Should I cancel the trip?

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Chick981 · 12/06/2025 05:47

I’ve booked on a whim to go abroad to an event in September. It means leaving my kids 2 and 5) for three nights, crucially during my eldest’s first week of year one (relevant as I’m worried about the reception to year one transition)

I’m really regretting booking it now and I keep worrying / feeling guilty about it in the night.

I’ve never been in a different country to my kids and never been away for three nights before so that plus the guilt around missing the first week of back to school is just making me regret it.

Wondering whether to suck it up and cancel it (I’d lose £140 for flights but could probably get a refund on event ticket) or put my big girl pants on and go ahead with it. If the flights were refundable I’d have cancelled my now but £140 is a lot of money to just waste!

Any reassurances either way welcome and yes I know I’m being over anxious/ over thinking.

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Littlemisscapable · 12/06/2025 06:13

Are you actually missing the first day ?

SunnyPugdays · 12/06/2025 06:11

They have two parents,it's absolutely fine to go .
And go you must
It's so important as a mother to not loose sight of who you are , because the years they need you are so small ,that if you don't do things for you when they then don't need you as much your lost as a person.

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Chick981 · 12/06/2025 06:00

Yes other parent will be at home with them. I guess I’ve just started to hear so much around how steep the jump is from reception to year one and that’s what’s worrying me, especially as my eldest is sensitive to change so has always struggled when moving nursery rooms, to pre school etc.

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ThatShyRoseViper · 12/06/2025 05:58

It all depends on who is taking charge of the children. The other parent? You could still go.

mumonthehill · 12/06/2025 05:58

Absolutely go. Your dc will be fine going into year 1 it is a far bigger deal for you than them, they will be just going back to school with their friends which will be exciting for them.

ZiggyPlaysGuitarrr · 12/06/2025 05:58

I wouldn't have any qualms about this at all, assuming DC are with their DF or GP. Do you have particular concerns about the new school year?

DeskJotter · 12/06/2025 05:55

I would absolutely go, this is a totally normal thing to do.

AmyDuPlantier · 12/06/2025 05:55

I wouldn’t miss my child’s first week of a new class, no, and I’m very pro having a life of my own 😁

Deerrobin · 12/06/2025 05:54

Who are the kids staying with? Assuming their other parent or another trusted, capable adult then go for it. Will your eldest being doing any ‘move up’ days for reception to year one this term?

Sosostressedandanxious · 12/06/2025 05:53

I certainly wouldn't go away at a crucial time in my child's life unless it was for something totally unavoidable.

Silvertulips · 12/06/2025 05:48

Are the kids home alone?

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