To be frustrated by the way some men throw around “no homo” and similar phrases?

I've only ever heard "no homo" used to satirise homophobic attitudes.

It's usually said like 'love you bro no homo' so it's when they say affectionate things to clear up that they're not gay.

😆😆😂😆All of the banned laughter emojis

Yeah me neither.. it seems pretty dated

No homo is from the lonely island song, but thats taking the piss out of toxic masculinity, so unlikely what they’re referring to.

Gay was a very common insult at our sons last primary school.

Really surprised that so few people have heard the phrase no homo, especially in person. I have noticed it less lately but definitely still hear it about here and there

My son says it to his mates; He’ll say love ya bro no homo in that context but to heterosexual and homosexual friends. None of them take any offence to it 🤷🏻‍♀️

How have I lived for 56 years and never heard the phrase 'No homo'? 😳

I've never even read it on the internet before this thread.

I'm in the US, and I've heard both, but not since I was in high school. In the 90s. I'd be very surprised to hear them today.

Sorry just saw this- is it really such a big deal to you that on gaming platforms etc guys might say no homo when bantering with each other?

What are these online spaces?

I've never heard this phrase either in-person or online. Having said that, I tend to avoid Reddit incel groups so maybe's that's the answer.

My 2 sons have never heard this. I heard them call something gay (as in lame) when they were young teens (like 13) but there’s other slang terms that they use now. That sort of usage is very Jeremy Clarkson which put them off at the time.

@HunnyPot

Sigh….there is so much research on this and even anecdotally to claim men are less homophobic than women is laughable.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5065072/

Research consistently shows men to be more homophobic than woman (e.g., Raja & Stokes; Gough, 2002; Herek, 2002).

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2828630/#:~:text=Specifically%2C%20boys%20will%20report%20more,are%20more%20homophobic%20than%20females.

Specifically, boys will report more negative attitudes toward gay males than girls do, and boys will report more negative attitudes toward lesbians than girls do. This is in accord with many prior studies showing that males are more homophobic than females

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Societalattitudestowardhomosexuality

And while gender differences are not prevalent, in those countries where they are, women are consistently more accepting of homosexuality than men."

https://www.pewresearch.org/global/2020/06/25/global-divide-on-homosexuality-persists/#:~:text=In%20most%20of%20the%20countries%20surveyed%2C%20there,saying%20homosexuality%20should%20be%20accepted%20by%20society.

In the Pew global study there is no country where men are more accepting than women.

The people you're around are living well back in the past century.

Wake up. We're a quarter of the way into the 21st Century and that shit is unacceptable.

I've never heard the phrase but gay baiting stopped being normalized many years ago. Find new people. Tell the ones who are using that slur to shut the fuck up or report them if this is happening in your workplace.

"no homo" was definitely a thing that people said out loud when I was younger. It was used by boys to clarify they weren't gay before complimenting another boy, e.g. "no homo, your biceps are massive".

I haven't heard it for about 15 years and I am shocked it's still in use. It was stupid then and it's stupid now.

Another person who's never heard the phrase! It must be who you spend time with or what you look at online.

Yeah, you're not wrong. I think I might have been giving the people who use it too much credit?!

I’m baffled by how many people have never heard “no homo”. It’s usually used in this kind of context:

”hey man, I really love you, thanks for being there for me, no homo”

Like as a add on to mean “as a friend, I’m not gay”

I have never heard "no homo".

I did/do hear lots of things being labeled as gay/ghey from teenagers both male and female.

Neither of those.

I think both gay and straight men can lift heavy things. It's just literally a saying I heard in the 80s and 90s and just pops out my mouth when I see a man doing something that requires strength.

What, you think only straight men can lift heavy things? Or you don't think that, but you nonetheless say something that suggests you do think that?

What’s the context of the conversation? I don’t understand why anyone would say this?😳

Sounds like your friends are the problem none of my friends say that?

I still use a phrase that's probably frowned upon when I see a man doing something that needs physical strength (say, lifting a heavy box). But I am definitely not homophobic.

This phrase was around when my DC were at secondary school 10+ years ago for the eldest. I've never adults say it though. We're in SE London