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Called Unsociable 10 year old a fat c*nt

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Herefortea2 · 12/06/2025 22:46

Ok, am I the worst person ever??
Last week I was at marks and spencers and there was this boy there, about 11 who was riding around on a electric scooter, whizzing past people and behaving in a passive aggressive way. When I past him he loudly made throwing up noises several times right in front of me, to scare/shock me and I said oh are you ok, maybe you need a doctor (because I don't like to be initimdated by youths). Anyway I do the shop and keep thinking about him, I was in a bad mood already and he really annoyed me, I'm fed up of little shits thinking they can terrorise people.
Anyway I saw him again on the way out and again he was whizzing past scaring people. He came past me again and then I said it.....I said 'fat cnt'!!! Now I actually do not use that word, I don't like it, I don't like it when it's used around me either but I was so pissed off that that's what I said!!!! Anyway he circled round and was like what did you say....I ignored him and he started insulting me and following me as I walked to my car, saying is this your car you fucking bitch, cnt, etc etc. I walked away saying I'm calling the police! Then this guy comes over who's his dad! He apologies and says he's trying to get him home (the kid had been in the car park for half an hour at least, maybe longer), the kid tells the dad what I called him and the dad says 'no she didn't' then the kid goes off at the dad for taking a strangers side. The dad is completely useless as the kid is still circling me where I actually have to push him away from me! Eventually he leaves after a lot of verbal abuse, from the kid. Now I'm thinking I shouldn't have done it and feeling guilty and also worried that I can't go back to M&S because he might be there and start abusing me and I have 2 young children. Thoughts? I am going to hell?

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littleblueenvelope · 13/06/2025 04:59

I secretly hope this thread goes on and on and on and everyone shares their moments where they’ve held shitty tween/teens to account for their crappy behaviour! The machete story is karma at its finest!

littleblueenvelope · 13/06/2025 04:58

@Mumtobabyhavoctotally get this! Have had a few snappy moments with kids at soft play!

starshollowtownselectman · 13/06/2025 04:54

I think it’s hilarious to be honest. Fed up of other peoples lack of parenting affecting the general public. Even funnier that the dad didn’t believe you said it, shows what kind of child his kid really is.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 13/06/2025 04:34

I yelled, Jesus Christ STOP IT! To a few kids last summer, about 7-8 years old at the spray park when they came over with water guns and sprayed my "unarmed" 2 y/o right in the face for the 2nd time aftef I said "No, that's mean. Havoc is only 2 and not playing" not a minute earlier. so, I get it @Herefortea2
(next time I'll grab the guns and break them, though)

Chickensky · 13/06/2025 04:19

I will go again, not because of someone being told "you're wrong". But OP said she called a "10 or possibly 11yrs old" a "fat cunt". That is the fact of the matter it has nothing to do with all the other recent sad stories shared. She was not intimidated enough to challenge the first bad behaviour and should have kept with her "vibe" of being challenging but no personal attacks.

I get it, his parents were shit and at one point you were able to get at least his and their attention and then that was shit again. You are obviously completely right to challenge the behaviour and situation.

But when you call a child a "fat cunt" in real time..hats off to you for calling a child on a bike that.

I can't get over it.

Kat98 · 13/06/2025 03:58

You shouldn’t have called him that and hope you react differently should something like that happen again. You were clearly frustrated. You aren’t the worst person ever! Although I think you should have admitted to his dad what you called him. That kid could be a*used and not tell his dad cause he thinks he won’t believe him. I wouldn’t worry about seeing them again, how the kid was acting wasn’t right and he was left alone, someone else could have easily said or done something to him that made to hurt him. If you see him again ignore him and if he speaks to you more than once report to staff that you are concerned for a child left on their own.

ZippyMauveBear · 13/06/2025 03:39

Allthegoodhorses · 12/06/2025 23:14

Jesus Christ.. this is the attitude that made the kid behave that way in the first place. Do you teach your kids that hands are not for hitting?

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😂😂😂😂

’kind hands’

RifeHere · 13/06/2025 03:32

Slatterndisgrace · 13/06/2025 03:20

We never got clarification on this.

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Sorry just read the thread and realise the mystery is yet to be solved.

Slatterndisgrace · 13/06/2025 03:30

EasyTouch · 13/06/2025 03:26

I can't find it within myself to get bosom hoiky about your reaction to the awful child with the equally awful father.
And you should not feel guilty for the boy being accused of being a liar by his father.
I bet that "boy cries wolf" is but one of the dynamics of terror regularly employed by the awful child.
He got his that day.
I'm tired of shittily brought up kids with jelly back parents, especially those who have the gall to claim "it takes a village", but balk at a "villager" getting tired of their deliquents.

Thanks for giving me a laugh OP.
If kids still played out regularly, no doubt this boy's peers would have long ago reeled in his bully tactics with a "stop that, you fat c*nt!" or ten by now or he would have been beaten up or ostracised.

None of this coddling shit.

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Great post.

And very good point about children not playing out anymore. They’re missing out on the natural pecking order/socialisation.

EasyTouch · 13/06/2025 03:26

wobblyewobbly · 12/06/2025 22:50

As annoying as this kid sounds, I can’t lie to you OP, If you called my kid a fat cunt, you wouldn’t have to worry about going to marks and Spencer’s again.

yeah, the kid was out of order and annoying but he didn’t swear at you or threaten until you called him a fat cunt no? And also if I was the kid, I’d be quite pissed off my dad didn’t believe a stranger would call me a fat cunt?? You know why the dad didn’t believe it? Because it’s so fucking outrageous.
You go to a staff member, who have security, who would’ve dealt with this.

also just to add. Yeah YABU, the moment you called a child a fat cunt.

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I can't find it within myself to get bosom hoiky about your reaction to the awful child with the equally awful father.
And you should not feel guilty for the boy being accused of being a liar by his father.
I bet that "boy cries wolf" is but one of the dynamics of terror regularly employed by the awful child.
He got his that day.
I'm tired of shittily brought up kids with jelly back parents, especially those who have the gall to claim "it takes a village", but balk at a "villager" getting tired of their deliquents.

Thanks for giving me a laugh OP.
If kids still played out regularly, no doubt this boy's peers would have long ago reeled in his bully tactics with a "stop that, you fat c*nt!" or ten by now or he would have been beaten up or ostracised.

None of this coddling shit.

ZippyMauveBear · 13/06/2025 03:22

This is honestly hilarious 😂

You did nothing wrong.

Slatterndisgrace · 13/06/2025 03:20

RifeHere · 13/06/2025 03:19

I know that. But do you mean you would physically assault the person? Or something else?

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We never got clarification on this.

RifeHere · 13/06/2025 03:19

wobblyewobbly · 12/06/2025 23:00

To put it shortly - it basically means going to that same shop wouldn't even cross someone’s mind again if I found out they’d called my child what this grown woman did.

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I know that. But do you mean you would physically assault the person? Or something else?

RitaAndFrank · 13/06/2025 03:18

In response to your words, op, the kid either didn’t care (in which case there’s no point wringing your hands over his feelings) or he did care, in which case it taught him a lesson. Win win 🤷‍♀️

littleblueenvelope · 13/06/2025 03:14

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 13/06/2025 02:16

I agree. Horrible behaviour from the OP.

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What about the arsehole kid? What happens if he’s knocked over someone vulnerable or left older people feeling scared or intimidated!

At eleven, you know full well if you’re acting like a cunt or not! But then I automatically think anyone with an e-scooter is a prick!

littleblueenvelope · 13/06/2025 03:10

@LiveLoveLaughQueef your mum is also a hero 🫶

littleblueenvelope · 13/06/2025 03:05

You are my hero!!!! All this bullshit ‘you’re in the wrong here’ this kid sounds like he was being a massive cunt! If more people called these shits out for their crap behaviour then maybe there wouldn’t be so many of them around intimidating people and Iin extreme cases,like that poor gentleman who was killed whilst walking his dog!

a similar thing happened at our local play park! Tweens being horrible and disrespectful and dangerous on huge bikes where small children were playing! I asked why they couldn’t use the main park and said how sorry I felt for them that their parents didn’t give them the attention they craved so their only source on entertainment was to try and intimidate mums with young children at a playground!

police don’t police anymore because they are damned if they do and damned if they don’t!

BlueEyedBogWitch · 13/06/2025 03:04

NC28 · 13/06/2025 00:12

I think the real win for the OP was his dad not believing him. I’d have sauntered off to my car giving the young shitehawk the wanker sign from behind his dad’s back as he desperately tried to convince his old man that I had in fact, called him a fat cunt. 😂

😂😂😂😂

Chickensky · 13/06/2025 02:54

Yeah, but even so I don't think it is age relevant in this case. I just don't think name calling is acceptable to anyone. You can stand your ground; firm hand and call out bad behaviour. You may have a massive blow up but this just seems so excessive!

And then we read threads about (and I am seriously not I undermining anyone who needs to think about their relationship or situation) who partners use this sort of language.

I'm just saying that if an absolute stranger has no other words (despite being quite intimidated the youths and having a bad day) uses a slur or ""fat cunt" against a 10 year old (maybe 11), then we are not helping ourselves.

Slatterndisgrace · 13/06/2025 02:41

Chickensky · 13/06/2025 02:40

Called Unsociable 10 year old a fat c*nt

This is the bold font of the thread.

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Got ya!

Slatterndisgrace · 13/06/2025 02:40

Chickensky · 13/06/2025 02:38

In the title of the thread 🤷

Oh yes! She said about 11 in the OP and that’d stuck.

Chickensky · 13/06/2025 02:40

Called Unsociable 10 year old a fat c*nt

This is the bold font of the thread.

Chickensky · 13/06/2025 02:38

In the title of the thread 🤷

Slatterndisgrace · 13/06/2025 02:35

Chickensky · 13/06/2025 02:33

This is awful! OP noted he was a 10 year old. And obviously needed taking to order but are we really dumping ourselves down to "name calling" and especially at this level? Where is it not ok for a really authoritative nope stop! Or any other retort?

If a stranger is able to use such language and by the way it's a doozer..."fat"... implying or actually stating he was; and then ..."cunt" said in it's colloquial form for him and most of us is the most offensive word you can think of.

If an adult who is a stranger can call a 10 year old a "fat cunt" then why oh why would he not have a formative view that this is ok to tell his prospective partners?

It's ok apparently when you're riding your scooter along being an arse hole but this is all kinds of wrong. You should have kept your vibe of not being intimidated by the youth as you say, and thought of better, maybe even sweary words but not a personal attack.

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Where did she note he was 10?

Chickensky · 13/06/2025 02:33

This is awful! OP noted he was a 10 year old. And obviously needed taking to order but are we really dumping ourselves down to "name calling" and especially at this level? Where is it not ok for a really authoritative nope stop! Or any other retort?

If a stranger is able to use such language and by the way it's a doozer..."fat"... implying or actually stating he was; and then ..."cunt" said in it's colloquial form for him and most of us is the most offensive word you can think of.

If an adult who is a stranger can call a 10 year old a "fat cunt" then why oh why would he not have a formative view that this is ok to tell his prospective partners?

It's ok apparently when you're riding your scooter along being an arse hole but this is all kinds of wrong. You should have kept your vibe of not being intimidated by the youth as you say, and thought of better, maybe even sweary words but not a personal attack.