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Called Unsociable 10 year old a fat c*nt

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Herefortea2 · 12/06/2025 22:46

Ok, am I the worst person ever??
Last week I was at marks and spencers and there was this boy there, about 11 who was riding around on a electric scooter, whizzing past people and behaving in a passive aggressive way. When I past him he loudly made throwing up noises several times right in front of me, to scare/shock me and I said oh are you ok, maybe you need a doctor (because I don't like to be initimdated by youths). Anyway I do the shop and keep thinking about him, I was in a bad mood already and he really annoyed me, I'm fed up of little shits thinking they can terrorise people.
Anyway I saw him again on the way out and again he was whizzing past scaring people. He came past me again and then I said it.....I said 'fat cnt'!!! Now I actually do not use that word, I don't like it, I don't like it when it's used around me either but I was so pissed off that that's what I said!!!! Anyway he circled round and was like what did you say....I ignored him and he started insulting me and following me as I walked to my car, saying is this your car you fucking bitch, cnt, etc etc. I walked away saying I'm calling the police! Then this guy comes over who's his dad! He apologies and says he's trying to get him home (the kid had been in the car park for half an hour at least, maybe longer), the kid tells the dad what I called him and the dad says 'no she didn't' then the kid goes off at the dad for taking a strangers side. The dad is completely useless as the kid is still circling me where I actually have to push him away from me! Eventually he leaves after a lot of verbal abuse, from the kid. Now I'm thinking I shouldn't have done it and feeling guilty and also worried that I can't go back to M&S because he might be there and start abusing me and I have 2 young children. Thoughts? I am going to hell?

OP posts:
MellowPinkDeer · 13/06/2025 07:46

That’s child and his parents sounds absolutely vile. Call him whet you want , I hate these kind of entitled little shits who want to give it out but not take it. Dont feel bad, that kid has no respect , no matters. You don’t need to have respect for people like that.

WhyWouldAnyone · 13/06/2025 07:45

User37482 · 13/06/2025 07:44

Theres another thread about how many of us live in shithole towns with shithole behaviour being rife.

Perhaps instead of telling normal people to make themselves smaller, be kind, stay out of the way it would be better if more of us said “ no, I’m not putting up with that shit”.

Absolutely.

User37482 · 13/06/2025 07:44

Theres another thread about how many of us live in shithole towns with shithole behaviour being rife.

Perhaps instead of telling normal people to make themselves smaller, be kind, stay out of the way it would be better if more of us said “ no, I’m not putting up with that shit”.

WhyWouldAnyone · 13/06/2025 07:43

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 13/06/2025 07:40

Surely you know the answer to this question? For goodness sake of course you’re wrong, in every possible way. Imagine how you would react if some random stranger said that to your child. Give your head a wobble and work on your anger.

I dont know, maybe she'd discipline her child? Maybe her child wouldn't go around behaving like a feral little shit trying to bully adult women in the first place?

She didn't call him that out of the blue, did she?

MsPug · 13/06/2025 07:43

Pinkelephant66 · 12/06/2025 22:51

Was he actually fat?

first time I go to use the laughing emoji and it's gone!

arcticpandas · 13/06/2025 07:42

I think you could have gotten away with calling him "little shit" but fat c#nt just sounds incongrous and quite unhinged. Write a memo to self : newt time- little shit.

FuckityFux · 13/06/2025 07:41

I don’t understand why you didn’t ‘accidentally’ push him off the scooter, to be honest. That’s what I’d have cheerfully done.

doodleschnoodle · 13/06/2025 07:41

This thread just made me think of this clip

WhyWouldAnyone · 13/06/2025 07:41

Yeah, that's pretty bad, but I totally get the frustration at these kids who like yi harass and intimidate people. I wouldn't give it much thought.

Maybe he'll think twice, probably not though, those little shits never do.

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 13/06/2025 07:40

Herefortea2 · 12/06/2025 22:46

Ok, am I the worst person ever??
Last week I was at marks and spencers and there was this boy there, about 11 who was riding around on a electric scooter, whizzing past people and behaving in a passive aggressive way. When I past him he loudly made throwing up noises several times right in front of me, to scare/shock me and I said oh are you ok, maybe you need a doctor (because I don't like to be initimdated by youths). Anyway I do the shop and keep thinking about him, I was in a bad mood already and he really annoyed me, I'm fed up of little shits thinking they can terrorise people.
Anyway I saw him again on the way out and again he was whizzing past scaring people. He came past me again and then I said it.....I said 'fat cnt'!!! Now I actually do not use that word, I don't like it, I don't like it when it's used around me either but I was so pissed off that that's what I said!!!! Anyway he circled round and was like what did you say....I ignored him and he started insulting me and following me as I walked to my car, saying is this your car you fucking bitch, cnt, etc etc. I walked away saying I'm calling the police! Then this guy comes over who's his dad! He apologies and says he's trying to get him home (the kid had been in the car park for half an hour at least, maybe longer), the kid tells the dad what I called him and the dad says 'no she didn't' then the kid goes off at the dad for taking a strangers side. The dad is completely useless as the kid is still circling me where I actually have to push him away from me! Eventually he leaves after a lot of verbal abuse, from the kid. Now I'm thinking I shouldn't have done it and feeling guilty and also worried that I can't go back to M&S because he might be there and start abusing me and I have 2 young children. Thoughts? I am going to hell?

Surely you know the answer to this question? For goodness sake of course you’re wrong, in every possible way. Imagine how you would react if some random stranger said that to your child. Give your head a wobble and work on your anger.

WhyWouldAnyone · 13/06/2025 07:40

Yeah, that's pretty bad, but I totally get the frustration at these kids who like yi harass and intimidate people. I wouldn't give it much thought.

Maybe he'll think twice, probably not though, those little shits never do.

wearyourpinkglove · 13/06/2025 07:33

He needed to be told. Rather by you than a person who would beat him up. I've shouted similar at kids before who are shouting abuse I think it shocks them as they don't think nice grown up ladies will talk back 😂

Yesitisnotthatitbe · 13/06/2025 07:31

Wiltingasparagusfern · 13/06/2025 07:11

Because it is abusive. Calling a child a cunt is abusive language and if I’d exploded like that I’d be questioning my fitness as a mother, frankly. I’m appalled by the people on here excusing it. Perhaps they were called similar names growing up and are perpetuating the cycle? Either way it’s deeply dysfunctional and needs examining imo.

Oh take your head out of your arse. The kid deserved it

BustyLaRoux · 13/06/2025 07:31

I know someone like OP. Always has to speak their mind. Can’t shrug anything off. You invited the child to engage with you further when you made your silly PA comment about him needing a doctor. Unnecessary. But you felt the need to pass comment. The person I know always does the same and then wonders why they end up is so many conflictful (not a word?!) situations. It’s because they can’t let anything go. And then they get huffy about the fact the other person responded back in a way they didn’t like and they get all offended and righteous and start defending their behaviour. FWIW the kid was being a little cunt (no idea if he was fat!) but as soon as you called him that you lost any moral high ground. Live and let live. Kid was being annoying. Report to security next time. Or ignore. Try to avoid calling people cunts. Especially children.

AgnesX · 13/06/2025 07:29

Very classy. As much as the little shit might have deserved it you really shouldn't have lowered yourself to that extent.

Anyway what's done is done. Try and not to engage if there's ever a next time.

Slatterndisgrace · 13/06/2025 07:27

wobblybrain · 13/06/2025 07:21

How big was the car park if he was able to do this for a good 5 minutes?

How big does a space have to be to insult someone for 5 minutes?

Wishihadanalgorithm · 13/06/2025 07:26

Someone needed to parent the kid and OP, whilst your words were a bit on the spicy side, he needed to be told.

If my child was behaving badly I wouldn’t complain what they were called- I’d be thinking (if not saying) the exact same too!

anotherside · 13/06/2025 07:26

TesChique · 13/06/2025 07:19

I shouted "stupid little pricks" at a bunch of teens weaving in and out of the road on bikes in front of my car the other day purposefully on the wind up.

They stopped.

Domt lose a wink of sleep over it op, kids got a lot worse than that back in the day if they behaved even 1 10th as badly and you know what - served them right.

The UK’s philosophy for dealing with antisocial youths the last few decades has been “get a good job so you can live somewhere you don’t need to deal with them as much”.

kissmyfatass · 13/06/2025 07:25

Little twat.
good for you

wobblybrain · 13/06/2025 07:21

Herefortea2 · 12/06/2025 23:17

Thanks for everyone's responses. Some did make me laugh to be honest!

It's confirmed what I already knew by posting to get opinions, I was in the wrong and I shouldn't have done it. Two wrongs don't make a right and that's that! To clear up a couple of things, he wasn't actually fat! Also he was using all the insults known (a good 5 minutes worth none stop), he was going to kill me, lesbian (not an insult but heyho), quite scary, the same sort of language to his dad when he came over too. Obviously I 'started' it so it's besides the point but just to add a bit more context to it.

Appreciate the feedback, definitely food for thought re my behaviour and will absolutely take it on board. I need to do some good deeds.

How big was the car park if he was able to do this for a good 5 minutes?

TesChique · 13/06/2025 07:19

I shouted "stupid little pricks" at a bunch of teens weaving in and out of the road on bikes in front of my car the other day purposefully on the wind up.

They stopped.

Domt lose a wink of sleep over it op, kids got a lot worse than that back in the day if they behaved even 1 10th as badly and you know what - served them right.

Midlifecrisis23 · 13/06/2025 07:14

Oh don’t worry OP, yes it wasn’t the best of ideas but you will learn from this. Everyone makes mistakes and I am like you a bit hot headed at times then regret my choices. I don’t judge you, the little antisocial terror might actually learn something too.

The fact you are thinking about it so much proves that you aren’t a bad person. Hold your head high in M&S and learn from it

Justgorgeous · 13/06/2025 07:13

scalt · 13/06/2025 06:57

MN double standards again.
Calling a child what she did not OK, but the presumed violence of “you’ll never visit M&S again” all fine and dandy?

Pot kettle black comes to mind.

Exactly!

Icanttakethisanymore · 13/06/2025 07:13

anotherside · 13/06/2025 07:04

You’re not going to undo a lifetime of ill discipline with a single sentence.

Which is exactly my point!

Wiltingasparagusfern · 13/06/2025 07:11

IberianBlackout · 13/06/2025 07:00

The dramatics. Why would OP go to therapy for losing it once with a kid who was in fact being a dick?

Because it is abusive. Calling a child a cunt is abusive language and if I’d exploded like that I’d be questioning my fitness as a mother, frankly. I’m appalled by the people on here excusing it. Perhaps they were called similar names growing up and are perpetuating the cycle? Either way it’s deeply dysfunctional and needs examining imo.