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Is our town a shithole..

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FroggletTowers · 12/06/2025 13:53

Or is this happening anywhere else?

I have been discussing this with friends, family and colleagues recently so won't name our town for privacy reasons, but it is a regular, large town in England, UK.
Nothing particularly special or awful about it, previously.

Since the pandemic, the entire vibe has changed. Almost unrecognisable.
Yes, we have some heavy shop closures like many towns, but the council kept it looking decent as much as it could. Some nice buildings and nature areas, etc.

What stands out most, apart from the general vandalism and dog shit is the weird accumulation of male groups hanging around boozing in public.

So far they have taken over the local park, river walks and nature reserves. They often cluster beneath bridges or across paths where people like to run, cycle walk dogs or take children, making it less safe and filling these areas with waste. Off road bikes have ruined the nature reserves, so less people visit Sad

Sadly the authorities don't seem to be doing much about it, it is as if these people don't have to abide by laws that the rest of us have to. Some buildings adjacent to these areas have windows put through on a regular basis, even in what you'd call 'nice' areas.
Many of them cluster at river bridges and block the path for others, most are very drunk or out of generally.
It isn't unusual to see a large man passed out across the pathway, blocking anyone getting past. If you had a pram or bike it would be really uncomfortable to have to rouse a large drunk at 2pm in the afternoon. Most are local men, with a growing amount of middle eastern men. The vast majority of them are unstable.

We see less women out cycling, walking or exercising now, and this encompasses both MC and WC areas. These people seem to have just multiplied and spread across the entire borough and have taken over all public space.
We live in a decent area that is now seeming to go downhill.
It isn't unusual to see day drinkers sat alone, surrounded by cans on a quiet residential street. And they won't move to let you past.

It's really depressing.

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2021x · 12/06/2025 20:36

I live in a city in NZ about the size of a town in the UK, and its worse here too. There was a couple of homeless people before the pandemic and were generally kept to themselves. Now the homeless people are clearly mentally unwell and have increased considerably.

The town centre has lost a lot of major retailers, and the shops can't be leased. The govt, had to switch to cost saving after all the borrowing in the Pandemic so government job losses were huge and its unable to support the local economy. Huge amounts of people are moving to Australia its all a bit depressing.

ArtfulPinkBird · 12/06/2025 20:36

We live near a large northern city and I wouldn't say the city centre has changed drastically recently, although it's always been a mixed bag- still lots of homeless people and more and more closed shops but like others have said I think sadly that's a broader theme. I have also noticed more men drinking cans in the streets during the day though now you mention this. In the city centre rather than elsewhere I'd say.

The most concerning issue we seem to have at the moment is antisocial driving/use of the roads. The city we're near has a problem specifically with gangs of young males in balaclavas on motorised scooters absolutely terrorising the streets/committing crime. It's grim and definitely a newer development, even in the suburbs where we are. Police don't seem to be able to do anything about this.

We're on a new build estate and a few of the lads on scooters unfortunately live on the next street down from us in housing bought by the local authority. And before people jump on me, no it's not a dig at those living in social housing- just a fact that these people are in the social housing on our new build estate, and they cause nothing but trouble. I point this out to highlight the fact that the demographic in our area is very mixed due to it being a new estate- most are homeowners and in professional occupations and have young families and the contrast is very stark. Most of the other people in the local authority owned homes are perfectly pleasant folk who do not wreak havoc on the roads in balaclavas.

TheSilentSister · 12/06/2025 20:31

I lived very close to the center of a large town, near a college, university and park and it became awful, significantly during Covid. Parks and college areas overrun early evening by large groups and yes it was non UK nationals, can't lie. My DS got threatened with a knife and it scared the living daylights out of him and his friends. Police took it seriously but in the end, nothing done. Drugs were exchanged openly in the pathway to the junior school - there was no CCTV. The council wouldn't fund one. Police did patrols but only after an incident was reported.
I moved further out of town and the area couldn't be more different. No gangs/groups, no drunks, safely walk along the river without incident. Totally different vibe. Would never live close to a town center again, the perks of walking everywhere - shops, cinema, leisure facilities, restaurants etc is not worth it against feeling safe.

PiggyPigalle · 12/06/2025 20:31

Slatterndisgrace · 12/06/2025 18:38

I think there’s always money pumped into London due to the need for tourism and obviously tourism helps with that bill.

Khan's having a sulk now that money's being earmarked for the red wall.
Says London is being neglected.

alikelylass · 12/06/2025 20:28

@latetothefisting ???
where do you think rivers run to?
It's not like a town can only have a seaside OR a river.

😆😆

Profpudding · 12/06/2025 20:22

alikelylass · 12/06/2025 19:41

I though those were 'posh' places ? What went wrong ?!

Homeless people dont care if house prices are high or low

WitchesofPainswick · 12/06/2025 20:20

couchparsnip · 12/06/2025 17:56

I am literally writing a dissertation about this as we speak.
(Well I should be doing that anyway and not being on Mumsnet)
I could go on for ages about this. There are so many towns like this now. Low footfall, low value shops, vacancies. I just looked at a few.

I am finding the causes of decline to be varied, a lack of resilience and not adapting to change is the the main thing. Obviously COVID, online shopping, out of town shopping centres and a lack of investment have an effect, but in some places there is 'negative branding'. People just love to hate their town. That's a big factor.

We have to accept now that town centres will have to change to survive, retail can't be the big draw any more. The towns that do well are the ones with a unique selling point, where those in charge care about the look and feel of a place ....

I've not read the comments before mine. Sorry if I have repeated things. I got excited you were talking about my topic!

Fascinating! I think what has also made things worse in my local area is poor town planning. We have a beautiful river in the town but literally no way of walking by it, or having lunch with a view of it. Everything is built up from the town, where it's ugly - because the river used to flood back in the 1940s before flood defences were put in. But the town planning never moved on!

Towns like Bristol / Birmingham have built up around their waterways and while they are not perfect, they have a real draw for people.

WitchesofPainswick · 12/06/2025 20:17

venus7 · 12/06/2025 16:31

Amazon took over a customer need; before Amazon there were local shops...they were undercut by Amazon and driven out of business. Easy to undercut if you treat your staff badly.

I think that's a simplification. And pretending that they treat all their staff badly is odd. I know people who work for Amazon and love it. I've even tried to apply for jobs there myself.

Yes they have a lot of minimum wage jobs. But that's set by the Government and is why they make profits. Of course they will always use minimum wage jobs for unskilled work - just like everyone else.

Are they more evil than, say, local care providers who are providing nursing/personal care for minimum wage? Why is one evil and one saintly?

Shuttupmeg · 12/06/2025 20:14

ajandjjmum · 12/06/2025 19:18

When I was a kid, Dudley was a lovely place to go. Merry Hell killed it!

Yeah, my in laws are from here. Dh moved to London 20 years ago and met me. We had to move back here 5 years ago as we were finally priced of renting in London or anywhere close and had no hope of buying anywhere but here.

It’s very different to how dh remembers it. It’s all barber shops, shit charity shops and vape shops. Poundland is still hanging on for dear life, as well as a shitty branch of shoezone.

Dudley high street really isn’t a pleasant place to go, it’s a shame as I’m less than a ten min walk away.

latetothefisting · 12/06/2025 20:14

OhPatti · 12/06/2025 14:04

Well, OP mentions river walks so this isn’t a seaside town she’s talking about…

???
where do you think rivers run to?
It's not like a town can only have a seaside OR a river.

OP I wonder if a lot of it is because so many pubs have closed down over the last few years, plus the increased cost of a pint in those that remain. There've always been those without much going for them, for lack of a better word, but previously they could sit in the pub and nurse a pint for a few hours. Now if a pint is over a fiver, even if you only have 1 a day, that's £35 a week, which if you're only getting £92 JSA is a lot. Drugs could work out cheaper and give a much stronger high/better escape.

Plus the cost of housing - again previously such people might not have been living the life of luxury but could at least be in a flat of their own. Now they might only be able to afford a tiny room in a shared house with loud housemates, so getting out and wandering the streets is preferable.

Slatterndisgrace · 12/06/2025 19:53

alikelylass · 12/06/2025 19:52

And I lied about the bridge...

👍🏻 😊

alikelylass · 12/06/2025 19:52

Slatterndisgrace · 12/06/2025 19:47

It was most certainly said with sarcasm.

And I lied about the bridge...

justasking111 · 12/06/2025 19:51

EasternStandard · 12/06/2025 19:15

I don’t know how tent pitching won’t just make this all
worse.

I'm dreading tent pitching. We're a Welsh tourist area but also a lot of farming. The thought of being overrun with wild camping and the mess they make, never mind scaring the animals, leaving rubbish they might ingest. Before the police would ask them to pack up and go 🙈

Slatterndisgrace · 12/06/2025 19:47

alikelylass · 12/06/2025 19:45

And I have a bridge I can sell you.....

It was most certainly said with sarcasm.

LooTenant · 12/06/2025 19:46

Shithole town here too. Barber shops on nearly every street (some with 3/4), drug addicts, and yes, a massive influx of immigrants the town isn’t big enough to house. Many spend their day hanging around the town centre with not much to do.
Plenty of feral homegrown youths too, it’s idyllic here.

alikelylass · 12/06/2025 19:45

Slatterndisgrace · 12/06/2025 19:44

Diversity is our strength.

And I have a bridge I can sell you.....

alikelylass · 12/06/2025 19:44

ForFairSwan · 12/06/2025 19:42

The whole country has been carpet bombed with diversity

That's a good way to put it. 🙂

Slatterndisgrace · 12/06/2025 19:44

ForFairSwan · 12/06/2025 19:42

The whole country has been carpet bombed with diversity

Diversity is our strength.

ForFairSwan · 12/06/2025 19:42

alikelylass · 12/06/2025 19:41

I though those were 'posh' places ? What went wrong ?!

The whole country has been carpet bombed with diversity

alikelylass · 12/06/2025 19:41

Profpudding · 12/06/2025 19:22

This describes a lot of places I’ve visited recently, including Leamington Spa and Stratford upon Avon, Bath too,

I though those were 'posh' places ? What went wrong ?!

cardibach · 12/06/2025 19:39

RedhairDL · 12/06/2025 18:07

It doesn’t. It has a label saying it’s going to be the biggest and the bestest light ever, and you won’t have to worry about light again, plus, it’s going to be cheap light.

It may or may not be useless in the end, who knows? But it can’t be any worse than the light in the fitting that doesn’t turn on and is still costing you a fortune.

The problem is that you don’t like the manufacturer because they wanted to leave the EU.

Edited

The EU has great safety standards.
Farage May be saying it’s going to be fab but we all know he’s a liar, right?

AgnesX · 12/06/2025 19:33

A lot of these individuals will be unemployed, at the lower end of the educational spectrum and not have much of a support network.

Services funded by councils and charities are having their budgets slashed so there's nowhere for them to go or things for them to do. And they probably don't know how to get motivated because they don't come from those kind of backgrounds.

We need factories or some kind of new industry to employ people so they can grow some kind of self worth.

alikelylass · 12/06/2025 19:29

bostongirl222 · 12/06/2025 14:22

Boston ?

Boston is full of Polish people who are pretty well-behaved.

BangersAndGnash · 12/06/2025 19:28

Round me the groups of men clustering in alleyways and parks etc are generally E European tradespeople who work hard and live cheaply in (often unlicensed and unregulated) HMOs. They have no social spaces in their homes as every room is turned into a two- bed bedroom or even dormitory style.

They are not bad men, but it creates a certain vibe.

And it is true that asylum seekers get housed concentrated in specific areas where the gvt can commission big underused cheap hotels.

If anyone watched the horrific BBC documentary about Assad’s jails and treatment of dissenters the other night you might understand why so many Syrian refugees, asylum seekers and migrants are prepared to come and live in converted office blocks 4 to a room, with no immediate prospects than stay in Syria.

For example.

But, the neglect of our high streets, the move to Internet shopping, hardly helps.

Helpwithdivorce · 12/06/2025 19:28

We also have a massive immigrant hotel in the town. So if it was them. I’d see them