To dislike it when people shorten my child’s name?

My Nannie once told the police they had the wrong house and then shut the door as "Sam doesn't live here" knowing full well that my Uncle Samuel was known as Sam.

My mum told a friend that phoned me once that they had the wrong number as there isn't a Charlie in the house. It was only after she'd hung up that she realised they were phoning to speak to me!

I agree. It's not affectionate if the person whose name it is doesn't like it. My son has always politely corrected people who shorten his name.
He tends to ignore them if they continue to shorten it.

Stephens can get funny about having their names shortened. I assume Davids do as well. If they don't, they should.

My son has the same type of name and I fully expected to use the short version, but just.. haven't!
I don't mind if people shorten it myself but he doesn't seem to like it except from one teacher, and my brother - different version from each. No logic! He will exclusively introduce himself as the full version. So if family ignored that preference of his, yeah I'd be annoyed too! It's not difficult to call someone but their preferred name, and I think it's rather rude not to.

My son and I are the complete opposite and get annoyed when we are addressed by our full name because we have both always referred to ourselves by a shortened version .

Imagine how I feel when I am called one name (Arabic name) and then you have some lazy gits who change my name to something easy for them! Without asking. And even when I say my name is .... Lets say "Surayha". They say oh I will call you Sarah. No my flipping name is "surayha" not "Sarah"!!!!!!😡

I totally disagree. If they and he want the name to be Thomas correct people and says its Thomas actually.

If they continue to say Tom it isn't affectionate it's disrespectful.

I'm the same. My name is a One syllable name. I hate it with a passion. I love it when people lengthen it

Do what my Nana did (in your best Hyacinth Bucket voice) whenever any of my Uncle’s friends telephoned/knocked and asked if he was in: ‘No, Dave’s not here, he doesn’t live here…David is though?’ 😂 Absolute class! 😂

Haha same with me. I have a Samuel. I call him Sam but all his friends call him Samuel

I wonder if it's more because you know HE doesn't like it, so you're annoyed FOR him??

But it’s obvious that people will shorten those names that have a common short version. Even if people know they don’t like it and they stop, someone else will do it as people automatically shorten names. It’s a fact with those types of names and if I didn’t want people to shorten names (or didn’t like the shortened version) i’d steer well clear of those names. Seems mad to pick a name so commonly shortened then complain. In my opinion. Lots of one syllable names that never get shortened.

Some people lengthen names too. A friend chose a one syllable name they liked for their DC and it’s frequently lengthened. Think Jim>Jimmy, Eve>Evie, Jen>Jenny, Tom>Tommy.

It’s common courtesy to use someone’s actual name rather than a version you prefer, but like common sense, it’s sadly not as common as you’d hope.

This.

My siblings are always called by their full names by our parents.

Elizabeth
Joseph
Thomas
Victoria.

To everyone else they are liz joe Tom and vick.

It is a term of affection. Just be glad your dchave close friends. There is nothing you can do about it

No, it’s not! Using a shortened version of a name isn’t compulsory! Some people do, some people definitely don’t (see my Dave/David example earlier). What other names are people not allowed to use because they’re commonly shortened? Catherine? Elizabeth? Stephen? James?

Most names can be shortened, but if the person who the name belongs to doesn’t use a shortened version, then by calling them the shortened version you’re being rude and, simply, not using their actual name.

Just keep correcting them. They will get there eventually.

it’s very rude when people do that.

To be honest if it’s something like Samuel - Sam, Thomas - Tom then it’s a bit silly to use that name when it’s shortened so often in the UK. I agree its a sign of affection, and I personally never mind when my name is shortened.

And... this is why I chose a single-syllable name for my dc.

Same could be said you were being rude for assuming it was ok to call her child a name that wasn’t his because you don’t have an issue when it comes to your child’s name being shortened?

It wasn’t his name regardless of your intention and she probably did it because people think it’s acceptable and she doesn’t or to simply be clear. Not rude to correct someone when it’s not their child’s name.

There are plenty of people named Ollie as there are plenty of people named Oliver, doesn’t mean they are all ok with being called the other.

Yes.

This a thread about what people think is rude with regard to shortened names. I felt in the scenario I mentioned it felt rude to be corrected. Not much else I can say really. It’s that simple.

My parents hated people shortening their names so much that we all have unshortenable names. DS has a commonly shortened name, but he corrects anyone who doesn't use his full name. And finds it a useful filter on who the wankers are who keep using it when he's told them no to their faces.

Rude to be rightly corrected?

They will mess with them anyway. My parents picked a name for me they thought couldn't be shortened. They were wrong! And its super annoying, i would much rather have a name with a recognised shortening.

No it really wouldn’t. God I have even gone along with entirely different names let alone pronounciation or shortening’s. It really doesn’t matter if this is potentially the only conversation we will ever have. It is just rude.

It’s good that he’s correcting people himself. My DD is 6 and when she first started school she didn’t want anyone using the short version of her name except me and DH but if anyone did she would come and tell me about it but not say anything to them. I have the opposite problem, I always sign off emails to colleagues with the short version of of my name but except my boss, I get full named by everyone! 🤬