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Is this weird or am I being too serious? *Content warning- animal cruelty* edited by MNHQ

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Discoprincess6 · 12/06/2025 15:02

Hi please tell me honestly if this is me being too serious or am I right?

I love animals and never want to see any being harmed. I have my own cat who is my little shadow and best friend.

I have a new friend (6 months give or take.) She knows I love animals and how much I love my cat.

Anyway, she keeps saying how much she dislikes cats and is going to skin mine when she comes to visit. I laughed this off.

she sent me a vid where an animal was being mistreated and I asked her not to send me anything like that, sort of laughed this off.

She told me she previously went to a festival and left her dog home alone without no one coming to feed it etc for 4 days. She gave the dog up eventually. I didn’t comment.

Last night she sent me a video of two rabbits all well and fluffy at first then the video cuts out and then two rabbits skinned and put on sticks appear, they’re then cooked and eaten.

I politely asked her not to send me anything like that. She said I’m a meat eater so shouldn’t be bothered. I said I know I am but I don’t want to see videos like this.

is this weird? She hasn’t said she’s joking but seems to find winding me up like this amusing. I’m rethinking my friendship???

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DiscoBob · 12/06/2025 15:26

Is she a hardcore vegan trying to stop you eating meat? Or just a sick sadist.
I wouldn't be friends with someone like that.
If someone mentioned harming any cat, I'd want to do the same to them.

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Discoprincess6 · 12/06/2025 15:25

Midlifecrisis23 · 12/06/2025 15:23

Slowly withdraw OP, a complete block means she might realise and go bananas. Just stop replying slowly and retreat

Yes I think I will do this. I feel sick. I couldn’t sleep after she sent me the video as it was quite late.

my fiancé has asked me what’s wrong today so told him. He said it’s not funny and does it look like he’s laughing.

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Newname71 · 12/06/2025 15:24

I could not and would not be friends with someone like this!

Createausername1970 · 12/06/2025 15:23

She is unhinged and I wouldn't continue the friendship - but I also wouldn't just drop her or block as I would be a bit concerned about her reaction.

A phased retreat.

In the meantime, don't impart any further private information about your personal life or holiday plans etc., and just delete without reading or watching if she sends you videos or memes.

Midlifecrisis23 · 12/06/2025 15:23

Slowly withdraw OP, a complete block means she might realise and go bananas. Just stop replying slowly and retreat

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Discoprincess6 · 12/06/2025 15:22

I only found out about her dog last week and she doesn’t have it anymore. Luckily she’s not visited here. I had told her clearly that im highly protective of my cat.

im going to leave it with her. She is vindictive though so im worried she will do something against me. Luckily I never have to see her again.

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mybrainpills · 12/06/2025 15:21

Id send her a message saying stay the fuck away from me and go see a GP you clearly need help if you like them sort of clips.
I really meant it fuck off you are vile.
Block block block.

OR the next message she sends reply with.
The person your trying to reach as nothing in common with you and your love for animal abuse.
Your not a friend i want or need near me or in my life.
Ps this message is not a joke.
Block block block.

I just could not hold my mouth shut with scum like her.

BusySittingDown · 12/06/2025 15:18

She sounds like a psychopath, what a weirdo!

I'm not a massive cat person - I get sick of the neighbourhood cats crapping on my lawn and tbh, I'm a bit scared of them! 😳😂

However, I love watching cute cat videos and would hate to see any come to harm. I like looking at cats, they're so cute. I'm just bloody terrified of them scratching me!

Also, why would you talk like that about someone's beloved pet? For some people it's as bad as talking about their child, eg "I hate kids. I'm gonna kick yours when I come round". Weird!

Hkakge · 12/06/2025 15:17

Jeez, why do you want to be friends with someone like that? I could not get past the leaving the dog alone uncared for at home for days, that's pure cruelty and inexcusable

thatsawhopperthatlemon · 12/06/2025 15:17

How can you even begin to contemplate being friends with someone who clearly enjoys animal cruelty?

She's despicable. In fact, I'd even go so far as reporting someone to the police if they sent me messages like that.

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Discoprincess6 · 12/06/2025 15:17

Thank you.

I kind of let it slide because I don’t have that many friends. I have a very big family and I have my fiancé but only two long term friends.

so I went to a new group and I ended up meeting her. I’m going to let the friendship go.

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C080889 · 12/06/2025 15:14

Wouldnt have chance to be in the same room as my cat or she would be getting skinned

MattCauthon · 12/06/2025 15:14

I echo the people who think this is disturbing.

But even if she thinks these are perfectly normal comments/ videos and her friend Mary thinks it's hilarious - you're in the early stages of developing a friendship. Like dating, part of this is figuring out if you like the same things, have similar values, enjoy the same sense of humour. Clearly, in your case, the answer to those questions is NO. SO I think this friendship needs to slide back into casual acquaintanceship. At most.

Clarinet1 · 12/06/2025 15:13

She sounds ghastly and, at the very least, not someone who shares your views enough for you to have anything to do with her.
Block her and run a mile very fast if you ever see her!

DitzyDerbyBabe86 · 12/06/2025 15:13

One of our acquaintances, who doesn’t like cats, used to often tell me he’d love to suffocate my cat. Absolutely vile human.

Kangarude · 12/06/2025 15:12

I am not an animal lover but I would ditch anyone who thought it was ok to view or send images of animals being mistreated in any way.
You shouldn’t even need to ask

loropianalover · 12/06/2025 15:12

That is disturbing but to be honest OP it’s also disturbing that you didn’t completely shut her down immediately and that you’re questioning whether or not this is ok?

The number one thing we all know about people who are rotten in the brain is that they will mistreat animals. The fact this person left their dog unattended to for days and then gave them away would have been enough for me to block them.

Pallisers · 12/06/2025 15:11

why on earth are you friends with this nasty nutcase?

ShellieAnn · 12/06/2025 15:11

Get rid of her, she sounds horrific.

Doyouremembergirl · 12/06/2025 15:11

Get this vile supporter of animal abuse out of your life OP x

purpleme12 · 12/06/2025 15:10

Erm quite honestly with all the things you've mentioned I think I'd have to stop being friends with this person

That goes beyond someone thinking they're being funny...

And it's not something a friend who do

chocolatemademefat · 12/06/2025 15:10

Make sure she doesn’t come to visit. Psycho. I wouldn’t consider her a friend - block her.

Coffeeishot · 12/06/2025 15:09

I don't know why you are bothering with her she's obviously not a pleasant person and sharing videos of animal abuse is a crime.

Duckduck2 · 12/06/2025 15:09

She is not a friend.
She is a psychopath.
She does not respect you.
It’s not a joke to send things like that.

Block immediately.

ellie09 · 12/06/2025 15:08

Why are you friends with people like this?

Read back on what your wrote and ask yourself what advice you would give somebody else.

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