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Is going for a coffee alone strange?

115 replies

LonelyNight2 · 12/06/2025 14:45

I’m sat with a nice coffee right now watching the world go by. When I told DH as I was heading out what my plans were, he looked at me as if I had gone mad! Anyone else enjoy a solo coffee occasionally or do you find the idea strange too?

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InfoSecInTheCity · 12/06/2025 14:50

I do it everyday, my half hour at Costa in the morning between school drop off and starting work keeps me sane. It’s half hour to read my book or people watch while listening to my music and just taking time alone.

FinallyHere · 12/06/2025 14:50

It’s pretty weird to entertain for one minute that anyone who is alone and wants a coffee (or even just a break or lift) would need to find a friend in order to score a coffee. The most casual glance will show that lots of people are rightly ignoring what ex ver memo your DH has read. Simples

Sunshineandblueskysalltheway · 12/06/2025 14:49

People who think this is strange tend to be uneducated and to not like themselves very much.

Original poster
LonelyNight2 · 12/06/2025 14:49

Thanks all, I might show DH these replies!

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KickHimInTheCrotch · 12/06/2025 14:49

I'll do anything on my own - coffee, dinner, cinema, pub. I find people who aren't OK in their own company strange.

IDontLikePinaColadas · 12/06/2025 14:49

I dread to think of what he would make of my love of dining and going to the theatre on my own…

Iwontlethtesungodownonme · 12/06/2025 14:49

One of my favourite things to do.

HappilyDivorced89 · 12/06/2025 14:48

I'll often do this if I'm on annual leave and have time to kill before picking up DD from nursery!

Nothing strange about it at all...I think many people aspire to this actually!

WhistleBlower8 · 12/06/2025 14:48

I regularly go to coffee shops and just sit watching the world. Completely normal thing to do. Your DH is odd.

Therapee · 12/06/2025 14:48

No <gavel>

HiRen · 12/06/2025 14:48

Erm, no? I do it often. It's bliss.

Although these days I make my own coffee and take it on a walk, or to sit by the river.

PeckyGoose · 12/06/2025 14:48

If it's weird, them I'm weird too. Weird solidarity 🤜🤛

I love going for a coffee with a book. My reading is much more efficient when I'm out the house!

JustAnInchident · 12/06/2025 14:47

Sounds absolutely lovely, I’m very jealous. I too went for coffee and cake this morning. Alas I had a three year old and a three month old in tow and it was, frankly, chaos 🤣 lovely in its own way, but not overly relaxing!

Lmnop22 · 12/06/2025 14:47

Oh I hope this isn’t strange because I do this a lot! Drinking coffee alone with a book is one of my go to weekend plans 😂

wordywitch · 12/06/2025 14:46

Your DH is very odd. Does he never do anything alone?