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Called Unsociable 10 year old a fat c*nt

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Herefortea2 · 12/06/2025 22:46

Ok, am I the worst person ever??
Last week I was at marks and spencers and there was this boy there, about 11 who was riding around on a electric scooter, whizzing past people and behaving in a passive aggressive way. When I past him he loudly made throwing up noises several times right in front of me, to scare/shock me and I said oh are you ok, maybe you need a doctor (because I don't like to be initimdated by youths). Anyway I do the shop and keep thinking about him, I was in a bad mood already and he really annoyed me, I'm fed up of little shits thinking they can terrorise people.
Anyway I saw him again on the way out and again he was whizzing past scaring people. He came past me again and then I said it.....I said 'fat cnt'!!! Now I actually do not use that word, I don't like it, I don't like it when it's used around me either but I was so pissed off that that's what I said!!!! Anyway he circled round and was like what did you say....I ignored him and he started insulting me and following me as I walked to my car, saying is this your car you fucking bitch, cnt, etc etc. I walked away saying I'm calling the police! Then this guy comes over who's his dad! He apologies and says he's trying to get him home (the kid had been in the car park for half an hour at least, maybe longer), the kid tells the dad what I called him and the dad says 'no she didn't' then the kid goes off at the dad for taking a strangers side. The dad is completely useless as the kid is still circling me where I actually have to push him away from me! Eventually he leaves after a lot of verbal abuse, from the kid. Now I'm thinking I shouldn't have done it and feeling guilty and also worried that I can't go back to M&S because he might be there and start abusing me and I have 2 young children. Thoughts? I am going to hell?

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IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 12/06/2025 23:30

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Agreed. Horrible way to behave

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 12/06/2025 23:29

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LynetteScavo · 12/06/2025 23:28

Think you were BU not to own it, and tell the dad you had said it, and exactly why.

Fluffyeye · 12/06/2025 23:28

Yabu to call him fat, no need for that. But it sounds like he was being a prize cu:t so fair enough there.

MauriceTheMussel · 12/06/2025 23:26

Pinkelephant66 · 12/06/2025 22:51

Was he actually fat?

Love this!

Slatterndisgrace · 12/06/2025 23:25

Pinkelephant66 · 12/06/2025 23:24

Little shit… fat cunt... potato…patata

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😁😁

Anotherparkingthread · 12/06/2025 23:25

I love all the posts like 'nobody would call my kid that'. I'm rough as balls, I grew up on a council estate and I box. I call people all sorts nobody has ever said shit 😂

Pinkelephant66 · 12/06/2025 23:24

Thegreatescape12345 · 12/06/2025 23:15

I'd probably have gone with "little shit" rather than what you said, but in the moment you can't always control what comes out of your mouth... you were provoked and lost your temper. It happens!
Hope you don't see him again any time soon!

Little shit… fat cunt... potato…patata

Isittimeformynapyet · 12/06/2025 23:24

wobblyewobbly · 12/06/2025 23:00

To put it shortly - it basically means going to that same shop wouldn't even cross someone’s mind again if I found out they’d called my child what this grown woman did.

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Nobody says "to put it shortly" - that's not a thing.

I think we're assuming you would either threaten or commit violence against anyone who called your feral child a fat cunt.

Oooh, aren't you hard!

BigCareBear · 12/06/2025 23:24

Herefortea2 · 12/06/2025 22:46

Ok, am I the worst person ever??
Last week I was at marks and spencers and there was this boy there, about 11 who was riding around on a electric scooter, whizzing past people and behaving in a passive aggressive way. When I past him he loudly made throwing up noises several times right in front of me, to scare/shock me and I said oh are you ok, maybe you need a doctor (because I don't like to be initimdated by youths). Anyway I do the shop and keep thinking about him, I was in a bad mood already and he really annoyed me, I'm fed up of little shits thinking they can terrorise people.
Anyway I saw him again on the way out and again he was whizzing past scaring people. He came past me again and then I said it.....I said 'fat cnt'!!! Now I actually do not use that word, I don't like it, I don't like it when it's used around me either but I was so pissed off that that's what I said!!!! Anyway he circled round and was like what did you say....I ignored him and he started insulting me and following me as I walked to my car, saying is this your car you fucking bitch, cnt, etc etc. I walked away saying I'm calling the police! Then this guy comes over who's his dad! He apologies and says he's trying to get him home (the kid had been in the car park for half an hour at least, maybe longer), the kid tells the dad what I called him and the dad says 'no she didn't' then the kid goes off at the dad for taking a strangers side. The dad is completely useless as the kid is still circling me where I actually have to push him away from me! Eventually he leaves after a lot of verbal abuse, from the kid. Now I'm thinking I shouldn't have done it and feeling guilty and also worried that I can't go back to M&S because he might be there and start abusing me and I have 2 young children. Thoughts? I am going to hell?

I genuinely think people here are being a little too harsh on you for the example you've made here. If it was that you do something like this on the weekends and thrive off of insulting children (weekends only) I'd think twice to maybe changing your outlook. But considering they just ticked you off, it's not entirely ok but it's not the end of the world.

FumingTRex · 12/06/2025 23:24

You were totally out of order. His Dad was clearly allowing him to ride a scooter in the shop, so were the staff, so how would he know its not acceptable? If it was causing a problem you should have complained to the staff.

Motherofalittledragon · 12/06/2025 23:23

The kid was behaving like a feral brat, fair enough, seems well deserved.

Lavender14 · 12/06/2025 23:23

Allthegoodhorses · 12/06/2025 23:14

Jesus Christ.. this is the attitude that made the kid behave that way in the first place. Do you teach your kids that hands are not for hitting?

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I'm not sure what you're asking? I believe firmly in APPROPRIATE and consistent discipline, not being abusive to children which this was. Yes I teach my kids not to hit other people - do you not do that? I have also never called my kid or anyone else's a fat c*nt.

MauriceTheMussel · 12/06/2025 23:20

TheNightSurgeon · 12/06/2025 23:16

You're tying yourself in knots trying to defend this kid, when all you know about him is that he thinks it's fine to go around intimidating people, and he doesn't listen to a word his parents say.

Getting called a fat cunt was probably one of the nicer things that could have happened to it if he continued his behaviour.

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This

One day someone’s going to smack him in the face

InterestedDad37 · 12/06/2025 23:19

I mean, you shouldn't have done it, but well done 😀👏👏👏

JabbaTheBeachHut · 12/06/2025 23:19

MrTumbleweed · 12/06/2025 23:18

I think she doesn’t want to admit that she’d wrestle their Sparks card from them, and use up their ‘20p off a croissant next Tuesday’ coupon.

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Oh too harsh.

The OP didn't actually kill anyone 😱😁

YourWildAmberSloth · 12/06/2025 23:19

Not your finest hour OP, but don't beat yourself up over it. It's done. I have definitely said worst in my head to other peoples kids. If it was my child, I'd be more concerned about the fact that he had been acting like one, than that someone had called him out on it.

LurkyMcLurkinson · 12/06/2025 23:19

Anyone else read this and think of the Ricky Gervais scene in after life?

zanahoria · 12/06/2025 23:19

Just relax

So you lost it a bit

You should not have called him a fat cunt but there is no denying he was acting like one

MauriceTheMussel · 12/06/2025 23:18

lol, I don’t think verbal reasoning in a mature way with this kid would have worked! I do think a taste of his own unjust medicine might though.

The dad didn’t even seem shocked at his child saying “cunt” back at him. I didn’t know what a cunt was at 11! So, that speaks volumes.

Not the OP’s place to model positive behaviour when the kid’s own dad doesn’t give a shit.

MrTumbleweed · 12/06/2025 23:18

JabbaTheBeachHut · 12/06/2025 23:16

I didn’t say that. But I sure as fuck would’ve made sure by the time she left the shop she wouldn’t dream of calling a child a cunt again.

But the poster is asking you how?

I must admit I'm mildly interested now too, but only because you keep avoiding answering? 😂

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I think she doesn’t want to admit that she’d wrestle their Sparks card from them, and use up their ‘20p off a croissant next Tuesday’ coupon.

PeppyLilacLion · 12/06/2025 23:18

He was being a complete twat… if he’s old enough to make that choice then be prepared for antisocial words and behaviour back. No issue with what you said OP more of these dickheads (adults included) need a dose of their own behaviour.

Lavender14 · 12/06/2025 23:18

Bigfatsunandclouds · 12/06/2025 23:10

I think this is a bit much!! Some kids are just little shits, no brain damage, no hard life just entitled little shits.

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I understand that but my point is how do you know which are which when you're meeting them on the street for a fleeting interaction? You can't, so that's why it's important not to call children fat c*nts.

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Herefortea2 · 12/06/2025 23:17

Thanks for everyone's responses. Some did make me laugh to be honest!

It's confirmed what I already knew by posting to get opinions, I was in the wrong and I shouldn't have done it. Two wrongs don't make a right and that's that! To clear up a couple of things, he wasn't actually fat! Also he was using all the insults known (a good 5 minutes worth none stop), he was going to kill me, lesbian (not an insult but heyho), quite scary, the same sort of language to his dad when he came over too. Obviously I 'started' it so it's besides the point but just to add a bit more context to it.

Appreciate the feedback, definitely food for thought re my behaviour and will absolutely take it on board. I need to do some good deeds.

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MrTumbleweed · 12/06/2025 23:17

Also, I don’t know why, but I’m reminded of that really old post where someone meant to call their child a whiny tinker in a doctor’s waiting room or somewhere, and accidentally called them a tiny wanker.