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Is our town a shithole..

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FroggletTowers · 12/06/2025 13:53

Or is this happening anywhere else?

I have been discussing this with friends, family and colleagues recently so won't name our town for privacy reasons, but it is a regular, large town in England, UK.
Nothing particularly special or awful about it, previously.

Since the pandemic, the entire vibe has changed. Almost unrecognisable.
Yes, we have some heavy shop closures like many towns, but the council kept it looking decent as much as it could. Some nice buildings and nature areas, etc.

What stands out most, apart from the general vandalism and dog shit is the weird accumulation of male groups hanging around boozing in public.

So far they have taken over the local park, river walks and nature reserves. They often cluster beneath bridges or across paths where people like to run, cycle walk dogs or take children, making it less safe and filling these areas with waste. Off road bikes have ruined the nature reserves, so less people visit Sad

Sadly the authorities don't seem to be doing much about it, it is as if these people don't have to abide by laws that the rest of us have to. Some buildings adjacent to these areas have windows put through on a regular basis, even in what you'd call 'nice' areas.
Many of them cluster at river bridges and block the path for others, most are very drunk or out of generally.
It isn't unusual to see a large man passed out across the pathway, blocking anyone getting past. If you had a pram or bike it would be really uncomfortable to have to rouse a large drunk at 2pm in the afternoon. Most are local men, with a growing amount of middle eastern men. The vast majority of them are unstable.

We see less women out cycling, walking or exercising now, and this encompasses both MC and WC areas. These people seem to have just multiplied and spread across the entire borough and have taken over all public space.
We live in a decent area that is now seeming to go downhill.
It isn't unusual to see day drinkers sat alone, surrounded by cans on a quiet residential street. And they won't move to let you past.

It's really depressing.

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TizerorFizz · 15/06/2025 23:09

@suburburban So where you you suggest people live? I agree there’s too much building on farms but where else? If planning authorizes allowed redevelopment of town centres for living and recreation zones it would help. We also need to accept more flats and communal parks if we want to keep farms. Labours 1.4m homes will mostly go on green fields, despite their new grey belt ideas. They got a huge majority so they will develop into the countryside - it’s inevitable.

NattyTurtle59 · 15/06/2025 22:48

bipbopdo · 15/06/2025 12:17

So, instead of cheap labour from abroad, farmers used to underpay children to do the same work?

Oh give over! I spent several years doing the same thing (in NZ). It was good pocket money for kids, and although hard work it was great being out in the fresh air with your friends and learning a work ethic.

Hardly comparable to sending kids up chimneys.

justasking111 · 15/06/2025 21:46

My sons twenty odd years ago along with friends would help out with hay making. Loading the bales onto wagons and delivering them. They'd arrive home at 2am filthy but well paid. I don't know if that would be legal now or if sixth formers would be interested.

OrdinaryMagicOfAcorns · 15/06/2025 21:01

TizerorFizz · 15/06/2025 11:50

@alikelylass The rot set in when the locals no longer wanted to work for the farmers and others had to be recruited. It’s very difficult when it’s a farming area. What did you expect the farmers to do? Give up and just allow the land to be fallow?

Locals can’t work for farmers because it is temporary and seasonal work. People used to be able to live on seasonal work in the 50s /60s /70s when they had council houses and no-questions-asked benefits systems. Even in the 90s you were able to do a temporary job and go back on benefits easily. That’s gone now. All security has gone.

suburburban · 15/06/2025 19:45

Dappy777 · 15/06/2025 19:19

I live in Colchester and, yes, I would describe it as a shithole. I hate the place. I have lived here over 40 years and it is much worse than it was in the 1990s. It seems dirtier and more run down. The beautiful three story Debenhams has been closed, and so have many of the best shops. But the worst thing is the overcrowding. Back in the ‘90s it was a relatively quiet, almost sleepy market town. Today, it is a small town with the population of a city crammed into it. You can’t breathe.

I’m supposed to be starting a course in the centre of the town next week, but I’m going to cancel. I just can’t face the drive. I can’t face the traffic, and I can’t face the way the town makes me feel. I come home stressed, irritable and depressed. In fact, I very rarely go into town anymore, and I’m not the only one. Several of my neighbours now drive 20 miles out of their way to do their shopping. Anything to avoid the town itself. How sad is that?! Of course, it isn’t just the town that is overcrowded. I live in a village on the outskirts, but it is slowly being swallowed up. My local woods have been hacked down to make way for two giant housing estates. Then they built a massive estate at the other end of the village. Now the fields in the centre of the village are going to be built on as well. It just never ends. If I was young, I would 100% leave this country. And I would advise any young person to get out as soon as possible - go somewhere where you can move and breathe, where you have space and light and can be alone with nature.

That’s a real shame

I remember going to Colchester circa 2016 and it was lovely.

thye keep banging on about the environment yet the constant building on beautiful countryside is criminal

WestwardHo1 · 15/06/2025 19:34

Jamfirstest · 14/06/2025 20:33

@Bickybicsi think you are spot on with this. It’s exactly what happened to Penzance and exactly why totnes thrives.

I assume business rates also have something to do with it and that charities must get some business relief.

There's a lot going on in Penzance. Give it a couple of years - if we don't enter World War III - I think the amount of investment going on will have made a big difference. People LOVE to slag the place off, including depressingly loads of the people who live there, who appear to want "The Council" to hand them life and and jobs and riches on a plate. It is far, far nicer than loads of the shitholes mentioned on this thread.

Dappy777 · 15/06/2025 19:19

I live in Colchester and, yes, I would describe it as a shithole. I hate the place. I have lived here over 40 years and it is much worse than it was in the 1990s. It seems dirtier and more run down. The beautiful three story Debenhams has been closed, and so have many of the best shops. But the worst thing is the overcrowding. Back in the ‘90s it was a relatively quiet, almost sleepy market town. Today, it is a small town with the population of a city crammed into it. You can’t breathe.

I’m supposed to be starting a course in the centre of the town next week, but I’m going to cancel. I just can’t face the drive. I can’t face the traffic, and I can’t face the way the town makes me feel. I come home stressed, irritable and depressed. In fact, I very rarely go into town anymore, and I’m not the only one. Several of my neighbours now drive 20 miles out of their way to do their shopping. Anything to avoid the town itself. How sad is that?! Of course, it isn’t just the town that is overcrowded. I live in a village on the outskirts, but it is slowly being swallowed up. My local woods have been hacked down to make way for two giant housing estates. Then they built a massive estate at the other end of the village. Now the fields in the centre of the village are going to be built on as well. It just never ends. If I was young, I would 100% leave this country. And I would advise any young person to get out as soon as possible - go somewhere where you can move and breathe, where you have space and light and can be alone with nature.

Quirkswork · 15/06/2025 16:30

RosesAndHellebores · 15/06/2025 12:38

Where in Kent was this? My family farmed in Kent the seasonal picking work was done by local people, often farm labourers wives and family (older teenagers), students and travellers. Children usually joined in later, at the gleaning stage. I have no recollection whatsoever of children of 10 years old being used as pickers - they were at school in accordance with statutory obligations. 1960s/70s. The farm went in the early 80s to pay death duties at a stinging rate.

Meopham area in the early/mid 80s. Amd obviously in the school hols and weekends 😆🤣

Quirkswork · 15/06/2025 16:28

bipbopdo · 15/06/2025 12:20

Did you get the same wages as adult pickers?

No idea! We just wanted the cash. Probably the same way as the people we now import do. It's just a shame kids now don't have that opportunity to make money for themselves in their free time (remember, it wasn't a "job" as we were still at school so we could work as much as we felt like).

Crikeyalmighty · 15/06/2025 15:31

@bipbopdo I don’t think you can say that around £12 an hour though isn’t a fair wage - my son is in a skilled job in IT and it still works out at £16 to £18 an hour as do many professional jobs - the problem in the UK isn’t so much wages, it’s lack of affordable housing in many areas, council tax, affordable childcare with young kids, utilities- when we lived in Denmark their minimum wasn’t really much higher, but tax is much higher so no council tax, cheaper utilities, very cheap ( and good ) childcare , lots of good quality social housing. People brought home about the same as UK across all income brackets- but so much more had already been covered off or was reasonable . ( childcare bills etc)

KnutsfordCityLimits · 15/06/2025 14:47

If jobs don’t support family and community life though @Pistachioitaliano then you get the breakdown in cohesion that people are describing.

Pistachioitaliano · 15/06/2025 13:26

KnutsfordCityLimits · 15/06/2025 11:47

The Brits won’t do the jobs narrative I think can be a bit misleading, implying that British people are lazy, but often because you’ve got single men coming to do some of these jobs, and probably to a lesser extent women, they are able to work hours and live in conditions that aren’t compatible with family life. It feels like the unions fought for years for decent hours, flexible working, time off and all sorts of things and it’s fair enough for workers to say no I don’t want to live in a caravan or an HMO with lots of other men, no I can’t get childcare out of hours, no I’m not going waive my right to decent working hours, no, I can’t be constantly available just in case I get called in et cetera. The whole system for a lot of these jobs is broken, with people having to claim top up benefits even while working full-time or more than full-time, while employers benefit (although clearly a lot of employers are struggling as well).

In relation to councils housing people, in many towns and rural areas, that sits with district councils and the other support services with county councils. There’s local government reorganisation happening at the moment to bring all the services into unitaries, but district councils have obligations around housing but cannot make completely separate authorities provide other services, even if there was the funding to provide them.

Corporations need to pay a decent wage. Eliminate housing benefit is the first step. People would need to work and would take on the jobs.

alikelylass · 15/06/2025 13:02

TizerorFizz · 15/06/2025 11:50

@alikelylass The rot set in when the locals no longer wanted to work for the farmers and others had to be recruited. It’s very difficult when it’s a farming area. What did you expect the farmers to do? Give up and just allow the land to be fallow?

That's not completely correct.

Years ago some of the work was done by people with SEN. Their houseparents would transport them to the area (usually in a minibus) to do a shift with minimal supervision. They were provided with a packed lunch, suitable clothing and had support if needed.
It gave them the opportunity to get out in the fresh air, get some exercise and earn some money for themselves. They could be proud to say "I go to work" - so it was win/win all round.
Unfortunately the costs of employing these people were undercut by the gangmasters who provided the farmers with cheaper labour.

At one time (70s) the work was done by students, but that seems to be "not cool" any more. Now students would rather stay in their rooms, rack up huge student debts, and play x-box rather that do any manual work.

TizerorFizz · 15/06/2025 12:58

It’s still a fact that local workers worked on the farms. I think potatoes are dug by machines now. We all want cheap food - thst means keeping costs down. If we don’t want British food, then import it. You cannot have it both ways. Neither can Boston. You reap what you sow.

RosesAndHellebores · 15/06/2025 12:38

Quirkswork · 15/06/2025 11:59

When I was a child (age 10 or 11 onwards. Sometimes younger) loads of us would pick fruit on the farms in Kent for extra pocket money. Such a useful thing for a child to be able to do if they want. It's a shame that isn't allowed any more.

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Where in Kent was this? My family farmed in Kent the seasonal picking work was done by local people, often farm labourers wives and family (older teenagers), students and travellers. Children usually joined in later, at the gleaning stage. I have no recollection whatsoever of children of 10 years old being used as pickers - they were at school in accordance with statutory obligations. 1960s/70s. The farm went in the early 80s to pay death duties at a stinging rate.

Slatterndisgrace · 15/06/2025 12:31

KnutsfordCityLimits · 15/06/2025 12:30

We used to get £1 an hour for potato picking, this was late 70s / early 80s though, when I started work in a factory few years later, it was still only £2 an hour. I still remember the feeling of putting your finger into a mouldy potato, yuck!

😁 Yeah, there was that!

KnutsfordCityLimits · 15/06/2025 12:30

We used to get £1 an hour for potato picking, this was late 70s / early 80s though, when I started work in a factory few years later, it was still only £2 an hour. I still remember the feeling of putting your finger into a mouldy potato, yuck!

Slatterndisgrace · 15/06/2025 12:27

bipbopdo · 15/06/2025 12:23

Yes, and I didn’t get a fair wage for it. I was also a Saturday girl when I was 15 and made significantly less per hour than my colleagues, but did the same job. Wage differentials based on age are deeply unfair and exploitative.

Reliance on cheap labour is what got us into this mess in the first place. Employers paying fair wages would go a long way toward boosting local economies.

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But you did the job anyway, as did I at Chelsea girl on Saturdays at the same age.

Slatterndisgrace · 15/06/2025 12:24

bipbopdo · 15/06/2025 12:23

Yes, and I didn’t get a fair wage for it. I was also a Saturday girl when I was 15 and made significantly less per hour than my colleagues, but did the same job. Wage differentials based on age are deeply unfair and exploitative.

Reliance on cheap labour is what got us into this mess in the first place. Employers paying fair wages would go a long way toward boosting local economies.

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The farmer was lenient with his whip though, so…

bipbopdo · 15/06/2025 12:23

Slatterndisgrace · 15/06/2025 12:21

Did you do a paper round as a child?

Yes, and I didn’t get a fair wage for it. I was also a Saturday girl when I was 15 and made significantly less per hour than my colleagues, but did the same job. Wage differentials based on age are deeply unfair and exploitative.

Reliance on cheap labour is what got us into this mess in the first place. Employers paying fair wages would go a long way toward boosting local economies.

Slatterndisgrace · 15/06/2025 12:21

bipbopdo · 15/06/2025 12:20

Did you get the same wages as adult pickers?

Did you do a paper round as a child?

Slatterndisgrace · 15/06/2025 12:21

bipbopdo · 15/06/2025 12:20

Did you get the same wages as adult pickers?

Yes, we all attended the union meetings too,

bipbopdo · 15/06/2025 12:20

Did you get the same wages as adult pickers?

Slatterndisgrace · 15/06/2025 12:18

bipbopdo · 15/06/2025 12:17

So, instead of cheap labour from abroad, farmers used to underpay children to do the same work?

We weren’t underpaid. We enjoyed it and there was a sense of community. Gave us a good work ethic too.

bipbopdo · 15/06/2025 12:17

So, instead of cheap labour from abroad, farmers used to underpay children to do the same work?