
Two wrongs don't make a right

To put it shortly - it basically means going to that same shop wouldn't even cross someone’s mind again if I found out they’d called my child what this grown woman did.

As if M&S were not dealing with enough problems already..
Could it not have been Waitrose? Or Iceland ..

Nope. The kid and its shitty parents are vile. That’s why we have entitled yobs hanging around town centres intimidating adults.

Meh, not ideal behaviour but I wouldn't lose a wink of sleep over it.

I think you lost your temper. Unfortunately it means you lost a bit of the case against his antisocial behaviour. He was very badly behaved and intimidating and it’s so sad his dad could t control him. You snapped but it won’t have helped him to learn you can’t talk to people like that. So understandable but wrong.

I can guarantee you it does not. In what possible world is it ok for any adult to body shame a child?

Plus op has no idea of this kids circumstances, for all she knows that could have been a foster parent or care worker trying to manage the situation with a kid carrying a load of trauma. But jeez isn't it easier to just label him a shit so we don't need to stretch and practice empathy? Or model positive behaviours.

You used a word you hate and never use and spoke to a child in a way you're deeply ashamed of, so basically you lost control of yourself. I think you need to reflect on why your mood was so bad that the child triggered a loss of control. Because you need to make sure it was a one off never to be repeated incident, so need to either address the cause of your stress or find a way to manage it.

Good for you. He sounds like a real little shit so he deserved it. I wouldn’t feel guilty a bit. Don’t shop there for a bit. He might target someone else and be banned. Horrid child.

This.

Not your finest hour, was it? However obnoxious you found him, he’s a child. You’re an adult.

That's atrocious behaviour, riding an electric scooter around a shop. I guess what you said just slipped out ;). I'm actually laughing that the Dad didn't believe the kid. Don't beat yourself up about it.

The ‘child’ called her a fucking bitch and a cunt back.. 🤷‍♀️ it doesn’t sound like he was deeply wounded it’s sounds like an 11 year old was successful in intimidating an adult

Not unreasonable. Well maybe the fat part, but the kid was being a cunt. No wonder teenagers think they can behave this way without anyone doing or saying anything back.

Shame OP. Yes, that's was awful. Stop making excuses for yourself by saying he was unsociable. What you did was worse- you're an adult. And cowardly- you hid behind his father's absolute disbelief that a grown up would say that to a child.

This has made
my night, hilarious, the kid was a cunt so that’s justified but as per pp if he wasn’t actually fat you should have just called him a cunt and left it that.

I can’t lie to you OP, If you called my kid a fat cunt, you wouldn’t have to worry about going to marks and Spencer’s again.

what does this mean? What would you have done? I always wonder what people mean when they like this kind of stuff.