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FroggletTowers · 12/06/2025 13:53

Or is this happening anywhere else?

I have been discussing this with friends, family and colleagues recently so won't name our town for privacy reasons, but it is a regular, large town in England, UK.
Nothing particularly special or awful about it, previously.

Since the pandemic, the entire vibe has changed. Almost unrecognisable.
Yes, we have some heavy shop closures like many towns, but the council kept it looking decent as much as it could. Some nice buildings and nature areas, etc.

What stands out most, apart from the general vandalism and dog shit is the weird accumulation of male groups hanging around boozing in public.

So far they have taken over the local park, river walks and nature reserves. They often cluster beneath bridges or across paths where people like to run, cycle walk dogs or take children, making it less safe and filling these areas with waste. Off road bikes have ruined the nature reserves, so less people visit Sad

Sadly the authorities don't seem to be doing much about it, it is as if these people don't have to abide by laws that the rest of us have to. Some buildings adjacent to these areas have windows put through on a regular basis, even in what you'd call 'nice' areas.
Many of them cluster at river bridges and block the path for others, most are very drunk or out of generally.
It isn't unusual to see a large man passed out across the pathway, blocking anyone getting past. If you had a pram or bike it would be really uncomfortable to have to rouse a large drunk at 2pm in the afternoon. Most are local men, with a growing amount of middle eastern men. The vast majority of them are unstable.

We see less women out cycling, walking or exercising now, and this encompasses both MC and WC areas. These people seem to have just multiplied and spread across the entire borough and have taken over all public space.
We live in a decent area that is now seeming to go downhill.
It isn't unusual to see day drinkers sat alone, surrounded by cans on a quiet residential street. And they won't move to let you past.

It's really depressing.

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Slatterndisgrace · 15/06/2025 12:09

Quirkswork · 15/06/2025 11:59

When I was a child (age 10 or 11 onwards. Sometimes younger) loads of us would pick fruit on the farms in Kent for extra pocket money. Such a useful thing for a child to be able to do if they want. It's a shame that isn't allowed any more.

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We used to do potato picking, huge fields of it. All the local children working in a line. We’d go to the fair as it, coincidentally!, was in the village at the same time. Back breaking work, filling up those sacks. No going round bullying people going about their business.

Quirkswork · 15/06/2025 11:59

TizerorFizz · 15/06/2025 11:50

@alikelylass The rot set in when the locals no longer wanted to work for the farmers and others had to be recruited. It’s very difficult when it’s a farming area. What did you expect the farmers to do? Give up and just allow the land to be fallow?

When I was a child (age 10 or 11 onwards. Sometimes younger) loads of us would pick fruit on the farms in Kent for extra pocket money. Such a useful thing for a child to be able to do if they want. It's a shame that isn't allowed any more.

TizerorFizz · 15/06/2025 11:50

@alikelylass The rot set in when the locals no longer wanted to work for the farmers and others had to be recruited. It’s very difficult when it’s a farming area. What did you expect the farmers to do? Give up and just allow the land to be fallow?

KnutsfordCityLimits · 15/06/2025 11:47

The Brits won’t do the jobs narrative I think can be a bit misleading, implying that British people are lazy, but often because you’ve got single men coming to do some of these jobs, and probably to a lesser extent women, they are able to work hours and live in conditions that aren’t compatible with family life. It feels like the unions fought for years for decent hours, flexible working, time off and all sorts of things and it’s fair enough for workers to say no I don’t want to live in a caravan or an HMO with lots of other men, no I can’t get childcare out of hours, no I’m not going waive my right to decent working hours, no, I can’t be constantly available just in case I get called in et cetera. The whole system for a lot of these jobs is broken, with people having to claim top up benefits even while working full-time or more than full-time, while employers benefit (although clearly a lot of employers are struggling as well).

In relation to councils housing people, in many towns and rural areas, that sits with district councils and the other support services with county councils. There’s local government reorganisation happening at the moment to bring all the services into unitaries, but district councils have obligations around housing but cannot make completely separate authorities provide other services, even if there was the funding to provide them.

Crikeyalmighty · 15/06/2025 11:17

@alikelylass thing is though Brits were not up to the job or interested in doing it - so what was the alternative? Similar issues too in many other wealthier countries

taxguru · 15/06/2025 09:28

TizerorFizz · 14/06/2025 21:36

@taxguru The “boarding houses” (guest houses!) were not getting guests! What were owners supposed to do? Have no business? Ok so many sold up and dc didn’t take them on but there was no business in traditional holidays so the guest houses were put to alternative use. What else could have happened? Holidays moved abroad and people from abroad moved in.

The point is that it was councils who facilitated/encouraged such people to move in, but didn't put anything at all in place to support them, no employment, no additional healthcare/education/social services support, no funding for anything at all. It was entirely obvious and foreseeable what would happen, but the council just ignored it and we ended up with crime (minor and serious), drugs, vandalism, shoplifting, etc etc., all of which just dragged the town down and ruined what was left of the tourism industry as even day trippers and short stay/weekenders stopped coming. A vicious downward spiral!

bostongirl222 · 15/06/2025 08:48

alikelylass · 15/06/2025 06:19

The rot set in when there were loads of Eastern Europeans coming over to work in the fields. The Gangmasters put them in HMOs or in caravans on fields.
At night they had nothing to do so went around making a nuisance of themselves.
Some started an illegal 'still' and managed to blow themselves up.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-lincolnshire-18154900

Yeah i remember that happening

alikelylass · 15/06/2025 06:19

bostongirl222 · 14/06/2025 21:51

I think anyone who has lived or spent time in Boston can see exactly what has happened over the years its a shame as it use to be a nice safe place.

The rot set in when there were loads of Eastern Europeans coming over to work in the fields. The Gangmasters put them in HMOs or in caravans on fields.
At night they had nothing to do so went around making a nuisance of themselves.
Some started an illegal 'still' and managed to blow themselves up.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-lincolnshire-18154900

TizerorFizz · 14/06/2025 22:50

@Luddite26 Exactly. So the properties became redundant for holidays. A combination of things but people move into spaces vacated.

bostongirl222 · 14/06/2025 21:51

minimadgirl · 14/06/2025 21:30

Is it sad that I knew exactly where you were from before I even saw your name?

I think anyone who has lived or spent time in Boston can see exactly what has happened over the years its a shame as it use to be a nice safe place.

Luddite26 · 14/06/2025 21:50

They had strict curfews as well had to be in by 10pm not allowed in the room during the day only back for meals! Couldn't just book for 1 night like you can now. People broke out of that regimented control. Those who were only released for two weeks from a factory in the summer could cope with the rules but when that working style ended so did the control.

TizerorFizz · 14/06/2025 21:36

@taxguru The “boarding houses” (guest houses!) were not getting guests! What were owners supposed to do? Have no business? Ok so many sold up and dc didn’t take them on but there was no business in traditional holidays so the guest houses were put to alternative use. What else could have happened? Holidays moved abroad and people from abroad moved in.

minimadgirl · 14/06/2025 21:30

bostongirl222 · 12/06/2025 14:19

Name change for this yes my town is exactly like this if you know, you know. Been going on for years eu men sitting in town setting drinking all day, crime has shot up we was named most murderous place to live at one point.

Is it sad that I knew exactly where you were from before I even saw your name?

Luddite26 · 14/06/2025 21:24

Slatterndisgrace · 14/06/2025 20:21

Why??

No idea are they trying to catch people putting their own waste/bags of rubbish in which is fly tipping! Or is it drugs or are people peeing in them I have no idea but they are spreading!

TheignT · 14/06/2025 21:23

Parsley1234 · 14/06/2025 15:14

look it up on benefit rates you’ll be surprised I worked for the DWP and saw it every day

You saw people with 5 kids with autism and five ponies every day? That sounds odd not to mention why would they all tell you about their ponies?

Luddite26 · 14/06/2025 21:20

I witnessed the decline in the seaside resorts in the 80s and the hotels becoming HMOs and temporary accomodation in the 90s stayed in one myself for 10 months. I worked in The Richmond while coaches were still coming and filling it then only a couple of years later a little girl was killed in a fire there when it was a b n b for the homeless.
But seaside towns had a bit of a reprieve with weekend staycations becoming popular visiting Scarborough now it can be packed on a weekend. Totally different to the 80s decline. And attractions like The Open Air Theatre.

taxguru · 14/06/2025 21:06

TizerorFizz · 14/06/2025 20:31

Seaside towns have been devastated by cheap holidays to Spain. Once package holidays arrived the British seaside was doomed. Poor weather and cold seas plus very dated accommodation (with no lovely pool) isn’t what families wanted. People don’t want the British seaside at its worst. It’s hard now in areas that offer lovely holidays due to wages and overheads. Florida is more appealing so seaside towns really struggle.

Made worse by the old boarding houses being converted into HMOs for unemployed, newly released prisoners, and now asylum seekers, all dragged into the already run down seaside resorts making them even worse. Of course, the politicians who over-saw the movement of such people didn't put any plans in place to give them something to do, such as create employment, so societal problems of drugs/alcohol, crime, etc was inevitable.

taxguru · 14/06/2025 21:04

@Bickybics

Nail on the head. Most High Streets started to decline in the 80s with the "identikit" High Streets taken over by chains (with the properties owned by hedge funds and pension schemes), then the huge supermarkets (Tesco Extra etc), out of town retail parks, etc. Amazon is just the final nail in the coffin, not the cause, which goes back 30-40 years. Our town's demise started in the late 80s with a huge Asda which caused a couple of big High St supermarkets to close, closely followed by the town's M&S closing, and that started the downward spiral.

Jamfirstest · 14/06/2025 20:33

@Bickybicsi think you are spot on with this. It’s exactly what happened to Penzance and exactly why totnes thrives.

I assume business rates also have something to do with it and that charities must get some business relief.

Crikeyalmighty · 14/06/2025 20:33

@Slatterndisgrace not all the East Midlands , some bits are fine to be honest, but the bit I came from , big mining town, wasn’t very nice

TizerorFizz · 14/06/2025 20:31

Seaside towns have been devastated by cheap holidays to Spain. Once package holidays arrived the British seaside was doomed. Poor weather and cold seas plus very dated accommodation (with no lovely pool) isn’t what families wanted. People don’t want the British seaside at its worst. It’s hard now in areas that offer lovely holidays due to wages and overheads. Florida is more appealing so seaside towns really struggle.

Slatterndisgrace · 14/06/2025 20:24

Luddite26 · 14/06/2025 20:08

We visited Scarborough during the pandemic and we're shocked at some visions of child poverty. Bare foot kids playing in a car park in what was once a beautiful Victorian Square. There was washing being dried out of third story windows and just an air of shocking neglect. The pandemic lost tourist areas huge amounts of revenue.
But the council have really invested in some projects to restore certain areas which really make you want to go back.

Covid had a pretty devastating impact on so many things/people.

Slatterndisgrace · 14/06/2025 20:23

Crikeyalmighty · 14/06/2025 20:13

@Ontobetterthings I lived in Wolverhampton for a couple of years ( met a guy who lived there) early 90 s and even then thought Dudley was truly awful - in all honesty I thought most of the West Midlands was bloody grim with a few exceptions and that was saying something as I came from the East Midlands

Has the East Midlands got that bad a reputation?! What is it about it?

Slatterndisgrace · 14/06/2025 20:21

Luddite26 · 14/06/2025 20:14

I have noticed my local council are putting a lot of cameras on litter bins!

Why??

Slatterndisgrace · 14/06/2025 20:21

PinkImbrella · 14/06/2025 20:01

Thanks Pinkimbrella, I’ll enjoy reading that later.

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