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about receiving crappy gifts?

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streth · 12/06/2025 15:42

Just had a birthday and the gifts were seriously disappointing. I would have preferred nothing just so I do not have to get rid of them.

The gifts were:

Baking tin set wrapped in Christmas twine in a Christmas gift - I don't bake
A bag with a political slogan which smells strongly of takeaway food like Chinese
A scarf in a crushed box which is not my colour or style
Box of generic fudge from tourist city - the kind where they change the sleeve on the box to the location
Another box of stuffed dates that I received last year also

I don't like any of these and have given most of them to the charity shop already but I guess what hurts is the complete lack of thought. They seem regifted (definitely the Christmas one) which is fine but they didn't have in mind whether I actually like these things. I don't. They know me well enough to know I do not like these kinds of gifts. It is just very disappointing.

OP posts:
MoreChocPls · 12/06/2025 16:18

Who gave them to you and what did you say?

Badhunny · 12/06/2025 16:16

Who is buying you all this shit?

GetOffTheCounter · 12/06/2025 16:13

I suppose it depends who gave them to you.

Family - not great choices.

friends- time to stop exchanging gifts as a habit/expectation. With COL I bet alot of people would be glad to stop random gift giving tbh!

streth · 12/06/2025 16:09

Needmorelego · 12/06/2025 15:59

That is a random selection 😁
Next time either firmly say "I don't want gifts" or you go down the Wish List path.
I'm all for recycling/regifting but quite frankly I'd chuck that lot in the bin.
Happy Birthday 🎂

I can't even regift them, that is why I am taking them straight to the charity shop. I couldn't inflict them on friends and family.

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Isittimeformynapyet · 12/06/2025 16:09

I sympathise OP.

For my birthday last week a good friend of mine gave me a resin plaque with a plastic butterfly on with several paragraphs of calligraphy telling me how extraordinarily special I am.

As she handed me the gift she said "I know you don't like this sort of thing....." but just left that sentence hanging.

I honestly thought saying "I fucking hate this type of crap" would have cut this shit out, but no.

PS I didn't say this about any previous gift she'd given me.

Needmorelego · 12/06/2025 15:59

That is a random selection 😁
Next time either firmly say "I don't want gifts" or you go down the Wish List path.
I'm all for recycling/regifting but quite frankly I'd chuck that lot in the bin.
Happy Birthday 🎂

Liverpool52 · 12/06/2025 15:56

My PIL give me exactly the same gifts every year through a combination of "but you told us that once" (like a brand of socks I like but never in my size, because apparently I would have told them the wrong size) or because that's what good little wives want, vouchers for somewhere they can buy something nice for the house. On occasion I've massively insulted them by saying thanks but no thanks to the offer of a household item that will make my life so much easier (tumble drier). My DH suggests things I would like in the same value but it's the same every year. Meanwhile he gets a cheque to spend on himself.

If they want to piss money down the drain that's on them.

Eldermileniummam · 12/06/2025 15:44

OP I understand why you're upset

I know they say it's the thought that counts but that doesn't sound like much thought at all. It sounds like they found something super cheap or had them lying around.

GardenGaff · 12/06/2025 15:44

Were these all from different people? You should have kept them and regifted them amongst that same group of people.

FloraBotticelli · 12/06/2025 15:43

YANBU. I asked family to stop doing gifts between us last year and it’s fab, I don’t have to worry about taking a pile of clutter to the charity shop now.