Called Unsociable 10 year old a fat c*nt

Allthegoodhorses

Personally it sounds like the kid deserved it. Too many unruly kids these days with feeble parents telling them to ‘use their words’ - considering how he spoke to you that language was not new to him and to retaliate and follow you (at 11 years old!!) tells me he’s going to be an out of control yob who’s not been parented correctly

the dad apologised to op and was try to get his child home so I don’t think it’s the same as him out on his own causing chaos. I agree though that the language wasn’t new to him BUT you’d hope children would be turned around by being able to mirror good behaviour around them- imagine the difference if op had said ‘that’s a cool scooter’ and the kid had had a conversation back, it probably wouldn’t have happened but you’d still think there’s a possibility. I work at a checkout and there’s sullen, silent kids until I pick up things like sweets and say ‘I love these,’ or ‘these are fine the second they get into my house’ or ‘bet you’re glad you’ve no school tomorrow’ etc

Now I'm thinking I shouldn't have done it and feeling guilty and also worried that I can't go back to M&S because he might be there and start abusing me and I have 2 young children. Thoughts? I am going to hell

Next time you encounter him and if he says anything report it to M&S immediately as it could escalate. A kid bold enough to follow an adult to their car shouting those insults (even if in retaliation) is possibly bold enough to egg you or assault you in some way. What you said was wrong but it shouldn’t end up being some long running feud, where you and your children are insulted if you see him.

You’re not going to undo a lifetime of ill discipline with a single sentence.

Meh I think calling him a fat cunt is mild. I might have run the little shit over with my car. But then I’m not sure I have this fully developed adult brain people talk about.

I love this. His dad didn’t believe him about the fat cunt comment 😂

I wouldn’t have said that, but I would have shoved him off his scooter.

I think if a “young person” is riding around a supermarket on his/her illegal scooter intimidating people, being called what you said is the least of the child’s problems. Most people would have just deliberately pushed him directly into a freezer!

i worked in a shop when I left school, and I remember parents saying “if you’re naughty, the lady will tell you off and ask us to leave” my reply always was “if you’re unable to keep your kid calm, why and how do you expect me too”, and then the parents would call me a cunt and I would laugh because suddenly the realisation washed all over their faces!

He sounds like an annoying kid but “fat cunt” is so harsh even if this were an adult. I always think it’s awful to bring someone’s appearance into insults, no need for it.

The dramatics. Why would OP go to therapy for losing it once with a kid who was in fact being a dick?

Yep and trying to convince us they’re so hard like we’re going to be impressed 🤣

Funny how people only get like this with women and don’t front up to men.

Nah, honestly I think you are fine. Sometimes being the bigger person just doesn’t work, it would be nice if badly behaved people received more pushback at an earlier age so they understand that society isn’t obliged to tolerate them.

That was a weak insult at best.

Hopefully one day he harasses the wrong person and gets pushed off his stupid scooter. He needs a faceplanting.

More than good deeds, I think you need to go to therapy. Did people use language like that around you growing up? Is that where this comes from? What on earth possessed you? You have brought two young children into the world and you owe it to them to work on yourself. Calling a child a cunt is just so beyond the bounds of acceptable or proportionate behaviour that if I were you I’d get your head seen to pronto.

MN double standards again.
Calling a child what she did not OK, but the presumed violence of “you’ll never visit M&S again” all fine and dandy?

Pot kettle black comes to mind.

Agreed. I used to work with children in care from aged 5-16 and not one would’ve behaved like this. Obviously they had all suffered significant trauma in their lives but we would never tolerate that behaviour if we took them on a day out and nor would their foster carers.

Good for you. There are too many feral children about these days. They behave as they do because they have pathetic parents and hope that no one else will dare to say anything. Shame he didn't crash his stupid scooter. Oh and cunt is a very useful word.

She didn’t get him out, he was already in the car park. She didn’t protect anyone from anything. I’m not saying she is a terrible person but her actions did not improve the situation for anybody.

But he didn’t behave better, he insulted her back. She achieved nothing.

I don't know about anyone else but my small town M&S is full of frail old people who could be really hurt by an older child on a scooter. So well done OP for protecting the general public and getting the little shit out of M&S, a true anti-hero!

I am in tears reading these comments 😂 what a thread.

OP, of course you were wrong to call him that especially the fat part but we do have a problem in British society with out of control children in public spaces.

You’re not the worst person ever, you were maybe just stressed and fearful to an extent. It’s good that you’ve been able to reflect.

I despair of the future for kids like that though. And M&S should’ve done an announcement over the loudspeaker or approached him directly because he was creating an unsafe environment. It’s just a matter of time before he knocks into someone , who is visually impaired or a small kids or people with mobility problems etc

Having a hard life doesn’t mean kids can’t behave in a socially acceptable way and that we can excuse awful behaviours with no consequence. Whilst I’m not saying the OPs reaction was the best this kid was old enough to know what he was doing.

So if you wouldn’t have beaten her up, what exactly would you have done to make sure “she wouldn’t dream of calling a child a cunt again”? Genuine question😂

Don’t lose any sleep over this OP, doubt the little shit will. The fact the dad didn’t believe him probably means he is probably exhausted with his son’s poor behaviour, this won’t have been the first time. I called a similarly aged child a fucking idiot after he swerved and drove his bike at speed in front of a van and then my car. By sheer luck both myself and the other driver avoided hitting the little imbecile who thought it was hilarious. I have no issue whatsoever calling kids like that out.

Hahaha good on you, he absolutely sounds like a little cunt

That's pretty vile that you've said that to a primary school child.
What the fuck is wrong with you?

I don’t think anyone has claimed it was an act of righteous protest. But probably better than head down walking away intimidated which is the reaction these feral youths now expect from the majority of adults.

Kids don’t behave better because strangers insult them
If the criticism is earned, they probably do.

The feral little shit has already started to intimidate and abuse women at the age of 11. Call him what you want it won’t be bad enough. I wouldn’t personally use female anatomy as a term of abuse. Maybe use dickhead, cock, prick instead. He is already on the path to becoming an abuser of women, he’s not an innocent little kid.

Why did M & S not drag him out of there for using his scooter in the store. Don’t they have security in your town? Perhaps report to them that paying customers are being intimidated by youths on electric scooters in stores and the car park. You were unlikely to be the only one.