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Herefortea2 · 2025-06-12T21:46:12+00:00

Ok, am I the worst person ever?? Last week I was at marks and spencers and there was this boy there, about 11 who was riding around on a electric scooter, whizzing past people and behaving in a passive aggressive way. When I past him he loudly made throwing up noises several times right in front of me, to scare/shock me and I said oh are you ok, maybe you need a doctor (because I don't like to be initimdated by youths). Anyway I do the shop and keep thinking about him, I was in a bad mood already and he really annoyed me, I'm fed up of little shits thinking they can terrorise people. Anyway I saw him again on the way out and again he was whizzing past scaring people. He came past me again and then I said it.....I said 'fat c*nt'!!! Now I actually do not use that word, I don't like it, I don't like it when it's used around me either but I was so pissed off that that's what I said!!!! Anyway he circled round and was like what did you say....I ignored him and he started insulting me and following me as I walked to my car, saying is this your car you fucking bitch, c*nt, etc etc. I walked away saying I'm calling the police! Then this guy comes over who's his dad! He apologies and says he's trying to get him home (the kid had been in the car park for half an hour at least, maybe longer), the kid tells the dad what I called him and the dad says 'no she didn't' then the kid goes off at the dad for taking a strangers side. The dad is completely useless as the kid is still circling me where I actually have to push him away from me! Eventually he leaves after a lot of verbal abuse, from the kid. Now I'm thinking I shouldn't have done it and feeling guilty and also worried that I can't go back to M&S because he might be there and start abusing me and I have 2 young children. Thoughts? I am going to hell?

EllyRoff · 14/06/2025 10:22

Calliopespa · 14/06/2025 10:07

Or maybe they will learn that when they are frustrated the way to handle it is to hurl insults at people and lie about it.

And we end up with just one more person in society behaving that way.

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Well this kid is already doing that isn’t he? So from this he’s learnt that sometimes - people retaliate 🤷‍♀️

Calliopespa · 14/06/2025 10:07

EllyRoff · 14/06/2025 10:05

They have to learn 🤷‍♀️

Maybe the kid will think twice about being a cunt in future? Better for everyone

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Or maybe they will learn that when they are frustrated the way to handle it is to hurl insults at people and lie about it.

And we end up with just one more person in society behaving that way.

EllyRoff · 14/06/2025 10:05

Calliopespa · 14/06/2025 10:00

I can’t really believe adults are posting and applauding this kind of thing.

It’s disgusting.

Its really not a big triumph to hurl insults at a child then deny it; I’m not sure why so many people are acting as though it is somehow inspired or clever. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Do you think most people who go round mouthing off and losing their cool aren’t also frustrated?

There are so many threads about body dysmorphia and anorexia etc and everyone wrings their hands about how sad it is, but adults insulting children by calling them childish things like “ fat fuck” are part of the cause. And some children are actually technically bastards; how do you think people like you make them feel?

No wonder the world is such a mess when people think it’s clever to hurl insults at children - then lie and deny it to boot.

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They have to learn 🤷‍♀️

Maybe the kid will think twice about being a cunt in future? Better for everyone

Crochetandtea · 14/06/2025 10:03

Some kids are cunts. I hate that word but the kid was being a nuisance so try not to feel too bad. Good for you for calling him out . Kids like this should be chastised by strangers when they have useless parents.

Calliopespa · 14/06/2025 10:00

EllyRoff · 14/06/2025 09:51

this really made me smile OP. YANBU. I had a very similar incident a few years back when this horrible kid was constantly knocking on my door to demand that my son play with him - throwing stones at my windows, shouting insults etc

in the end I opened the door and said “look, my son isn’t allowed to play with you, you’re a horrible scruffy little bastard and I don’t want you anywhere near him. Now fuck off you fat little shit and get a wash”.

In my defence, my fury had been bubbling up for quite some time and this was a particularly bad day. His parents didn’t believe him either and i denied all knowledge 😂 he didn’t come back.

I can’t really believe adults are posting and applauding this kind of thing.

It’s disgusting.

Its really not a big triumph to hurl insults at a child then deny it; I’m not sure why so many people are acting as though it is somehow inspired or clever. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Do you think most people who go round mouthing off and losing their cool aren’t also frustrated?

There are so many threads about body dysmorphia and anorexia etc and everyone wrings their hands about how sad it is, but adults insulting children by calling them childish things like “ fat fuck” are part of the cause. And some children are actually technically bastards; how do you think people like you make them feel?

No wonder the world is such a mess when people think it’s clever to hurl insults at children - then lie and deny it to boot.

JLou08 · 14/06/2025 09:59

You definitely crossed a line and you should feel guilty. That's no way to speak to a child, no matter what they've done. As you've witnessed you just escalated things so it wasn't an effective way to manage it.

EllyRoff · 14/06/2025 09:57

Lavender14 · 12/06/2025 22:59

I can guarantee you it does not. In what possible world is it ok for any adult to body shame a child?

Plus op has no idea of this kids circumstances, for all she knows that could have been a foster parent or care worker trying to manage the situation with a kid carrying a load of trauma. But jeez isn't it easier to just label him a shit so we don't need to stretch and practice empathy? Or model positive behaviours.

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Body shame? The only thing more annoying than a horrible kid is a horrible fat kid

EllyRoff · 14/06/2025 09:51

this really made me smile OP. YANBU. I had a very similar incident a few years back when this horrible kid was constantly knocking on my door to demand that my son play with him - throwing stones at my windows, shouting insults etc

in the end I opened the door and said “look, my son isn’t allowed to play with you, you’re a horrible scruffy little bastard and I don’t want you anywhere near him. Now fuck off you fat little shit and get a wash”.

In my defence, my fury had been bubbling up for quite some time and this was a particularly bad day. His parents didn’t believe him either and i denied all knowledge 😂 he didn’t come back.

Slatterndisgrace · 14/06/2025 09:36

Womanofcustard · 14/06/2025 08:08

Why was this child being allowed to ride an electric scooter round M&S?

It was outside in the car park, not inside the shop.

Womanofcustard · 14/06/2025 08:08

Why was this child being allowed to ride an electric scooter round M&S?

Bushmillsbabe · 14/06/2025 08:02

Rainbows41 · 13/06/2025 19:12

You didn't know the child and therefore assumed he was eleven. He clearly was overweight, otherwise you wouldn't have called him fat. Now to couple that with the 'c' word, this says a lot about your frame of mind.
I have a 9 yr old with ADHD and ASD, and he is overweight and very tall for his age. He looks like a burly 13 year old.
He plays up for me when in public sometimes, and I sometimes get odd looks from people assuming he's much older than he really is.

If you spoke to my child like that, I would lose it.
If he was annoying you, you should have smiled at him and asked him politely if he wouldn't mind not scaring you.
In his mind, he was prob playing a game and didn't realise he was coming across as intimidating.

You need to do better OP.

I also have a ND 9 year old who looks 12ish. And yes, she will play up when things don't go as expected, cry, shout at me etc. But if she ever behaved intentionally rudely towards a stranger I would fully expect them to pull her up on it, as I expect her teachers to do.

Yes our children have extra challenges, but we don't know what the other person is going through, they may also be ND, they may have had a horrifiic day, be in pain, just received terrible news etc, it's unreasonable for us to expect then to make allowances for however our child behaves but not make any allowances for them?

Damnloginpopup · 14/06/2025 07:39

In Bruges:

Ken: Harry, let's face it. And I'm not being funny. I mean no disrespect, but you're a cunt. You're a cunt now, and you've always been a cunt. And the only thing that's going to change is that you're going to be an even bigger cunt. Maybe have some more cunt kids.
Harry: [furious] Leave my kids fucking out of it! What have they done? You fucking retract that bit about my cunt fucking kids!
Ken: I retract that bit about your cunt fucking kids.

Damnloginpopup · 14/06/2025 07:31

BlueSkiesInJuly · 13/06/2025 08:44

It's not great. What bothers me is the kids dad was like no she didn't . I remember not being believed as a kid and its horrible - you feel like you don't exist. You address the behaviour , you don't throw insults

Good. I hope it upsets the fat little cunt forever and he learns from it that:

Adults are unlikely to call kids fat cunts.
He's a fat little cunt.

Slatterndisgrace · 14/06/2025 07:30

Rosscameasdoody · 13/06/2025 20:44

No dear, you need to do better. OP has already said he wasn’t overweight and the reason she said it was because of his behaviour - she admitted it was wrong which is why she posted. You’re making excuses for children engaging in shit behaviour unchallenged and you are part of the reason that children are growing up with no sense of discipline because of ‘gentle parenting’ - and you are also part of the reason that there is so little tolerance for children with genuine ASD and ADHD, by making it an excuse for bad behaviour across the board.

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Completely agree.

And can someone please explain to me why this expression ‘use your words’ has replaced the perfectly reasonable ‘say’. It’s really, fucking annoying.

Slatterndisgrace · 14/06/2025 07:28

TheOmbudsmansComingtoGetYou · 13/06/2025 22:33

Oh ffs 🤦🏻‍♀️

you wouldn’t, I dunno, stop your child from intimidating strangers? No? All energy just focussed on the strangers reaction?

parents like you are the problem.

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Yep, this.

Slatterndisgrace · 14/06/2025 07:27

Jerrypicker · 13/06/2025 20:52

Don’t worry about the word cunt, OP. Nowadays fat is the biggest insult you can throw at anyone. It’s like spritzing holy water on Lucifer 😆

😁😁

DietQueen2023 · 13/06/2025 23:59

This thread has had me creasing up 😂

Special shout out to @MauriceTheMussel who is hilarious😂

NC28 · 13/06/2025 22:52

Rainbows41 · 13/06/2025 19:12

You didn't know the child and therefore assumed he was eleven. He clearly was overweight, otherwise you wouldn't have called him fat. Now to couple that with the 'c' word, this says a lot about your frame of mind.
I have a 9 yr old with ADHD and ASD, and he is overweight and very tall for his age. He looks like a burly 13 year old.
He plays up for me when in public sometimes, and I sometimes get odd looks from people assuming he's much older than he really is.

If you spoke to my child like that, I would lose it.
If he was annoying you, you should have smiled at him and asked him politely if he wouldn't mind not scaring you.
In his mind, he was prob playing a game and didn't realise he was coming across as intimidating.

You need to do better OP.

She should have smiled and asked if he would mind not scaring her. 😂

This cannot be serious. “Umm, hello little boy. I like your scooter! I was wondering if, only if it’s not too much trouble and it won’t trigger you or upset you in any way, would you…umm…maybe consider that maybe I could maybe do my shopping without you riding so close? Totally fine if not, no pressure.”

For the record, if your child acted like the one in the OP, he’d deserve the same treatment she gave that boy. And I guarantee that as he ages further, if he “plays up” to anyone else in public, he’ll soon find out about what can happen when you do that.

You’d “lose it”? What does that mean? A stern talking to, or a scrap? We all know it’s the former, if anything at all.

Blessthismess2 · 13/06/2025 22:52

Rosscameasdoody · 13/06/2025 20:48

Why ? Because people are advocating that the very poor behaviour of some children is being called out ?

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That they think it’s appropriate to “call out” the behaviour of an 11 year old child by calling them a “fat cunt”- (aka verbal abuse/
emotional violence directed against a child).

Maverickess · 13/06/2025 22:50

Rainbows41 · 13/06/2025 19:12

You didn't know the child and therefore assumed he was eleven. He clearly was overweight, otherwise you wouldn't have called him fat. Now to couple that with the 'c' word, this says a lot about your frame of mind.
I have a 9 yr old with ADHD and ASD, and he is overweight and very tall for his age. He looks like a burly 13 year old.
He plays up for me when in public sometimes, and I sometimes get odd looks from people assuming he's much older than he really is.

If you spoke to my child like that, I would lose it.
If he was annoying you, you should have smiled at him and asked him politely if he wouldn't mind not scaring you.
In his mind, he was prob playing a game and didn't realise he was coming across as intimidating.

You need to do better OP.

You'd 'lose it'?

So you wouldn't just smile and politely ask the OP if she wouldn't mind not speaking to him like that?

Quite willing to demand other people show you and your child tolerance and respect under duress but not so willing to do so yourself then?

Pp's are right, you're exactly the problem in these scenarios.

TheOmbudsmansComingtoGetYou · 13/06/2025 22:33

Rainbows41 · 13/06/2025 19:12

You didn't know the child and therefore assumed he was eleven. He clearly was overweight, otherwise you wouldn't have called him fat. Now to couple that with the 'c' word, this says a lot about your frame of mind.
I have a 9 yr old with ADHD and ASD, and he is overweight and very tall for his age. He looks like a burly 13 year old.
He plays up for me when in public sometimes, and I sometimes get odd looks from people assuming he's much older than he really is.

If you spoke to my child like that, I would lose it.
If he was annoying you, you should have smiled at him and asked him politely if he wouldn't mind not scaring you.
In his mind, he was prob playing a game and didn't realise he was coming across as intimidating.

You need to do better OP.

Oh ffs 🤦🏻‍♀️

you wouldn’t, I dunno, stop your child from intimidating strangers? No? All energy just focussed on the strangers reaction?

parents like you are the problem.

TheOmbudsmansComingtoGetYou · 13/06/2025 22:30

In my head this kid looks like Bruce Bogtrotter

SwingTheMonkey · 13/06/2025 22:16

Damnloginpopup · 13/06/2025 20:05

What, as in Cunt child? Child cunt?

How about Little cunt? Or maybe Cunt minor?

Fat little cunt child would sound awesome.

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Now this is what the laughing response was made for 👏

Suusue · 13/06/2025 21:36

Well he was a fat xxxx! I'd have done the same. Disgusting behaviour from that kid.

WilfredsPies · 13/06/2025 21:22

wobblyewobbly · 12/06/2025 23:13

Would I have beaten her up?

I didn’t say that. But I sure as fuck would’ve made sure by the time she left the shop she wouldn’t dream of calling a child a cunt again.

Also this isn’t even the worst thing this woman did, she then cowardly hid behind when the child told his father and his father didn’t believe him! Now wether this kid is annoying or has behaviour issues around a shop, he’s now gone home knowing he’s been called a fat cunt and his own father didn’t believe a random woman in a shop called him such a vile thing.

she’s also now shown a child it’s okay to go around body shaming random strangers and calling them what I genuinely believe to be the most filthy vulgar word.

Honestly the people congratulating the OP for saying or it saying “ good the dad didn’t believe him “ actually really worries me.

Oh shush! You wouldn’t have done anything and you know it 😂 Maybe a bit of shouting; and that’s just noise. And if your kid was such a horrible little shit that he’s driven an adult to call him a cunt, then she’d probably have given you as good as she got for being such a bloody useless parent. In fact, perhaps the OP would have made sure that you didn’t let your kid ride round intimidating other shoppers in the future.

OP, no, you probably shouldn’t have called a child a fat cunt. But it’s done now. Perhaps the next time he’s inclined to bother someone, there’ll be something at the back of his mind reminding him that not all adults are going to take the high road when he is, in fact, behaving like that.