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Is this weird or am I being too serious? *Content warning- animal cruelty* edited by MNHQ

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Discoprincess6 · 12/06/2025 15:02

Hi please tell me honestly if this is me being too serious or am I right?

I love animals and never want to see any being harmed. I have my own cat who is my little shadow and best friend.

I have a new friend (6 months give or take.) She knows I love animals and how much I love my cat.

Anyway, she keeps saying how much she dislikes cats and is going to skin mine when she comes to visit. I laughed this off.

she sent me a vid where an animal was being mistreated and I asked her not to send me anything like that, sort of laughed this off.

She told me she previously went to a festival and left her dog home alone without no one coming to feed it etc for 4 days. She gave the dog up eventually. I didn’t comment.

Last night she sent me a video of two rabbits all well and fluffy at first then the video cuts out and then two rabbits skinned and put on sticks appear, they’re then cooked and eaten.

I politely asked her not to send me anything like that. She said I’m a meat eater so shouldn’t be bothered. I said I know I am but I don’t want to see videos like this.

is this weird? She hasn’t said she’s joking but seems to find winding me up like this amusing. I’m rethinking my friendship???

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AllyX970 · 22/06/2025 18:37

Discoprincess6 · 12/06/2025 15:02

Hi please tell me honestly if this is me being too serious or am I right?

I love animals and never want to see any being harmed. I have my own cat who is my little shadow and best friend.

I have a new friend (6 months give or take.) She knows I love animals and how much I love my cat.

Anyway, she keeps saying how much she dislikes cats and is going to skin mine when she comes to visit. I laughed this off.

she sent me a vid where an animal was being mistreated and I asked her not to send me anything like that, sort of laughed this off.

She told me she previously went to a festival and left her dog home alone without no one coming to feed it etc for 4 days. She gave the dog up eventually. I didn’t comment.

Last night she sent me a video of two rabbits all well and fluffy at first then the video cuts out and then two rabbits skinned and put on sticks appear, they’re then cooked and eaten.

I politely asked her not to send me anything like that. She said I’m a meat eater so shouldn’t be bothered. I said I know I am but I don’t want to see videos like this.

is this weird? She hasn’t said she’s joking but seems to find winding me up like this amusing. I’m rethinking my friendship???

This is horrible and disturbing behavior you’ve had to endure!! I feel like she’s doing these things intentionally because she knows they’re upsetting to you.

I’m an animal lover and I eat meat, but not all meats because of the processes involved.

That doesn’t mean I want to see videos of animals being prepped for and/or slaughtered!! 😳

You say she’s a new friend, and I don’t think she should be any kind of friend of yours any longer.

I’m also curious to know if you’ve ever met any friends of hers alone or if she has a significant other? If not, that says something. 🩷

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Discoprincess6 · 13/06/2025 17:44

I’ve blocked her already so bit late to do it another way. I’ve had a migraine all day panicking about it all. I can’t believe I didn’t drop her after the dog thing. I’ve never experienced anyone like her so I can only think I was out of my depth or shocked by what she said.

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DontTouchRoach · 13/06/2025 14:49

She sounds like a fucking nutjob who knows you love animals and is deliberately taunting you with this stuff. Frankly she sounds like a sadistic psycho. I’d have ditched her just for the dog thing, let alone the rest. If I were you I’d drop her like a hot brick. Ideally off a tall building.

CloudRainbowCloud · 13/06/2025 14:22

She sounds unhinged!! I would avoid her as much as possible as she seems to delight in upsetting you. I get that you want to make new friends (am in the same boat!) but I don't think she sounds like a nice person at all. Sorry you're having to deal with her. I would think about maybe using the grey-rock method rather than announcing that you don't want to be friends just to be on the safe side. X

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Discoprincess6 · 13/06/2025 14:18

Thanks guys I’ve deleted and blocked and didn’t offer an explanation. I don’t live by her and I live too far out for her to be by mine. Plus she doesn’t know where I live. I’ve spoke to my family, all said odd and sick.

im going to work on my self esteem.

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Rapunzle · 13/06/2025 13:59

Are there any others in your book club who have seen her weird behaviour? Is there anyone in this club you are close to & can trust? It might be good to meet them & express your concerns/show them her messages & get them as backup or at least a heads up as to why you are withdrawing - if you feel you have to from the club. Not that you should be losing out on it but you may find it easier to - which is a shame. I do think you have every right if she asks why you’ve withdrawn /stopped replying to her etc that you simply cannot be friends with somebody with that sense of humour. That you find it really disturbing & you can’t see her in the same light as a friend as a result. That that’s just how you are & say (I’m sorry but) our friendship’s over but wish you all the best. And then completely detach. Good luck!

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Discoprincess6 · 13/06/2025 11:12

coxesorangepippin · 13/06/2025 02:14

If this is real, then yes, disengage

If is real.

I’ve blocked and deleted in my phone and closed down my social media where she was on my friends list.

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coxesorangepippin · 13/06/2025 02:14

If this is real, then yes, disengage

SmileForInstantBeauty · 13/06/2025 00:59

I would be worried too, and from what you have described, I’d let the police know about what she’s been sending you.
Re other pp, I too would be careful about winding down the contact, it sounds like she’s homed in on your vulnerability, and heaven knows with someone who sounds questionable.

For a little more peace of mind, just letting the police know might help.

They may even know of her if she’s behaved like this in past “friendships”, and been reported.

Take as much care as you feel you want to, it’s not good for you to feel insecure.

Drummend01 · 12/06/2025 22:51

Discoprincess6 · 12/06/2025 21:59

I haven’t heard from her since this morning which is really really really unusual. I’ve got chest pains I’m stressed out. Like what is she planning

Now you are being a bit unreasonable. She’s probably busy, I highly doubt she’s planning to skin your cat. She sounds like a weirdo and I’d be breathing a sigh of relief that hopefully she’s moved on to bothering someone else.

BluntTurtle · 12/06/2025 22:07

Ontheflipside · 12/06/2025 19:53

Omg I'm not weird. I'm SO sorry I clicked the wrong button. You are definitely NOT being unreasonable

Just change your vote.

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Discoprincess6 · 12/06/2025 21:59

I haven’t heard from her since this morning which is really really really unusual. I’ve got chest pains I’m stressed out. Like what is she planning

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Mrsmouse71 · 12/06/2025 21:39

Midlifecrisis23 · 12/06/2025 15:23

Slowly withdraw OP, a complete block means she might realise and go bananas. Just stop replying slowly and retreat

This…. If you just block she’ll need to react, withdraw, be too busy to meet up but keep texting for a time period, make it longer to respond

latetothefisting · 12/06/2025 20:18

Ontheflipside · 12/06/2025 20:00

😂 I'm truly sorry!! Blame the 4am alarm this morning

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you can just click on the other option in the poll if you clicked the wrong one, and it will change it

chinoisierychic · 12/06/2025 20:11

She’s a freak. The lowest type of human treats animals or children badly or is cruel to them. It wouldn’t be unreasonable to block her and never speak to her again.

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Discoprincess6 · 12/06/2025 20:10

theclampits · 12/06/2025 20:08

Op you don’t have to justify yourself !!

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I know thank you. Xx

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CurlewKate · 12/06/2025 20:10

Weird. Deeply, deeply weird.

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Discoprincess6 · 12/06/2025 20:09

ClaredeBear · 12/06/2025 20:04

Why knock around with someone like that? Join a book club or interest group and find a nice friend. X

It was originally a book group. She’s friends with one of the other girls. She was not in the group but came on an outing.

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theclampits · 12/06/2025 20:08

Discoprincess6 · 12/06/2025 20:07

I’m not sensitive to their torture what are you on about? It’s the first time I’ve ever come across something like this and I’ve not known what to do.

i was vegan but my body stopped functioning (i don’t have to tell you why) so for health reasons the medical professionals advised to me start incorporating meat and dairy into my diet in conjunction with medication. As soon as I’m back to full health which will be at least 4 months I will be going back vegan but I’ll seek proper advice instead of me just doing it.

I wear materials not from animals so I don’t know where you got that from? Go away feel bad enough

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Op you don’t have to justify yourself !!

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Discoprincess6 · 12/06/2025 20:07

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I’m not sensitive to their torture what are you on about? It’s the first time I’ve ever come across something like this and I’ve not known what to do.

i was vegan but my body stopped functioning (i don’t have to tell you why) so for health reasons the medical professionals advised to me start incorporating meat and dairy into my diet in conjunction with medication. As soon as I’m back to full health which will be at least 4 months I will be going back vegan but I’ll seek proper advice instead of me just doing it.

I wear materials not from animals so I don’t know where you got that from? Go away feel bad enough

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Miyagi99 · 12/06/2025 20:07

I would block her, psychopathic behaviour.

Judiezones · 12/06/2025 20:04

She's weird, really weird. Block her.

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Vegan then ?

ClaredeBear · 12/06/2025 20:04

Why knock around with someone like that? Join a book club or interest group and find a nice friend. X

heartsinvisiblefury · 12/06/2025 20:02

Run. This person is very disturbed.

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