If you have young adults living at home, what does their rent cover?

Fucking hell 😆

@Cherrytree86

In my view, charging DC to stay in their own home is only acceptable in two specific circumstances:

1. A parent is genuinely desperate for the money- I.e. a single parent struggling to pay rent and bills.

2. The DC is earning an exceptionally high income. I would class this as £125k+, like an investment banker or corporate lawyer in London might be paid.

It really makes you wonder about her offspring, about what kind of people they were not to contribute.

Despite having mild learning difficulties, she is actually quite manipulative. I remember some years ago, we were both at a local coffee morning. She said she only had 50p, so could only afford a can of cola. My DP then proceeded to buy her food and something else related to the coffee morning. She mumbled something about paying him back, but she never did.

Her elderly DM would always complain to me that every so often she would rock up there and say she hadn't got money for the electric, so her DM would give her money, although she didn't really want to. I said to DM that it was up to her whether she gave her money or not. She wasn't obliged too. The next time it happened, her DM didn't offer any money. The woman still managed to get by and her DM wasn't left feeling resentful.

That’s really sad. Though she does sound a proper martyr

This reminds me of a woman I know (I haven't seen her for quite a few years now). She and her husband had six adult children, five of which lived at home. She constantly pleaded poverty so people often felt sorry for her and treated her to things, but she and her husband refused to take any money off the children for their keep, even though they were all working. At least two of them had moved out at some point and then returned home again, and one of them had a couple of DC by an ex-partner. With the exception of one, they were all in their twenties and thirties. The woman herself didn't work as apparently her DH didn't want her to. She gave up work as soon as she had had her first child and never worked outside the home again.

I remember her sister telling me about how she had bought her something from a boot sale they visited because, "she never had any money, bless her". I swiftly pointed our that she would have money if she took housekeeping from her children. Her poverty was entirely of her own making. I said I knew people who had very little income and couldn't do anything about it due to ill-health etc, so I definitely wasn't going to buy into her sister's 'poverty'. I think she then realised I had a good point.

@Brunocatmon I think you sound like a great, loving parent who wants to support and be fair to her family while at the same time acknowledging the cost of having everyone at home. My dd thinks 300 is great compared to the rent she was paying and has indicated she might be here for some time😂

I think you’re a saint honestly Op, no way would I put up with this

@BeachLife2

when would be acceptable to have another adult contribute to the house they live in? If they earn 30k? 40k? 60k? 100k? Or should they never contribute and keep all their money to because they are your children and they didn’t ask to be born and that’s just what being a parent is all about?!

*larder cupboard.
no ladders allowed in bedrooms, that would be weird.

Mine pay £160 each and provide their own food, unless it’s a special occasion or we are all at a loose end and fancy a takeaway or bbq. Obviously, I don’t begrudge them a slice of bread for toast, a sprinkling of cheese for their Mac, use of my spices in their curry! they have a little fridge freezer and a small ladder in their (very large) room.
I realise with that smount of adults the above arrangement wouldn’t work but this ‘I pay for groceries apart from treats’ thing sounds like a recipe for disaster - one person’s treat is another person’s daily diet. What about wine? Is this Waitrose-style groceries or Lidl. Even a decent beef joint for a roast could be deemed a treat nowadays on cost alone. Who decides these things?

28k and living at home? You’re joking right!! That’s only £4k less than I earn and I’m supporting a teenager and two young adults. What a ridiculous statement.

@BeachLife2 even if a single parent earns less than £28k, ie NMW.
There seems to be a lot of people completely unaware of their privilege.
Personally, I think that adult children should contribute something towards their food etc if they are earning. Most of the amounts mentioned on this thread are token contributions and some parents cannot continue to support their adult children throughout adulthood. They should not be made to feel guilty for this, that is just my opinion though.

I don't have an issue with people saving their kids dig money but I do think there's an assumption now that it's the right thing to do, and that's an incredibly privilege viewpoint.

Do people really not understand the concept of household income? Do you not budget in your own home? Reminds me of the wankers on twitter who piled on a woman who said an issue with child benefit payments meant she'd missed her car insurance payment. If someone wants eat out on their household income there's nothing wrong with that.

As for charging children digs, any adult living in my house bringing in a full time wage will be contributing to household bills.

@CandyLeBonBon

In my view, no parent should be charging money to a DC earning only £28k unless there are exceptional circumstances.

‘Only’ earns £28k!! 😂😂😂😂

Sorry post in error

I don't think there are hard and fast rules on this. Parents should do what they need to do depending on income, space and so on.

Children can grow up to be frugal even when paying zero rent as they do across the world. That works ok for me. I dont feel anyone is taking advantage.

I have always called it 'housekeeping' as opposed to 'rent'. When DC lived at home I only charged them roughly how much it cost to keep them. That way I didn't notice a drop in income when they moved out.