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To report what this colleague did?

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StrawberryFields2025 · 11/06/2025 18:27

I have recently started as an apprentice at a nursery. Today a child was wondering into a different room where they wasn’t meant to be. Instead of my colleague picking him up carefully or gently redirecting him, she grabbed and picked him up by one arm and walked with him like that with him off the ground quite a bit by one arm. This made him cry. Other colleagues found it funny but I didn’t.

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DwarfPalmetto · 11/06/2025 18:40

YANBU OP I don't know why so many posters are having a go at you.

Yes you need to report. Even when you are not sure, you should always report. The DSL will make a decision about what needs to be done.

SalmonDreams · 11/06/2025 18:40

Uggh the vipers are out again. Why is it so hard for some people to just answer a question without grabbing rhe chance to stick the boot in?

Op of course it's ok to ask and yes, you should report it. More than the grabbing I'd be horrified by the laughing. What kind of people find it funny when a child is upset? It sounds like a horrible place. Thanks for doing the right thing!!

ScurryfungeSpuddle · 11/06/2025 18:35

StrawberryFields2025 · 11/06/2025 18:34

Asking here for support as I’ve just started my first job here and everyone around that witnessed it just laughed it off.

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What does that have to do with it?

You either report or you don't.

And if you don't, you're definitely in the wrong job.

concreteschoolyard · 11/06/2025 18:35

It is ok for an apprentice to ask a question!! Sheesh. Stop blaming the OP, she is trying to do the right thing.

concreteschoolyard · 11/06/2025 18:34

That poor kid. Yes please report it. Obviously it’s cruel and inappropriate. Also because someone else might report it (even if they were laughing) and you’ll look complicit if you stay silent.

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StrawberryFields2025 · 11/06/2025 18:34

ScurryfungeSpuddle · 11/06/2025 18:32

Two very shocking things here.

  1. A nursery worker doing that to a child.
  2. An apprentice nursery worker needing to ask if they're unreasonable to report it.

Poor kid.

Asking here for support as I’ve just started my first job here and everyone around that witnessed it just laughed it off.

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JudithOnHolidayAgain · 11/06/2025 18:34

I'm shocked you even need to ask.
Of course you should report it!
Safeguarding is everyone's responsibility

ScurryfungeSpuddle · 11/06/2025 18:32

Two very shocking things here.

  1. A nursery worker doing that to a child.
  2. An apprentice nursery worker needing to ask if they're unreasonable to report it.

Poor kid.

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StrawberryFields2025 · 11/06/2025 18:32

I am posting here as everyone else who witnessed seemed to laugh it off. This made me think if she does this so easily in front of others, what would she do when alone

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Noshadowsinthedark · 11/06/2025 18:31

That’s horrific. Please do report, poor kid.

Newname71 · 11/06/2025 18:30

That’s a safeguarding issue and one you should definitely report. Poor child.

TheSlantedOwl · 11/06/2025 18:29

That’s not ok, she was rough with the child.

Merryoldgoat · 11/06/2025 18:28

Have you had your safeguarding training? If so what is the recommendation? If not you should not yet be working with the children.

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