Don’t beat yourself up OP, @wobblyewobbly will be ready and waiting to batter you with a few days old sourdough if you pull that stunt again. She won’t admit the hell she will unleash but I suspect it involves telling people that the transgression actually took place in Aldi not M&S and that you were buying non organic produce.
This reminds me of when I was 8 and being badly bullied by a boy at school.
My mum was the softest non confrontational person you would ever meet, I actually blame her for making me the same growing up and accepting too much shit off people.
When she was going through peri menopause she really struggled and actually had some form of breakdown, it was like all the negative emotions and anger she had ever repressed just came to the surface and as she was going through the worst time my dad was made redundant and struggled to find work. We were really struggling for money so she had extra pressure.
This horrible boy bullied me relentlessly for being poor and hit me, called me names, ripped up my homework and made my life hell. It was usually just the two of us who were last to be picked up from school and waited in the playground alone (it was the 90’s) and that’s when he was at his worst.
I had wanted a sylvanian family talking rabbit for my 9th birthday and my parents saved for weeks to get it. I still remember seeing their happy faces when I was opening the present.
I took it to school for show and tell and the little shit bullying me waited till I was waiting to be picked up and grabbed it from my bag and ripped its dress off and threw it in the mud. I got in the car upset after school and told my mum and she knew about this boy and who he was so she got out of the car and saw he was alone and grabbed him by his shirt collar.
She pushed him against the wall and said “listen you horrible little shit, nobody like bullies, nobody likes you, even your mum doesn’t love you because of how you behave. If you EVER bully another child again - including my daughter I’ll knock your fucking head off”.
As soon as she got home she told my dad and was absolutely gutted and sobbed over how she’d behaved. My dad was also a softie but he agreed the kid deserved it. He wasn’t from an abusive home or anything like that, he was just spoilt rotten and never disciplined, his mother was always at the school because of his behaviour.
Later that evening the mum comes round with her son banging on the door to speak to my mum. My mum had planned to admit it and apologise if she was confronted but the boy was smiling all cocky when his mum started ranting at my mum and telling her how disgusting her behaviour was, she also dropped a comment in about us being poor but my mum never told anyone what she said and I didn’t overhear.
My mum denied everything after that and even told the boy off for telling lies and told his mum about him bullying me. His mum ended up walking away dragging him by the arm shouting at him whilst he protested he was telling the truth. He looked back and begged my mum “stop lying and tell the truth” she stuck her tongue out when his mum didn’t see and shut the door 😂.
The little brat never bullied me or anyone else again whilst I was at that school. He was still a cocky little shit but my mum occasionally glared at him when she was picking me up and he kept well away from me.
It says everything when a kids parent doesn’t even believe them, they must know what their kid is like. People say it takes a village, maybe if more people stood up to bad behaviour we’d have less kids behaving like cunts 😆.