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I think I hate being a Mum :-(

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CompletelyFrazzled · 12/06/2025 18:45

I don’t work Fridays and I’m dreading the next three days when DC aged five and two will both be at home (apart from school tomorrow for the eldest). The screaming, the mess, the tantrums, the chaos, the constant go-go-go. I can’t even blame an absent DH - he’s here, he’s 50-50, I couldn’t ask for more from him. And yet here I am, praying for Monday morning when I can go back to work and things are calm and peaceful. The irony is, I have quite a stressful job and I still find it easier than being with the kids.

I love my children but honestly I’m wishing the months and years away until they’re both a bit older and life feels a bit calmer.

Tell me I’m not the only person feeling like this :-(

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CompletelyFrazzled · 12/06/2025 19:10

Thank you to the people who recognised a cry for solidarity - it’s a relief to know I’m not the only one feeling like this!

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Stripeyanddotty · 12/06/2025 19:09

all this after a full day at work.

The op does not work on Fridays.
I assume this is advice for Fridays.

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CompletelyFrazzled · 12/06/2025 19:09

I get them outside. I do activities with them. We go places and do things. Of course we do. I do everything I’m supposed to but that doesn’t mean I don’t hate it.

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ZImono · 12/06/2025 19:07

SleepQuest33 · 12/06/2025 19:01

Take them out to a park. Bake some biscuits with them. Take them to the library and get them looking at the books.

+1 on Get them out. Make some sandwiches and a bit of fruit / crisps / a little biscuit and off you go..

Our "formula" is morning activity outing lunch out then back home for nap by 12.30 - 1.30. Little one has a nap and big one watches a Disney movie or similar maybe plays woth magna tiles... while i veg on the coach and do some washing if I'm feeling wild.
That takes us to about 3.30 /4

Then some drawing or farting about in garden or whatever while I dump something into the instant pot or airfrier
Then bath and bed

TiredMame · 12/06/2025 19:04

SleepQuest33 · 12/06/2025 19:01

Take them out to a park. Bake some biscuits with them. Take them to the library and get them looking at the books.

And the dinner will cook itself, the bathtime will happen by itself and all this after a full day at work. Sometimes I wonder about this place. Not everyone is twiddling their thumbs with oodles of time. Op I get you. I have a 2yo and wishing time away too. I loathe the early years.

SleepQuest33 · 12/06/2025 19:01

Take them out to a park. Bake some biscuits with them. Take them to the library and get them looking at the books.

coxesorangepippin · 12/06/2025 18:57

Get them outside as much as possible

steeringwheelishotandwarm · 12/06/2025 18:54

Yes, I remember these days so well. I didn’t work my when children were small so I was constantly running after them 24/7 all
my friends said they envied me so much being able to be a sahm but the truth is I didn’t really enough the early years of chaos. I wanted to be able to go up the town and have a look in shops without 2 young kids squealing the place down.

however they are both teenagers now and I can’t believe how fast the years have passed. You will be grand op xxx

littlemissprosseco · 12/06/2025 18:50

I get you!! I felt a bit like this.
But try a little of ‘ mind over matter’ …. Embrace the mayhem. They’re not little for long. Love them for who they are. It’s their personalities developing
Good luck