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Those of you who use washing powder for your washing. Do you use softener?

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depressed394 · 12/06/2025 13:48

I want to use washing powder only due to cost of softener but am worried it will ruin my clothes. What do you suggest?

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BalladOfBarryAndFreda · 13/06/2025 08:30

I don't use it in every load because it affects the absorbency of towels and dishcloths etc. I don't use it in sportswear washes either as it wrecks the wicking ability. I do use it in normal loads but I use half the suggested dose.

Screamingabdabz · 13/06/2025 08:27

Powder is enough. Nobody needs to use fabric conditioner. It’s a completely unnecessary non product that wastes resources.

Plus people who use it stink. It makes my stomach turn when I buy stuff off vinted and they’ve used it. It doesn’t matter how much Vogue Williams strokes her soft white blouse it smells artificial and not clean.

SALaw · 13/06/2025 08:23

No but I live in Scotland with our soft, soft water

Shodan · 13/06/2025 08:23

Knnniggets · 12/06/2025 19:29

I quite like the scratchiness of a towel that hasn't had fabric softener on it. This probably makes me some sort of a weirdo.

I do too 😁It's like exfoliating.

DS1 hates it but he can put as much softener as he likes on his towels when he lives in his own house. Until then, it's scratchy towels all the way.

Imbusytodaysorry · 13/06/2025 08:16

@depressed394 a friend years back told me I used to much softener. (She said it made the clothes lank ) I cut back as I realised she was right and a big bottle of fairy softener lasts me forever now.

HighlandCowbag · 13/06/2025 08:13

I use Persil washing powder and whatever fabric conditioner is on offer. I've tried pods and liquids but they just don't get things clean enough and cost a lot more. And also not as easy to adjust the dose. If Im just washing a small load, like white school shirts I only use half a scoop for instance.

Clothes always smell nice. I did stop for a while, as DH has psoriasis and wondered if it would help. It didn't, and loads of socks developed holes.

Our stuff gets quite dirty as well. DH is a builder, we have ponies etc. Use the longer settings and a tumble dryer in winter. Apart from the odd shrinking from the tumble dryer, clothes last and last. Currently sat in a pair of riding tights that are about 4 years old and worn at least once a week and they don't look worn or faded.

Londonrach1 · 13/06/2025 08:10

After a childhood of hard towels I use softer. Not every wash but certainly for towels. I've towels that are soft that was my dream as a child.

LongRangeDessertGroup · 13/06/2025 08:06

We’re in a hard water area but because I’ve never used softener my clothes just feel like clothes to me, I can’t say I’ve ever noticed they’re crunchy or scratchy. If I want to smell nice I use perfume, if the softener has a strong fragrance doesn’t it clash?

MoistVonL · 13/06/2025 04:58

I never use it because it’s bad for the machine.

BatshitCrazyWoman · 13/06/2025 04:49

EscargotChic · 12/06/2025 19:17

Washing powder and soda crystals because we live in a hard water area so they mean I can use less washing powder and the washing machine is supposed to gunk up less.

I meant to say, I use a spoonful of soda crystals with the washing powder, too. I'm also in a hard water area, and my clothes definitely aren't 'crunchy' 🙂

LadyWiddiothethird · 13/06/2025 00:12

Haven’t used fabric softener for years,waste of money.

justasking111 · 13/06/2025 00:11

Discovered Formil washing powder well DH did. It's non bio, unscented. No itching. Available at Lidl.

Deadringer · 13/06/2025 00:01

I just use powder, I think softener is unnecessary and kind of stinky. We don't have hard water though so perhaps that makes a difference. I don't like pods either, just washing powder.

justasking111 · 12/06/2025 22:34

Superscientist · 12/06/2025 13:57

I've not used anything other than washing powder for 15 years. Don't notice the difference other than I don't spend my days itching like I did when using softener. I absolutely hate it when I can smell fabric softener or fragrance washing detergents on other people. It often makes my nose tingle and my face itch.

This is me and my youngest son I stopped using it, only use non bio, no more itching.

TheChosenTwo · 12/06/2025 22:34

Oh and most bits do get tumbled so they get soft in there anyway.

TheChosenTwo · 12/06/2025 22:33

I switched to powder so I didn’t need to keep buying those stupid awkward plastic boxes of the pods. Stopped using softener when I realised it was leaving a film on my clothes and causing those weird grease spots on certain things. We also wash things like sports wear in almost every wash and you shouldn’t use it on those anyway. And I’ll bung a towel in to make up a load sometimes and you shouldn’t use it on those either.
I do miss the smell of softener though, I actually like a bit of a fragrance on my clothes.

DiscoBeat · 12/06/2025 22:32

Knnniggets · 12/06/2025 19:29

I quite like the scratchiness of a towel that hasn't had fabric softener on it. This probably makes me some sort of a weirdo.

Me too! But the rest of the family grumble so I still don't use FC but they are the only thing that always go in the tumble drier, even on sunny days.

HollyBerryz · 12/06/2025 22:29

I use powder with a bit of washing soda and white vinegar in the softener drawer, my washing smells of the wash powder.

GingerLiberalFeminist · 12/06/2025 22:09

We use washing powder, it's more cost effective. I use a "yellow" softener, usually Tesco own as I like the smell. The key to making these things last is use measuring cups. We had a plastic set from pound shop, one is in the powder box.

Never used without so can't tell you sorry

Katemax82 · 12/06/2025 22:02

sharpenedroof · 12/06/2025 14:06

I've only ever used washing powder and until I read this thread I genuinely didn't realise anyone used anything other, or in addition to, washing powder.

Why would there be such a huge range of fabric conditioners available if no one used them?

stayathomer · 12/06/2025 21:27

Have always felt softener was a luxury! Only ever used powder!

bravefox · 12/06/2025 21:24

JuneShellChangeHerTune · 12/06/2025 14:22

I use washing powder because I read on MN that it’s more effective than capsules or liquid.

I don’t use conditioner unless I’m washing hand knits and I don’t think my washing is not soft. I don’t like my clothes, and therefore me, smelling of conditioner. We live in a hard water area but have a water softener.

Yes! The 'talk to me about laundry like I'm an idiot' thread? I learnt a lot!!

MainSailWaves · 12/06/2025 21:20

Never used softener

GentleIron · 12/06/2025 20:53

Nope. I just use a washing powder, sometimes with a dash of laundry disinfectant if washing something a bit ripe, and definitely no fabric softener. I don't like the smell or the texture of fabrics when softener has been used; if I get a parcel containing a garment from eBay, it goes straight in the wash to get rid of as much of the smell as possible. My DC love the scentedness and I feel a little bad for them like I'm depriving them of a nice thing.

Needspaceforlego · 12/06/2025 20:48

I use powder, liquid or pods. I've taken to using Persil colour and what i really want is a big box of Persil Colour powder (which i might order from Amazon)

I stopped using fabric softener years ago when I didn't notice much difference.

I used to always use Persil, then decided to try Daz because it was on offer. It brought me out in hives that took multiple Doctors appointments, antihistamines and a doze of steroids to get rid off.
Hence scared to try anything else again