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To think Mumsnet is more vitriolic than it used to be?

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knowifIcando · 11/06/2025 20:41

Or has it always been really bad and my tolerance levels are decreasing?

I must have been using the site for almost 20 years. There have always been trolls and disagreements but it’s getting mad. You see a post asking if anyone can recommend a good white gloss paint and you are asked if your DH will be doing the painting, why you’re not married, accused of not protecting your financial future and offered contraception advice.

Or you post to say that you’re sick of the same packed lunches and what healthy options can you make instead. You’re asked why you weren’t making healthy choices to this point, quizzed over your BMI and it ends with being accused of neglecting your kids,

Is it actually getting worse or is it me?

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EagerLemonHiker · 11/06/2025 20:57

i agree it is much worse than it ever was. Posters just attack the OP to a ridiculous level, exactly as you describe. You have to stay off the beaten track to find the supportive environment which used to be the norm everywhere.

Cue the ‘not this again, get a thread like this every week’ etc responses ….

Riffraffunemployed · 11/06/2025 20:56

Been here on and off since 2012 and it’s a bit feisty these days. Makes me laugh!

Apparently forums will die out anyway! As we will just ask AI for advice (probably Mumsnet AI and the answers will be based on old threads like this!) 😁 - who knows though!

FruityCider · 11/06/2025 20:56

I think the world is more vitriolic than it used to be! The government and media is doing a really good job in convincing the general populace that marginalised communities of all sorts are the causes of problems.

OrangePineapple25 · 11/06/2025 20:54

There’s a lack of kindness and respect.

Some people seem incapable of discussing everything turns into an argument, like you say, usually about some erroneous detail that’s largely irrelevant to the post.

ThePhantomoftheEcobubbleOpera · 11/06/2025 20:54

It didn't get the moniker of a viper's nest when it was in its infancy because it was all rainbows and lollipops.

Persephoknee · 11/06/2025 20:53

I think it used to much funnier! People in here seem massively chippy and judgy now.

pictoosh · 11/06/2025 20:52

I don't know if it has got worse...I think I have changed and mellowed with age so the chippy-as-fuck posters seem ridiculous now. Just spoiling for a fight no matter what the topic.

LarkAscendings · 11/06/2025 20:49

It’s always been a bit like this, but recently there’s a breathtaking level of callousness often mixed with complete stupidity that has made it a lot worse.

MissConductUS · 11/06/2025 20:48

I've been here for eight years or so. I've noticed a drop off in some goady anti-American posts, and not much change in the standard arsey replies. Though I was told yesterday that I "was taken" when I posted what my kitchen remodel cost.

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