Called Unsociable 10 year old a fat c*nt

I didn’t say that. But I sure as fuck would’ve made sure by the time she left the shop she wouldn’t dream of calling a child a cunt again.

But the poster is asking you how?

I must admit I'm mildly interested now too, but only because you keep avoiding answering? 😂

You're tying yourself in knots trying to defend this kid, when all you know about him is that he thinks it's fine to go around intimidating people, and he doesn't listen to a word his parents say.

Getting called a fat cunt was probably one of the nicer things that could have happened to it if he continued his behaviour.

Don’t lose any sleep over it, OP. He sounds a proper little horror.

Still not sure? So you’re saying you might be violent but if you weren’t violent, she still wouldn’t go to Marks & Spencer again. But that the OP is awful. Got it. Also ‘fuck’ is ok but ‘cunt’ isn’t.

Tbh op I’m kind of on your side. The fat part was unnecessary but think we can all agree you do just get kids who are c. 🤣🤣🤣 not sure you can ever go back and next time I’d keep it as an ‘inside thought’ rather than a ‘say out loud’ one!!!

I'd probably have gone with "little shit" rather than what you said, but in the moment you can't always control what comes out of your mouth... you were provoked and lost your temper. It happens!
Hope you don't see him again any time soon!

Jesus Christ.. this is the attitude that made the kid behave that way in the first place. Do you teach your kids that hands are not for hitting?

Well, it wasn’t your finest moment, but if you’re going to have an un-fine moment it seems like you at least chose the right child. Also, I can’t help thinking of that scene with Ricky Gervais in Afterlife

Well he was being a cunt so I’m trying to establish whether she was just stating a fact.

Yes, it could have been a foster parent or child with trauma, but you can’t live your life making up imaginary lives for people you don’t know. It just doesn’t work like that. Sometimes people just react when pushed to their limits, and don’t automatically think of the #bekind bollocks

Would I have beaten her up?

I didn’t say that. But I sure as fuck would’ve made sure by the time she left the shop she wouldn’t dream of calling a child a cunt again.

Also this isn’t even the worst thing this woman did, she then cowardly hid behind when the child told his father and his father didn’t believe him! Now wether this kid is annoying or has behaviour issues around a shop, he’s now gone home knowing he’s been called a fat cunt and his own father didn’t believe a random woman in a shop called him such a vile thing.

she’s also now shown a child it’s okay to go around body shaming random strangers and calling them what I genuinely believe to be the most filthy vulgar word.

Honestly the people congratulating the OP for saying or it saying “ good the dad didn’t believe him “ actually really worries me.

😂😂😂😂 I mean if he carries on behaving like that he's going to get called worse. So needs to toughen up now but you are out of order/ lost your temper. Security next time or store manager to deal with

I am the same, I laughed. We should give the OP a medal. That’s what all the wee shits that terrorise shopping centres need to be called. Was shopping one night and these kids around 10 and 11 were causing absolute mayhem. The poor staff in the shops were being tortured by them. It was all over the local Fb pages. As I drove out of the retail park that night I saw them and I lost the plot!. I put my window down and called them cunts who would end up in jail and that everybody was sick of them. I don’t use words like that but honestly they are the rot of society. I find it hilarious that his Dad didn’t believe him. Good enough for the wee Cunt🤣

If you’re actually suggesting you’d be violent why are you staying so coy about it? Is it because you know it’s wildly inappropriate?

This kid though was in marks and sparks on a bike (well in the car park) with a (hapless) father. Doesn’t sound like neglect or a brain injury, just sounds like a little fucker that needs to learn some manners and be parented.

I wondered the same thing 😂

This is true, a lot of them were probably gently parented.

All this “oh, he’s troubled!” And “you’ve reinforced his beliefs about the world”…. nah. You said something to him that shocked him. That was a much needed slap in his face. About time he faced some real world consequences. If his dad believe him, that’s not the OP’s problem. I was an exceptionally well-behaved and respectful child so my parents would have believed me. So, no sympathy for the shit.

The kid was clearly behaving atrociously. The thing is, this sort of thing doesn’t just slip out of your mouth unless it’s in your mind. I have literally never called anyone fat in my entire adult life (I’m told as a very young child I called my grandma fat when I didn’t know it was rude), it’s just not how I think. I have on a very small number of occasions referred to someone as a cunt, but this is is based on lots of information about severely abusive behaviour over an extended period of time. I can’t think of any examples right now, but there’s been I think a few instances where someone’s been just such an incredibly awful person I thought that really it was the right word for them and would have thought that or at most said it to my husband or a close friend. The fact that in the heat of the moment these words came out of your mouth says a lot about the way you think. And what it says isn’t good.

I think this is a bit much!! Some kids are just little shits, no brain damage, no hard life just entitled little shits.

Errrr don't think you can pretend it's not a word you use when you called a child that...

In short, yes, you're pretty despicable.

Which is where the OP's kids could be headed if they're brought up by a mother who thinks it's ok to call a 10 year old a fat cunt.

Poor behaviour breeds poor behaviour.

"Maybe if the parent actually parented his child properly and didn't allow him to go around bullying multiple customers the op would have lost her temper."

Op also had time to do a full shop between interacting with the child and seeing him again. That's not "lost temper" that's just malicious. She saw an opportunity to attack him so she took it to make him feel small.

No wonder he responded the way he did. If someone spoke to me that way I'd have a few choice words ready for them as well.

Not a great thing to say, but I also don’t blame you.

If the little shit has the gumption to FOLLOW you and call you names, well, it’s not like he doesn’t use similar language too.

I’ve seen similarly behaved children and it boils my piss too. Ideally, you’d rise above it but sometimes these things happen.

Quite possibly deserved...but I'm assuming you didn't admit that you said it to the Dad?
So now the kid is being blamed for lying when he didn't; that won't help his behaviour imo.

YANBU OP, I laughed out loud at this.