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If you have young adults living at home, what does their rent cover?

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Brunocatmon · 12/06/2025 11:36

My ds is 21, almost 22. He's worked in hospitality his whole working life ( he started work 2 days after he turned 16 ).

Recently he changed jobs to a more secure job with decent contracted hours with more regular pay than before.

Ds's gf ( same age, 21) also lives with me.

Then I have dd who is 14.

The 2 young adults pay rent. £200 a month. This is all in.

In a couple of weeks my eldest dd (30) , her fiance, and 2 dc are moving in from overseas until they find themselves a house to buy. Realistically this could be a good few months.

Dd ( 18) is also moving back in from overseas.( she lives with them at)

I was talking to eldest dd and she said so if we give you X rent then we'll get groceries but if people want expensive extras they get it themselves is that OK?

I said their rent is inclusive of groceries unless expensive treats etc.

It just got me wondering. If your adult dc pay rent what does it include?

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GnomeDePlume · 12/06/2025 11:53

DS (26) still lives with us. He pays £175/month. This covers all normal family food. If he wants something special/different then he provides this himself.

MangoBlink · 12/06/2025 11:52

My ds is 18 and pays £200 a month, covers everything but we are actually saving it for him - we don't tell him that though lol

Holluschickie · 12/06/2025 11:52

I think it's ok for you to say the rent does not include expensive treats or toiletries etc. Just basics.

Twoshoesnewshoes · 12/06/2025 11:50

My DD lives here and doesn’t pay rent.
she has been saving for a deposit for a flat and will be moving out soon.

my DS will move back after uni, we won’t charge him rent, but would expect him to work and save and have a plan to buy his own place.

Brunocatmon · 12/06/2025 11:48

onlymethen · 12/06/2025 11:45

My son is 22 in between jobs at the moment but we still take rent £300 a month off him that includes everything. I bank his rent for his future but he doesn’t know that.

Where does he get money from for rent if he isn't working atm?

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Brunocatmon · 12/06/2025 11:48

Holluschickie · 12/06/2025 11:47

I have my 2 adult DC living with me on and off. They don't pay rent.

I don't and will never allow any partners.

£200 a month for a couple seems pretty low.

Its £200 each person.

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Brunocatmon · 12/06/2025 11:47

yeesh · 12/06/2025 11:41

How big is your house 😂 mine is 22, he doesn’t pay rent.

I have 5 large double beds, the children are small and sleep in with dd and her fiance. It's temporary so it'll be fine. All of the adults work different hours so we won't always all be around at the same time ( not like Christmas day when I had all 6dc, partners and dgc 😁)

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Holluschickie · 12/06/2025 11:47

I have my 2 adult DC living with me on and off. They don't pay rent.

I don't and will never allow any partners.

£200 a month for a couple seems pretty low.

onlymethen · 12/06/2025 11:45

My son is 22 in between jobs at the moment but we still take rent £300 a month off him that includes everything. I bank his rent for his future but he doesn’t know that.

yeesh · 12/06/2025 11:41

How big is your house 😂 mine is 22, he doesn’t pay rent.

Brunocatmon · 12/06/2025 11:41

Holluschickie · 12/06/2025 11:39

Good god. Do you really need to take in all their partners? So there are going to be 6 adults 1 teen and 2 children living with you?

Yes.

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Holluschickie · 12/06/2025 11:39

Good god. Do you really need to take in all their partners? So there are going to be 6 adults 1 teen and 2 children living with you?

Brunocatmon · 12/06/2025 11:37

I hope that makes sense and I didn't mean to post in aibu 🙄

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